Im having a hard time wanting to make love to my husband. I work every day of the week and yes Im stressed and tired but I have no desire to be intiment with him at all. It has nothing to do with wanting to be with any one else I have no sexual feeling for any one other than him. What do I do??? It is causing problems. Is it something medical or what. I need Help
2007-06-02 17:47:14 · 15 answers · asked by stewylee_53_justme 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It's normal. Frustrating and stressful, but normal. Does he tell you he loves you? Does he show his affection in non-sexual ways that help you feel valued and loved? Sometimes when I'm feeling like a piece of the furniture rather than a valued and loved woman I get like that, and nothing makes "IT" happen. If it keeps up maybe you should talk to your doctor.
I hope things get better for you soon!
2007-06-02 17:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes medication can kill sex drive, in particular anti-depressants. If that's the case, asking for a alternate medication for your next refill (explaining the situation to your doctor) might help.
Otherwise, maybe it's just time to re-evaluate your work life. Downscale your house or sell an expensive car. Since finances are such a big thing for couple stress, going on the something like the Dave Ramsey Total Money Makeover has helped the mental state for lots of people (not a plug to buy stuff, check your local library).
At the very least, clue him in on what's going on with you. Speak directly. Guys can have a hard time translating emotional speech.
2007-06-02 17:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by deekayen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are tons of reasons your libido isn't working correctly.
Some are caused by stress, overwork, sleep deprivation, hormonal imbalance, problems with your marriage. This one is a tough one because it involves sitting down with your husband and hashing over the rough spots in your marriage and making changes that may be difficult for both of you. My suggestion is to make an appt. with your doctor and rule out any physical or hormonal problems that could be causing this. Then sit down with the doctor and open up and tell her/him exactly whats going on in your life on a day to day basis. This will give doc a better basis from which to decide how to treat your problems. Good Luck
LL
2007-06-02 17:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by LeapingLizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a long weekend off from work and go somewhere nice and romantic. It may just be the pressures of life that are getting to you.
A change of pace and scenery should help you. Try to find a nice place that is not too far away. Leave early on Friday and come back Sunday night.
2007-06-02 17:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just age. Women kind of go through slumps like that with sex. Normally a woman hits her sexual peak around 30 - 35...It's just natural and nothing to do with your love for him. If it's affecting your relationship find some thing to get you into it again. Sometimes, we don't know we want it until he's messing with us or we're in foreplay. Allow him to start something..you might get into it. Or you could try something new. Go to a sex store and buy some toys, or try doing it in the car or a public place. Things like that spark new things for us married people. Read cosmo..they have great tips.
2007-06-02 17:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your just stressed! Try taking a day off and going to the spa. Then when your hubby gets home you should be way more relaxed! Or try having both of you take a day off to spend together. If that doesn't work then go see your ob/gyn. It could just be that you have a low sex drive. That can be fixed with hormones. If you want, just go straight to the obn/gyn. Trust me, it will be worh it.
2007-06-02 17:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i am no expert on the married life but i do know that it is hurting your relationship by not being intimate with your husband. He probably feels like you are not attracted to him anymore or maybe he assumes you are cheating on him. How long has it been since you guys made love last?? If i was you i would talk to him about this issue and try to resolve it somehow or he might find that intimacy elseware. i know you said that you were tired in all but they do have medicine that increases your sex drive
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2007-06-02 17:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should exercise your self. If you're somehow overweight, that might be a reason. Try juggling or anything for cardio. Avoid alcohol. Have 400 to 800 IU of vitamin E everyday for 1 month. Eat more onion.
2007-06-02 17:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Rölf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No...it's normal... when I stress sex is the last thing in my mind..then the problems start..."why wont you have sex with me...who are you givin' it to....you dont love me nomore.." and so on....I feel bad and I use to force myself..but it wasnt the same....Try taking a shot or two, or wine a beer...They take the stress away and help you feel more freaky... you dont need to get drunk , but a drink or two helps you relax...try it you dont have nothin to lose.
2007-06-02 17:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by Reyna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. does that mean that every women on the face of this planet should be having sexual desires about makiing love to someone? If not, then you are totally normal.
2007-06-02 17:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋