Dear reality, i guess its about time to stop following dreams and start being realistic?

Question

I am 20 years old. I am a soph in a pretigious, ivy league college. I am majoring in bussiness and am at the top of my class. I am supposed to go to law school after everything, because in my family I am aloud to be a doctor or a lawyer.

I have been an aspiring musician my entire life and could sing better before i could talk. I had the luxury of being in some shows here and there and took vocal lessons till i was a senior in high school and at the time i was auditioning for college conservatories. I sadly was informed that i was suffering for a 50% hearing loss and no conservatory would le tme in as a performance major.

All i have ever wanted to do is perform. All i ever envisioned myself was on stage.
Reality is hitting me because i have to start looking for a future occupation. I am broken. I havent trained in 2 years and i my voice has lost its strength and whenever i try to get into dance classes they are filled with girls who have been dancing for yrs. and they put me down

constantly and i stopped attending the classes. Nothing i do seems good enough because I lost two years. I have forever, wanted to go to NYC and audition for broadway but because i have gone two years without instructiion i feel as if i will be worse off. its time i throw the towl in.... i just have the worst time thinking about it and letting go of all the dreams i spent nights thinking about....

Answer 1

Whyever would you shelve your dreams, except temporarily?

You have 2 more years of college, then 3 of law school.

Then you can sue anyone who puts you down in dance class!!!

Just start voice training classes, and get into a dance class. Majoring in business is not such a rough major as I understand it. Thus, you have time for a voice lesson weekly or whatever and dance class. So you are a little out of shape. So? You planning to die soon? If not, then slowly get back into shape, voice and legs.

With your passion, you should be in great shape by 5 years from now when you can really get going. And what about summers? CAn't you dance and sing in the summers?

Forget about those other girls. They won't have the law degree. I know, I know--you would rather dance. Just gradually get back to where you were. And move promptly thru your academic pursuits so that you can get a move on with the dance and singing and do law work part-time when you graduate from law school.

How wonderful that you have a passion. Now go put in the time and get started on pursuing in, first part time and then full time. Remember Beethoven, he composed even though he was stone deaf!

Answer 2

I'm an ex-Republican too, and proportion your frustrations, however calling the competition traitors is absurd. Who makes a decision if competition is treason? A lot of the severe correct believe we're traitors. If your proposal is taken to its logical end, the celebration in energy can harass, prosecute, and prison people who stand of their means. Do you particularly wish to open that Pandora's Box? The Republicans threw the treason cost round plenty at people who adversarial the Iraq warfare. Why sink to that stage? Opposition to Obama isn't treason. It's democracy. Just as Democratic competition to Boy George used to be. That does now not imply I am excusing hyper-partisanship. But the excesses can simplest be fought on the pollbox. Democracy needs the unfastened trade of strategies. That can get messy. But the method is self-correcting. If the Republicans over play their hand, it's going to come again and chunk them in long run elections. Any different answer is a step closer to dictatorship.

Answer 3

If you have so much doubt about being a preformer then maybe that is not what you want. Your spelling indicates that law or medicine are not necessarily for you.

However, you do not need to choose an occupation you need to either find further study or get a job. A job is a mechanism by which to earn money. Hopefully you will be lucky enough to find a job you like.

Answer 4

A top of the class Ivy Leaguer who doesn't know how to spell "towel", "allowed" or "business." I think that being a performer is not your only fantasy.

And that is quite sad. Probably you need counseling. Why not make a choice to get help before your current fantasy life turns into a serious depression and becomes life threatening.

Life is tough enough without deliberately, consciously pretending to yourself about who you are. See a counselor.

Good luck.