I just got off the phone with the mother of the ruffian. I know he has problems, he was held back a year, but I have custody of an 8 year old granddaughter and he is 10. His mother was first upset with me when his 7 year old sister was playing with my granddaughter in her bedroom a few weeks ago. I told him boys were not allowed in her room, but they would be outside soon. His mother came to my door and questioned me on why I did not let him play in a bedroom with the girls. Since then, I will not allow her inside their home, but have tried to be cordial and let him know he is welcome in my yard as long as he follows the rules, the first one being, don't knock any kids around for the hell of it, or you will leave the yard. I am losing any objectivity I might have had before after talking to his mother. I am not the only one who objects to the boy's behavior, just the only one with the guts to call his mother [the father has custody] who has the two children more since school is out.
2007-06-02 15:09:14 · 6 answers · asked by One Wing Eagle Woman 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
First off do not tollerate any behavior that is not acceptable. You have your rules and any guest shouldk abide by them. The other family is responsible for the other chilkd behavior. It is sad to turn a child away but if they do not follow the rules that is the consequence. Stand firm and do not let the other parents question your own judgement on your turf
2007-06-02 15:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the only way to deal with them is much prayer, but if they prove to be a danger, it's time that you must take them out. This could mean calling the police and filing a police report, suing the parents because a minor and his parents can be sued for the minor's willful misconduct and from what you have described this is certainly the case, or just physically taking the bully out. Make sure you have kept documentation, and also comparing the bully to other well-known bullies that we have all unfortunately come to know in the media, a judge would be more sympathetic to you should you have to "take him out".
Keep a written diary and send it to the police chief so he will have a copy of everything. This way, they (the perpetrators or cops) cannot say nothing has happened should you have to bring a full-blown legal action.
Tell your children not behave as if they were scared but not haughty either. Here is a website for you. I hope it helps:
http://www.kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/emotion/bullies.html
2007-06-02 15:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she doesn't understand why you don't trust a boy in your granddaughter's bedroom, then she may not be amenable to reason.
In that case, my suggestion is to invite the family over for dinner.
This sounds crazy, but that's what it's got going for it. If the woman feels befriended by you, she may become more pliable regarding your household rules. If then the boy misbehaves, distance your family from hers and the cold shoulder may encourage her to take her son in hand; I'm sure she doesn't want his bad manners to make others alienate him.
2007-06-02 15:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by bishopsjewels 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not let your granddaughter associated with him or his sister. It sounds like his mother up holds for his behavior. Also sounds like a bad situation waiting to happen.
2007-06-02 15:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by purplelove 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it's causing you stress stop it! Don't let it go on, you're just going to get yourself worked up and most parents like that don't listen to what you have to say. It is sad because his behavior is going to alienate him further and he will probably become worse. Hopefully he's only like that with his mom.
2007-06-02 15:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by briddy29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself "What would Jesus Do?"
2007-06-02 15:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋