One of my close female friends,highly educated,very attractive,married,3 settled children,in her 40s,with very good and satisfying life with her husband whom she adores,has a unique problem.
She met someone as e-mail friend,met him and his wife once casualy and has fallen in love with him.He is not handsome nor rich,is married with 3 settled children .She is perfect in her home and office duties and a very loving wife ,mother.Also has a wide circle of friends-female and male,who admire and respect and love her.
2007-06-03 00:38:54 · 17 answers · asked by honey trickle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would like to make it clear that she has not been having any physical relations with him.It is a long distance e-mail affair.I wonder if she would be ready for physical relations if he asked.I rather think she wont.
2007-06-04 22:04:07 · update #1
This is a perfect example of the saying “Love is blind." Now as far doing anything is concerned she should mind her age, family & other social contacts/relationships rather then becoming Juliet at this age & situation to this Mr. Romeo. Well friendship can take place in any age with anyone but when a person is involved with a family his or her first priority is for the family & not all these fancy love relationship. At this age of 48+ myself meet so many ladies online & in person, start liking them even but this doesn’t mean I'll leave my family & roam around them as Romeo as this fellow is doing even with his well settled children he should mind his sense of responsibility more rather whatever he's doing with this lady, its really shameful. The same I'll say for this lady. To be good friends is good thing & its even better when such friendship is family friendship where both families sit together & share their experiences with each other, indulging in any such love affair or even I'll say if happens sex relationship is not at all healthy & good feature in such friendship. Sorry to say all this, but it’s my personal opinion & any one has right to differ with me.
2007-06-03 01:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is hardly rationale. A princess falls in love with a pauper (in stories and films mostly). So its better not to try and explain your friend's behaviour.
She would do far better to put a full stop on the new relationship so as not to unsettle her life's equilibrium and family peace. Aparently she has no reason to go for another relationship.
2007-06-03 10:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just goes to prove that you never know what goes on behind closed doors.
You've been looking from the outside, in.
She wouldn't be in this situation if she was satisfied at home. Something is missing in her life and shes trying to fill the void.
2007-06-03 19:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sistuation seems like she has missing in her life,its like we never eat outside if we have enough meal at home
the guy just filled the place of her missing its not exactly love it just effection,if you are true friend of her talk to her husband in very lighly way about her schdules work stress and all day routine nad make her husband to understand that she is kind of tired and not getting chance to do other activities and by this way her husband help her to be out of this sistuation by giving her good time and keep her busy with him
2007-06-03 13:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by rahila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no logic to explain what a woman does. Many women look at the emptiness of her 95% full glass and not on how full. That's what usually triggers a woman to succumb to her "emotions" because she cannot explain things herself.
2007-06-03 07:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him!!! This is not love. She is addicted to a feeling of newness or of thinking about falling in love. She needs to take a good look at what she has and remember how much it means to her. I lost my husband. It hurts....bad. Tell her not to take this chance. Not online, not in person and not in her mind. It's all wrong and she'll regret it.
2007-06-03 08:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of the God that descended to earth? Not to help his devotees but rather he was bored of his immortality.
He was so bored living a life that was so predictable. Every one knew he was there and will be there. Everybody knew his modulus operandi. Every one knew him and that was so boring. For when he became a god, he was experimenting, learning things. Making mistakes. But then his life was not monotonous. He felt ALIVE.
Now in his this role, he feels like dead. Nothing changing.....
So he took the risk. He left his immortality and went to accept a life. it was not immortality he was not afraid of but the tempt to feel life again led him to this........
We all see such gods in our day to day life. Believe me, when you described this girl of yours, the first though tht struck my mind was, what a boring life!!!!!!!!!
Everything is predictable about this person. And she was missing some thing in her life. So it is not the person whom she has fallen in love with but with the thrill of feeling herself alive. I understand you would say that I am talking in her favor but before approaching her I think u shud know what is she feeling and why she did this.
Perfect was never what we wanted our lives to be. Atleast not for me and people around me. She has fallen for her feelings to feel like she felt when she was teenager.
This shows that she is not like the rest 20% of people who are leading a perfect life and are sate. She neither is like the rest of 50 % of people who work on there daily monotonous life but never work on their monotony. Fall for traps on impulse when adversities strike.
So the light is there just the path needs to be re-worked. She has the right to live her life, just she needs to talk to herself on her choices. I say never do a work in your present which you would not be able to stand in future, when the past re-reconciles with your then present.
my best wishes to her...........
2007-06-03 13:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should follow her heart. if she wants to leave the good life for herself and her love then let her but if she is leaving she is going to break the heart of many people. do what she wants to do best. hope that this email helps.
2007-06-03 10:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by MOMO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is blind!! but not she at her age maturity needs to be exercised, she will be just ruining her happy life, she & her husband must go on a short vacation to revitalise their relationship
2007-06-04 09:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by stanley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know how good she's got it. Lose contact with this guy, and leave well enough alone... he's not worth the hassle.
2007-06-03 07:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋