Im only 16 yrs old and im pregnant. My boyfriend is going to be there for me 100%. And my parents are giving me a choice if i want to keep it or not. Im way too young and Im not sure if i can take care of a baby. I still have my hole life ahead of me. But then I think about how wrong it is. Id be killing my own baby. Im so stuck between the two. I need Serious HELP!
2007-06-02 16:50:36 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
kudos for being brave enough to post this question. i really think you should talk if over with your boyfriend. if you think abortion is wrong then SERIOUSLY look at adoption...there are so many couples looking to give babies a loving home and YOU could provide that...you can also look into open adoption which means you can stay involved in the baby's life.
GOOD LUCK!!! and stay strong!!
2007-06-02 17:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by mender_bender2001 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you can now leave your baby at the hosptial and they will find a home for it dont aport keep the baby or give it up for addoption. They also have open addoption so you can be there and know your child to.
I saw this some where before read this down here..
Mommy
I am only 8 inches long
but I have all my organs.
I love the sound of your voice.
Every time I hear it
I wave my arms and legs.
The sound of your heart beat
is my favorite lullaby.
Month Two
Mommy
today I learned how to suck my thumb.
If you could see me
you could definitely tell that I am a baby.
I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though.
It is so nice and warm in here.
Month Three
You know what Mommy
I'm a boy!!
I hope that makes you happy.
I always want you to be happy.
I don't like it when you cry.
You sound so sad.
It makes me sad too
and I cry with you even though
you can't hear me.
Month Four
Mommy
my hair is starting to grow.
It is very short and fine
but I will have a lot of it.
I spend a lot of my time exercising.
I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes
and stretch my arms and legs.
I am becoming quite good at it too.
Month Five
You went to the doctor today.
Mommy, he lied to you.
He said that I'm not a baby.
I am a baby Mommy, your baby.
I think and feel.
Mommy, what's abortion?
Month Six
I can hear that doctor again.
I don't like him.
He seems cold and heartless.
Something is intruding my home.
The doctor called it a needle.
Mommy what is it? It burns!
Please make him stop!
I can't get away from it!
Mommy! HELP me!
Month Seven
Mommy
I am okay.
I am in Jesus's arms.
He is holding me.
He told me about abortion.
Why didn't you want me Mommy?
Every Abortion Is Just . . .
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.
2007-06-02 17:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by everyxthing 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yeah you do have your whole life ahead of you. You should have the baby. I regret not having my first baby. and it's been 5 years trust me you don't want to make the same mistake I did. Why don't you just have the baby and give the baby up for adoption. It's your best option. Then maybe one day when you are older you can go and see him or her. It's your choice and I hope you make the right one whatever that may be.
2007-06-02 17:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by cisnerosjazmin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to keep tha baby then give it up for adoption, There are several couples who cannot have children and would love your baby and take the best care of it! There is no need to kill an innocent baby!
I am glad you were able to tell your parents!
You are right you are young, and you do have your whole life ahead of you, but even with a baby you can still live it, you can still finish highschool and college, and be successful. I had my first at 19 and was still able to finish college. I now have a beautiful family and am successful....Plus when my kids are grown up, I'll still be young enough to ENJOY my golden years and be a young grandmother!
2007-06-02 17:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is a choice that is totally up to you. you should never let anyone guilt you into making a choice you will regret later. that being said, you need to really think about this. you need to sort of look ahead and realize wheather or not you will later come to regret your choice. if you think you might, you do have other options rather than abortion. you could give the baby up for adoption. you could have an open adoption, too. i have a friend who was prego at your age and did the open adoption with her child. she dosn't regret her decision at all, still talks to and recieves pictures from her son, and he also knows just who she is and that she gave him up because she couldn't take care of him.
no matter what decision you make, don't let people and their ignorant opinions get to you. in the end, it is your body, and your choice.
good luck to you. i hope things work out for the best. :0)
2007-06-02 16:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Erin J 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are too young. In high school I had 3 friends who got pregnant. One chose to have an abortion. She regretted it immediately. After that, every time she saw a baby she cried. Two years later, she would see a two year old and be reminded of the child she should have had. Two had their babies. One married the father and is still married to him 10 years later and they are doing fine. The third had the baby but the father was a bum. She lived with her parents for awhile, then got a job and her own place and eventually married another guy we went to high school with, who takes great care of her. 16 is young in our culture, but women in some parts of the world commonly have children this young. It sounds like you have a great support system. You can do it!
2007-06-02 17:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Bertha B 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do what feels right in your heart. The bottom line is that you are the Mom you will have 99 % of the work and 110% of the worry. Go to your school councelor and ask her to connect you with another Mother your age who kept her baby and get her view. Get as much info from the web on emotional after effects of an abortion.
Bottom line this is a very big grown up decision that you and only you can make.
I was 19 when I had my first so if you want my experience please feel free to email me anytime with any questions......
2007-06-02 16:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had mine when I was 17, and I was all set to have an abortion, but changed my mind last minute, and although I'm young and it takes a while to adjust, I don't regret my decision for a second, I would never forgive myself if I had gone through with it.
Seeing my son smile and call out mum mum when I come home, cuddle up for hugs and the look of love in his eyes makes everything worth it.
I read the poem that everyxthing posted above, I'm still crying.
2007-06-02 17:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it comes down to your own decision. Another thing you can do is have an open adoption to where a couple would raise your child but you could still be part of the child's life. But if your boyfriend is willing to support you then I don't see why you couldn't keep the baby.
2007-06-02 16:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by kevklosky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your looking for an easy fix, hate to break it to you but your "easy fix" was to not have sex, or wear protection.
No matter what choice you make after this wont be easy.
Abortion just kills an innocent life, it doesnt make it go away, because for the rest of your life, you always think about - What would my child look like? Or when you see any babies your going to automatically think about the one you gave up.
Adoption is nice, but it doesnt solve the emotional attachment you will have between the baby during your pregnancy.
My choice, which really was my choice because I'm pregnant now and only 17, was to keep it. I know its going to be hard, but I'd rather have a hard life for myself, to give the mistake I made a chance to live. And I'm making the best of it.
2007-06-02 17:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by PAYlURTACK* 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋