I've meet this really nice guy. He is really sweet and kind. I haven't had anyone who listens like him.
My problem is well I noticed on our first official date that one of his hands was kinda shaking a tad. I've really opened up to him but he hasn't shared much with me. Kinda like a brick wall. He says he really likes me but he didn't even walk me to my car at first. Just gave a quick hug and left. We have been hanging out and talking awhile now. He doesn't seem to hang out with anyone. He says his old friends are into drugs or got better jobs out of state and works like 46-63 hours a week. Two jobs, one part time one full time. I try and look him in the eyes for him to kiss me but he either continues watching the movie or when I comb my finger through his hair he just asks if he has something in his hair. Should I just leave this guy? I just don't understand him. Does this guy have issues?
2007-06-02 19:27:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe your expectations are to high? He might have a nervous disorder or just nervous around women , As for sharing his feelings he might not be ready to share some his very personal life experiences and you shoudn't expect him to share, it is up to the individual if they feel comfortable in sharing give him a chance. He might be the type that likes to take things slow and get to know you first. He might be a loner, he could have low-self esteem. Try talking to him about what you are feeling and see where that leads the relationship. All the best : ) You might be wanting to move to quick?
2007-06-02 20:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree.
If he is working 63 hours a week and still makes time to see you he definitely likes you more than a friend. He probably got burned pretty bad before and doesn't want to move to fast. I don't know how long you guys have been together (what a while means) but chances are he just wants to move slow and get to know you before entering into an intimate relationship.
The hair thing sounds like he's just trying to flirt, but he's not exactly good at it. :o)
2007-06-03 03:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by Cherry Darling 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sonuds to me like he's either not that intrested or he's inexperenced with women. He may be afraid that he will screw the whole thing up. If you really like him make a move on him and lead him as far as you want the physical intercorse to go.I don't mean just kiss him ,unless that's as far as u want it to go, then grab his hand and run it where you want it to go. If he doesn't get the idea then, there's something really wrong. If he does then he may open up.
2007-06-03 02:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by shark81s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say about him he sounds like me. I would say don't leave him he probably is deeply in love with you, he just doesn't know what to do and views himself in such a way that he thinks you don't care about him. I have had a good deal of girls show interest in me but because I view myself so badly I often believe they are just making fun of me or trying to play a joke on me. I even have this friend that I have been friends with for a few and I'm just beginning to believe that she actually wants to be around me. With the kissing and hair stuff he probably is just inexperienced because he's hated himself so much that he hasn't been in many real relationships and is extremely afraid of screwing up and losing you. If he is the same way I am he probably obsseses about things and is afraid people will really really over-react to what he does. He may think that because he doesn't kiss well or doesn't know how to react when you put fingers through his hair that you will want to leave him. As for the shaking that probably just means he is really nervous, I remember in 8th grade this girl who was extremely attractive used to talk to me, and every time we talked my neck would tense up and I would start to shake. It eventually went away though, so it'll probably go away with him too. Also don't worry about the drug addict friends, when you don't view yourself as worth anything you're afraid people with leave you. When you think like that you tend to go for the girls that feel unloved so you will fill that gap in their life and have them want to never leave you. Pretty much what I'm trying to say is stay with him because he is probably into you.
Also I apologize if the information is too scattered for you to understand my mind tends to go very fast from thought to thought.
2007-06-03 03:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Derek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has issues. Maybe he is conflicted about the 'relationship.' Doesn't know how close he wants it to get. Or maybe he feels unwanted and even though you show him he deserves attention and is a good person, he doesn't believe it himself.
2007-06-03 02:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by holacarinados 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks of you as a friend
Or he's lost and is trying not to crash and burn by doing the wrong things.
2007-06-03 02:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just doesnt seem like a relationship kind of guy
or maybe he is shy
2007-06-03 02:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋