my pet died and i am feeling horrible!?

Question

my pet just recently died and i am really sad about it and the wosrt part is i watched her die. i have nightmares almost every night about her death and cry every night. i miss her so much and love her. how long will i keep crying? my friends are getting suspicious and i dont want to tell them. i dont want to bring them down too.

Answer 1

Loosing a pet is certainly a tragedy, and it is nothing you should hide or try to take on yourself. Talk to your friends, I am sure that they would be there for you! Remember she is in a good place, watching over you and she does not want you to be sad. Maybe this poem will help..


Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...

Answer 2

My Grandfather and I were rather close to our Bullmastiff before she passed. She was rather ugly, having grown up with a hairlip. She won a couple ugly dog contests. But she was the sweetest dog. I was there when she was passed and it was heartbreaking. She couldn't walk anymore, but she still had that vibrant energy, that feel-good happy-to-see-you energy that so many dogs have. Losing her was devastating.

You may cry for a night or for weeks... however long it is, it is okay. You should cry. You should also tell a friend or two about what happened and how you feel. Sharing that will help you with the grieving process. It's alright... they're your friends, I'm sure they won't mind. [If they do mind, red flag... they're not your friends.]

I cried for a few nights. My grandfather was even more devastated and cried for a good while. He still sounded sad about it weeks later. He's helped deal with the grief by getting a new puppy... but only when he was ready.

Just hold your head up high and keep going. Things will be better. If you have more questions on how to deal, ask away.

Answer 3

Firstly, my consolations. Yes, I've had pets before die like this- I tried to force feed them but it didn't work and so they died. I fed a rabbit a grape (I thought they could eat them). She died. I was distraught, but for some reason, I don't cry when anything dies. So after a while I was fine. I sound so non-emphatic, don't I! But, don't blame yourself- it was just an accident. Heart attacks can happen at any time- just look at Elvis Presley, I heard he died in a toilet. You don't know that he had a heart attack because he caught his foot- it could have been anything. It could have happened over night, he might just have been squeaking for food or something. He sounds very old for a hamster- aren't they supposed to live for just 2 years? So, you gave him a good life, think of the good things, then just don't think about it. It helped me greatly when I lost my pets. Again, my consolations. He's watching you up there, and I'm sure you'll see him again sometime. Good luck moving on. Also, my advice is to get a new hamster. It may ease your grief.

Answer 4

Oh, I am so sorry about your friend passing. It is normal to mourn for your pet. I promise that you will not feel like this forever.
If your friends are real friends they will understand, you are not the only one to feel this way. you should talk to your best friend. Best friends can be there for you during the hard times as well as the good times.
If you still can't, try calling a local funeral home that handles pet cremations, they just might be able to refer you to a support group or tell you who you can talk to.
Maybe you could volunteer for a local animal shelter or a rescue group? Maybe you can do something good or kind for someone. Do it in memory of your pet. They would be proud of you and maybe it will help you heal. Hopefully, a long time from now you will see each other again. God bless you.

Answer 5

Pets are members of your family.......... so it could be awhile yet before you don't feel sad about your pet. If you have photos of your pet why not make a collarge (spelling?) or picture of your pet. Also make a sm memorial of your pet in the garden and put flowers on it just like you would do for any other family member. These little things can help with your grieving process. It's normal to feel sad over a loss. It will get better. It just takes time.

Answer 6

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Words cannot even begin to ease the sorrow and heartache. I know what it's like to lose a beloved pet, and I know what you must be going through. But please know that your pet is in a better place now. Talking to your friends will help you cope. You should try to do something good in your pet's memory, like volunteer at a local animal shelter or pet-sit a friend's pet for the weekend. It will help keep you active. Try to remember the good times you had with your pet, and with time and support from friends and family, the pain will fade, and you will see yourself smiling instead of crying. Good luck, I wish you the best.

Answer 7

Dealing with the death of a pet can be emotionally devastating, especially if you watched it die. The same thing happened to me in college with my pet rabbit...I cried for a week.

The best therapy for me was simply getting another rabbit. At first I didn't want to because I felt like I was replacing the pet, but I realized later I wasn't really replacing him, just getting someone else to love and care for. It really helped me and I gave another animal a home. We both won!

You are not weird or abnormal for feeling so strongly about this! I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

Sister, I know how you feel I saw my pet die too, and I reacted just the way you did. But then I thought, she wouldn't want me to always cry and be sad. so life goes on. You got to remember the past but not live in it. If you get nightmares about your pet, try praying and try to think that she or he is in a better place. Hope this helps. God Bless.

Answer 9

I know the feeling. Six years ago, I had to have my German Shepherd put down due to hip problems and arthritis. She had lived a good long life, and could barely enjoy anything anymore. I cried when I had to leave her and hugged her and then when I got home, my oldest daughters friend from church had a dog that was part German Shepherd and part Akita that was all black with silver on his stomach, he was already a year old, but took to me immediately and I took him home with me and we have been the greatest buddies. He needed a home, and I needed him after loosing my Krissy that I loved so much! I had always told my Dad when he was living, that I wanted my next dog to be a black German Shepherd. Well the funny part about it all, and it was really a shocker, that when I looked at his vet papers, he was born on Nov. 7, 2000... the same day my Dad died!

Answer 10

i am so sorry for you loss, i recently lost my dog and both myself and her cats are still feeling the empty space. i do not know the circumstances concerning your loss so i can not explain the nightmares. i can tell you that it will take time and that you will never forget your pet. I am 49 and can tell you a rememberance of every pet that i have ever had. they live on in your heart forever. the best thing to do is to remember why your pet was so special and find another when you are ready to let it into your heart as this one was.