Its been exactly 6 months since my cousins death...kinda sad today. Can you cheer me up? :(
2007-06-02 08:11:21 · 17 answers · asked by **Amanda** 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
okay, thanks for the help guys. the day of her trial is in 2 days. what music can cheer me up?
2007-06-04 08:42:07 · update #1
I think seeing a therapist would be helpful.
2007-06-02 08:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. It's okay to be sad. You are still grieving. Each day gets a little better. You can never take a short cut through grief. You just live through it and deal with it. The Lord is good to numb us for a time because the hurt is too great to deal with when its new. As you get stronger, the numbness starts to wear off and you can take out a bit of the sadness, look at it, remember the good parts, and let go. Eventually you'll be able to let go of all the sad parts and just keep the memories.
Exercise is a natural mood lifter. (It releases some chemical that makes you feel better.) If you are really feeling low try taking a brisk walk. Get your body moving so you can work the mood out of your system.
After my first husband died, I started to take the dog for 2 mile walks. It really felt good. I stood up straighter and breathed deeper. I saw details about my neighborhood I never noticed from the car. The dog had a blast. After about nine months I came out of the state of numbness I was in and found out I had lost 75 lbs. and was ready to start a new life.
I can't say you'll work through your grief the same way I did or in the same time frame that I did, but you will have found a tool that helps you cope as you are coming to terms with your loss.
2007-06-09 21:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by Iris the Librarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing someone is always sad, no matter how long it has been.
What you need to do is focus on something positive.
Find something to do that your cousin loved...you know...bike riding, planting flowers, watching cheesy movies..whatever. Just make sure it is something LEGAL. Then, go do it. You will feel closer to your cousin.
Just keep remembering that this person would NOT want you sitting around wasting time feeling sorry for yourself, or for him or her. She/He would expect you to get up and go on with life, do things that you are supposed to be doing.
This person would want you to do things in life that would make you feel good and contribute to your success as an individual.
Do something that would make your cousin proud to be your family member!
2007-06-02 08:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being sad about losing someone you love is normal. It is a sign that the person was special to you. Six months is not long. If you weren't sad six months after losing your cousin, what would that say about your relationship? Give it time.
2007-06-09 20:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by historybuff33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your cousin. My father died 5 years ago and honestly it never gets easier. You'll always be sad and you'll always think about your cousin. Always remember the good times you had together and just know that there will be days when your sadder then you were yesterday.
2007-06-02 08:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by L Boogie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not good with telling jokes... But you should prolly take time to think about this person , cry talk about etc ..
My husband died 2 yrs. ago and I still break down.. I think it's cause I think about him alot and I have no contact with anyone who knows him and I want to talk about him , think of him etc.... It feels good to talk about him He was my best friend. I find talking about him makes me feel better so I dont cry as often... I even started to cry at work.. A song that I never did like"Nothing compares" by s. O'connor and other staff I said you have to change this. I felt so bad..... Death is hard....
2007-06-09 13:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by n p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get together with friends and go out either shopping or to a movie, life goes on ! we all loose someone sooner or later!
Cheer up and keep on living that's what your cousin would have said to you !
2007-06-10 07:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by bornfree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to stay happy and active after a loved one's death is to keep working. You can't ever get over his or her death, no one can do that, but that's ok because their memory will always touch your life. Just keep up the work and he or she won't constantly haunt you. Set high goals. Do some service. It always helps.
2007-06-02 08:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a normal way to feel. Think of the really good things about your cousin, the fun you had together.
And if you're in my neighborhood, stop by and I'll have my cats entertain you. That's usually good for a laugh. One of them actually shakes hands...
2007-06-02 08:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is natural when you lose someone you care about. It takes lots of time to heal the wounds. Remember the loved ones around you who love and care for you, and in time you will begin to feel better. God bless and Heal You Mightily.
2007-06-09 12:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you had to go through something like that, sweetie. It's tuff, but time does heal. Sometimes you just gotta move on and live for what you have. There's people who need you.
2007-06-03 15:13:47 · answer #11 · answered by chris j 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋