I went to a wedding tonight and feel guilty because I really wanted to drink. Since I am pregnant, I didn't drink. However, I feel so guilty that I was upset that I couldn't drink. I should just be happy that God allowed me to get pregnant. Anyone else ever feel this way?
2007-06-02 17:10:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You shouldnt feel guilty! You didnt drink and resisted the urge you should feel proud!!
I understand why you would feel guilty but from an outsiders view I think you should be proud of yourself for doing what you knew was good for you and your baby!
Good job! and Congrats about your pregnancy
2007-06-02 17:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sarah♥ 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Instead of feeling guilty be proud that you didn't drink. The newest research shows even the slightest amount of alcohol can have an impact. It's normal to wish you could celebrate with a drink or two, but you didn't and that is the most important part. Relax, feeling sensitive to certain emotions is just part of being pregnant!
2007-06-02 17:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is normal, and also hormonal. The thing is your body is changing, as will many other things about you. In a sense, when you become pregnant you change and grow as a person just as your baby changes and grows in the womb. Think of this time as the death of your old life, but the birth of a new one. It's not really death, eventually you will be able to drink again ect. But being a mother you will have many more responsibilities, and drinking wont be a priority.
2007-06-02 17:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And I was pregnant on my twenty-first birthday. The doctor finally fessed up that it's wasn't going to kill, hurt or maim my child if I had a beer for my birthday. He said it is the women who are alcoholics before-hand, during and after, that they just advise everyone who gets pregnant to not. Think of how many kids born in the fifties and sixties turned out okay and so many of their housewife mothers drank to ease the boredom of being stuck in a rut at home. Don't feel guilty, just ask your doctor's permission next time you have a wedding or other big celebration to go to and you're pregnant. I'm fairly certain the doctor will agree that you can at least participate in the champagne toast. You aren't going to hell for wanting something you'd better not have. If God thinks it's time to bless you with a child, he probably isn't going to ruin it.
2007-06-02 17:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by blue25tulip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty! Being pregnant is a wonderful blessing and a great reason to not drink if you can't! Don't worry about it, be happy and proud! I think anyone would understand you not drinking.
2007-06-02 17:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by steffers27 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth feeling guilty about - you'll be over it by tomorrow most likely! It's hard when you're in a social situation where you would normally have a drink, and you can't. Congratulations on your pregnancy, and on making the sacrifices you do to take care of your baby. Enjoy it!
2007-06-02 17:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lacta-intactivist Mama! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be beating yourself up... You made the right decision to not drink... you done the right thing so why feel guilty??? i would compliment myself for not drinking.. some women don't care what they do while they are pregnant... at least you do.. and you are taking care of yourself and the baby... Your on the first stages of being a great mother!!! congrats and good luck!!
2007-06-02 17:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by isaiahsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes I feel unhappy (not guilty) because I can't eat so many foods that others can eat (i suffer from GERD). But in general, I have adjusted and am grateful to God for allowing me to eat some foods still and survive fairly well and contribute my knowledge and wisdom to society.
So, I would say you can feel unhappy but should not feel guilty. In fact, you should feel guilty if you took drink when you should not. So, accept my compliments for your good resolve.
Best wishes to you and yours.
2007-06-02 17:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty. The only cravings I had while pregnant were beer, whine, and cigarettes! Luckily, I had the common sense to NOT do those things... but I still wanted them. Don't feel guilty. It's only natural to want what you can't have ;)
2007-06-02 17:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, its one of many sacrifices that you will be making for the rest of your life for that wonderful child. Its only 9 months and your probably already counting down. I gave up expresso mochas, booze, cigarretts, my perfect 6 pack abs, my tight hoo haa, my ability to party all night long and chase bad men, my ability to spend all my money on myself, and my sound sleep, all for my now cranky, hormonal, smelly, wonderful son that makes me proud with his straight A grades and his ability to grow into a better person than I was. Your allowed to be selfish and grumpy about all your giving up, but hang on, once you deliver, have your man bring you a tall cold on and enjoy, just not it your breastfeeding. Its ok, dont feel guilty.
2007-06-02 17:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋