For a friend -
Her boyfriend always verbally abuses her when she goofs up and uses bad words like bit ch, s lut, hoe, when she messes up ...
Its a long distance relationship, so when she calls up when he is in a meeting or
when he is with his dad
he ends up ranting these list of words... that now she finds it normal... she cries and then he calls later they talk and murmur words of love and then they make up.
Is this okay for her? BTW, she is a nice indian girl, very sensitive, pretty, earning a hell of a lot of money in fact more than him, she meets all the happening people, very good girl, cooks well, is very homely.. never slept with a soul and always kept herself for one man...
Does she keep taking this boyfriend of hers, verbal abuses?
2007-06-02 22:41:21 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Even the ocean have boundaries. She is saving her self for that special man,
Well he isn't it, He is a counterfeit, .
who ah He better be glad that wasn't one of my gurls he talked too like that,,,,,,,,
Get her these two wonderful books and you read them two.
Boundaries in dating by John ma cloud and loving smart by Dr.phil. Two of the best three books you will ever read in your life.
I don not tolerate disrespect. I am a lady but yet I am strong.
There is worse things than not having a boyfriend for a season. It is being with loser and being hurt. It will properly get worse and not better,
Stressful relationships drain vitality self respect,self esteem and happiness till you are a hollow shell.
You got to turn lose the bad to receive the good,
Shut that door and receive the good that God has for you.Love smart.
God gives you a choice. we are not robots. You only live once. Don't squander your special self on a loser.!
2007-06-02 23:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by tennessee 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
One must never endure physcial or verbal abuse at any level One must have the respect and self confidence in themselves not to tolerate it The more one stands up for ones self the less this will happpen She should not tolerate his behavior and simply hang up when he acts like that Better yet never pick up the phone when he calls Meanwhile your friend sounds like her only problem is a trash mouth some times Help her clean up her habit of swearing My friend did it by replaceing swear words with food groups For instance the f word is fudge the b word is biscuits go to hell is take a fire walk B word beach this list does on She no longer swears but talks about food
2016-05-19 23:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not deserve this and this abuse even tho only verbal at this point in time will become worse as time goes on. If you try to break them up and don't succeed YOU will be the one at the losing end. Yes she will too, but you will most likely lose a friend. I think you need to be there for her at ANYTIME. And tell her this. Make her aware that abuse starts out as verbal and over time it can become physical and or mental. Abuse IS a form of control over the other person. Be there for her.
2007-06-02 22:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good morning there to answer your question no , no abuse is OK , tell your friend that is a singe of who this person is , first it's verbal then the hitting , at this point in the relationship it's time to put an end to it , if he is doing this and it is a long distant relationship , i will hate to see what he will do if they are to live together . there are many ways to talk to her with out been verbal abusive .
SO TELL HER TO END NOW BEFORE SHE GET HURT PHYSICALLY .
2007-06-02 22:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by wesley e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be that this is actually what she subconsciously wants in a man (I have seen this with nice girls). Some people just like to be abused. In any case, you can talk to her about it but it is her relationship so don't get too involved. She can probably do better but what is to say she won't pick another guy who will do this. Note: the guy may just be doing this because he has picked up on the fact that your friend is a masochistic freak. The end.
2007-06-02 22:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not right for the guy to speak such language to her...
if a guy really loves you... he would care for you rather den speaking vulgarities...
words of love just blind her... making up so wad ?
whats the point of getting upset over and over and making up... its very tiring and no point...
leave the guy... your friend is such a nice girl... any other would want her... besides... this long distance relationship should not last.. who knows if the guy cheated on her... she's rich as you says... some guys are just so descipicable..
if you know a guy not good for her... tell her to let go... explain... if she dont listen... she'll have to pay for a lesson... thats the price of not listening to advice..
2007-06-02 22:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by Daydream 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOOOO it is never ok for someone to be verbally abusive to someone else. I don't care what her attributes are, there is no reason for anyone to tolerate that behavior. Generally, it only gets worse....she should tell him not to call her anymore and she should hang up if he does....She should also be very careful of him....
2007-06-02 22:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by dianehaslegs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This can only be answered with a huge, capital, in bold and underlined....NO!
you tell your friend to move on, otherwise she will believe that's the way blokes work and she'll be stuck with the wrong one. I'm sure you know the rights n wrongs of behavior.
2007-06-02 22:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, No. If she wants to be respected then maybe she should give him a taste of his own medicine. Who likes to be treated that way, No one I think. Tell her, there are men out there who will respect her and treat her better. Hope she doesn't have a low self esteem. This relationship is unhealthy.
2007-06-02 22:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by socal29 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its never ok for anyone to talk to someone like that b/f, g/f bff or whatever. It will only get worse with time if the person allows this to happen.
2007-06-02 22:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by arcangel2271 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋