I need some advice?

Question

I have tired to make friends for the last 5 years. But i never i make friends with good people. People these days are insensitive and flaky. They are also flaky and tend to lie. I cant make friends because im always let down. My question is. How can i train myself to deal with being alone. Or train myself NOT to desire or need the company of other people. Because i can go a day or so...and then i give in and end up calling the people that hurt me are basicly no good for me. I just need the strength to walk away from everyone. I dont have family. And im use that. but trying to make friends i always try and hope for the best. But i never get anywhere. Why are people so hard headed..why are people so evil? I just want a friend i can call "best-friend" that person that cares and is there thru thick and thin. Im in tears as i write this. My heart hurts. I need to let go of humans. So please help me figure out how to let go of humans.

Its people like me that end up committing suicide because we run out of options and hope. And i dont want to go down that rout. I just want to let go of that need for human contact. help me

Answer 1

I don't think you should let go of it, because despite how all the people you're meeting now might be, there are decent people still left in this world. What happens when you meet one of them and you've shut yourself off? By suppressing your natural instincts you'll needlessly miss out on what you really are wired to want. Though you've hit a rough patch now, that doesn't mean your whole life will be like this. Survive this part of your life, and don't give up hope, because I think the day will come when you'll make real friends and be happy you didn't close yourself off.

Answer 2

Maybe your trying too hard and it's leading you to all the wrong people. You don't have to "train" yourself to be alone, everybody needs the company of others, but true friendship takes time!! If the friends you have now keep letting you down then it's time to move on... not everybody is evil and hard headed, there are good people still out there!! Just be yourself and don't make it so obvious... that probably freaks people out!! Now wipe those tears, brush yourself off, and pick yourself up... get out there and meet some new people!! Your so called buddies are only bringing you down.. Good Luck To Ya!!

Answer 3

You sound depressed, and may want to talk to a professional. Depression can be a serious disease, I have had times with it myself. As for the people issue; get a puppy. I am not joking, I got a puppy and I am so much happier! We go walking, she helps to get me out of the house (very important for depressed individuals). I adopted her from a local shelter. I know things can be hard, but they get better. Do you keep looking for friends in the same kinds of places? Maybe take an evening class at a local college in a subject that interests you (Maybe art or something), you may be able to meet people who are interested in things that you are. Check out a local bookstore or coffee shop, or join a club that interests you. There are also many books available to help you overcome depression, and find out what makes you happy. Good luck, you will be okay. :)

Answer 4

Have you looked at some groups that are interested in the same things that you are as in hobby groups? I'd suggest church, but people seem to get really bent out of shape about that and some people are just not interested. It might help to just quietly join a group and let people come to you instead of you seeking them out. Some one may like the fact that you have certain traits. In that way you have common interests and can build a friendship from there. Of course, this is not going to work if your hobby is hanging out in bars or such. It is hard to learn that you can be alone without being lonely and it is something that you really need to learn for yourself.

Answer 5

shucks, i have no friends either, but i am very happy in my own company, and i dont really feel the need for friends.
perhaps you are trying to hard and to fast. good friends happen over years ! i also think you are looking in the wrong place for them.
i dont know your age or what you do, but might i suggest volunteering time with children? they are the only ones who tell truths always, even if it isnt good.
i feel that you arent happy with yourself, hun. that is the first and hardest step. you dont need others to make you whole. you are fantastic as you are! if you love yourself in a positive way, good peole will come to you.
i dont know all of the details, but not everyone is evil!
be a good person (do good things, love god)and good things will come to you.