Is it necessary to not have two strong characters as a couple?

Question

Sometimes i hear people saying that couple should have enough things in common and sometimes i hear that two people of different nature can and do live happy as a couple. What is your opinion on this. Is there anything like this or it does not matter as long as couple are attracted to each other.

Answer 1

It's not great for one to be weak--then there would be the chance of the other walking all over him or her. If two people respect each other's individuality, enjoy spending time together, know how to compromise, etc. it can work out very well--even in a marriage.

Answer 2

The goal is the right blend. Remember "vive la difference!"

My best examples are my parents' marriage and my own. My parents had a FABULOUSLY SUCCESSFUL marriage, yet they were quite different. My husband and I, also in a successful marriage, are much the same in many respects.

I think the underlying feature is shared values. We respect the same things and thus each other. For example, mu husband and I are not acquisitive and much prefer to read a book than to go shopping. Then we talk about our reading and what we've learned rather than watch a lot of TV. Much better for both of us.

By contrast, my parents, so different, found joy in creating nice opportunities for each other. My dad, the outdoorsman, got his chances to explore and hike. My mom, the reader and poet, got to spend time doing what she liked. They took great pleasure in making the other chances to enjoy their different pursuits.

Answer 3

I definitely think it is about the 2 people involved and their particular personalities. My wife and I are both strong personality types and we get along great. I also know that other couples can be opposites and have a good relationship. I don't think there's a particular formula that works for every couple. It really is about the people and their personalities and how much they are willing to give to the relationship..

Answer 4

A couple should have some things that they enjoy doing together, but you can't do everything together, you would suffocate each other. My husband and I have common interests like motorcycle riding, gardening, watching action movies. But we have interests separate from each other. I love to read, he can't sit still long enough to read. He plays guitar and banjo, I like the music, but can't put two notes together. I enjoy doing pencil puzzles, he can't see the point to them. So, we do some things together and some things by ourselves. It makes for a good marriage and companionship.

Answer 5

I think if you get two people who are exactly alike and put them together then after a while things will get boring. But if you put two different people together then they can even each other out and introduce each other to new things.