I know I won't forget, but I have tried to forgive and move on. I don't think he has cheated again, but after about seven years, we are having other issues and I'm questioning if I'll ever be happy with him. Sometimes I think I just need to end the marriage and be happier without him. Also, I'm concerned about the example of marriage that we are showing our children.
2007-06-03 03:29:04 · 8 answers · asked by MNature 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband cheated on me a while ago, i forgave him and after about a year of off and on separation we are now together, he has changed, he doesn't even go out wtih his friends anymore, he comes home right after work and even calls me while he is on his lunch break, which most of the time he comes home with me and the kids lunch...he is a better husband than he ever has been...BUT..i still know how you feel, he's great, its me..i never really forgot, it eats away at my mind, although i did forgive, sometimes it'll just skim past my mind and i get sick to my stomach all over again, i think what we are really feeling and maybe wanting, is to start over with someone with a clean slate, i love my husband and i would never cheat on him, but sometimes i think it would be easier to just leave him and be with someone that i don't have those terrible memories of, but the truth is, if i can't get over it, then it doesn't matter who i'm with, i will always have that issue, so we need to work with ourselves first. They messed up, we forgave them, its up to us to solve the issue within. I would try getting counceling, for yourself, and then marriage if you feel its appropriate, stop putting your feelings to the side...good luck and i hope you get this resolved!
2007-06-03 04:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by o0okaylieo0o 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many women have forgiven there spouses and believe it or not some men have had to endure the same. But what you're still not looking at, is the thing that was missing in the first place. If you both can find it and fill it, you both will feel at ease with the "error". AND have a more fulfilling marriage. If not then decide on what you can and cannot live with. NO in betweens
2007-06-03 03:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If those other issues arose from a lack of respect and selfishness like the cheating did, then there's a good chance that he hasn't really changed at all. Ask yourself if that's where the other issues arise from, because then it is the same story different book cover.
2007-06-03 05:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is something that can NEVER be forgiven or forgotten..Once someone has cheated they have broken the bond of trust and let's face it Trust is everything in a marriage without trust you have nothing..
2007-06-03 03:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has cheated on me 3 times during our 18 years of marriage. I am still with him because I thought I still love him but when other issues (problems) arise apart from his unfaithfulness, I have the same thought like yours and I am still hanging on to it... may God give me the answer. Children are always our main concern, but I think women like us shouldn't be selfish to our own self. We are like candles, we burn our self just to give light to others. Just follow your heart... everyone deserve their own happiness.
2007-06-03 03:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by CT.BAJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was cheated on after 20 years ,, God help me but I will never forgive the pain he has caused me and my grandchildren for a slut.
2007-06-03 03:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i DID forgive my ex, but divorced him... he needs to sleep with others, and i need to have a faithful man!
2007-06-03 03:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no!!! i can never 4give a cheating LIAR!!!!
2007-06-03 03:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♪♥§♫Arizona Chick♫§♥♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋