I am in love with a married man, his marriage is not what it used to be, and i am sure he loves me, he even wanted to end that marriage because of me.. I tried not to fall in love, and sometimes i feel like a b.tch because he is cheating on his wife with me... He has no sexual life with her, they hardly ever talk, and they're avoiding each other.. What should i do? They have no kids. I cant just stop loving him!!!
2007-06-02 07:24:03 · 37 answers · asked by WhatAnIdiotIam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have met his wife, they're always arguing, he does not come home every night because he cant stand her, he even thinks she is cheating on him too... He really loved her till she started acting funny, he said he cant be in marriage without loving and caring
2007-06-02 07:46:44 · update #1
I have met his wife, they're always arguing, he does not come home every night because he cant stand her, he even thinks she is cheating on him too... He really loved her till she started .. acting funny, he said he cant be in marriage without loving and caring.. And the most important thing WE DID NOT HAVE SEX YET!!!!!
2007-06-02 07:48:12 · update #2
I have met his wife, they're always arguing, he does not come home every night because he cant stand her, he even thinks she is cheating on him too... He really loved her till she started .. acting funny, he said he cant be in marriage without loving and caring.. And the most important thing WE DID NOT HAVE SEX YET!!!!! He doesnt want to till he breaks it with his wife, we're only kissing etc..
2007-06-02 07:49:29 · update #3
Ok, here's the straight scoop. If he wanted out of his marriage, he would have gotten out already. You're hearing one side of the story, you don't really know what goes on behind closed doors. And the biggest thing - if he's cheating with you, he'll cheat on you.
Get out now.
2007-06-02 07:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
What you are doing right now is trying to justify the CHEATING that you are doing by saying he doesn't love his wife and she might be cheating! GET REAL! He is still married right?!? He hasn't left and really the only person he should leave is you! You think that you can ever have a real relationship with this man? WRONG! Do you think you can build happiness on someone else's misery? WRONG! MAybe the reason that she is "acting funny" is because she is trying to not feel anything because she knows that he is cheating... By the way...you have a lot of nerve introducing yourself to the woman that you are sleeping with her husband...I would beat the **** out of you!
2007-06-02 07:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of all people... why a married man? You should find someone else. THe man you love should get marriage counselling with his current wife. You can't trust him. what happens if you guys got together at the end and it turned out the same like his previous wife. He's going to cheat on you with another girl right? Don't trust those kind of guys.
2007-06-02 08:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Hedu A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many married men have told other women that their marriage is bad?
How many married men have told other women that they aren't getting sex from their wife?
How many married men cheat on a regular basis as they lie to their wife over and over again?
Get real. Get away from the guy and move on and have respect for his wife even if he doesn't.
You wouldn't want your husband to do this to you so why do you encourage him to continue to commit adultery over and over again with you?
You have your nerve even looking at a married man in any way other than being a friend and now that you can't be trusted, you shouldn't be around married men at all. You are not honest or trustworthy.
2007-06-02 07:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard, but you are gonna have to. Cut ties. It is never easy to end a relationship, especially when you love someone. If things are meant to be, then they will, no matter what. But you need to give him time to resolve or finish things with his wife. It is not fair to you or to her to only partialy have the man you love. You deserve a man that comes home to you. Has children with you. Lives with you, makes a life with you. The truth is, this man has a life, and you are not part of it. You are fun. And it may be more to him, but you'll never know for sure unless you give him and yourself time to decide what you truly want. If he wants you then he will leave his wife. If he doesn't, he won't. There is something you need to think about, though. Even if he isn't in love with his wife, at some point he was, or he wouldn't have married her. If he married this woman, started a life and had children with her, and when things got bad he started seeing and sleeping with someone else (you), instead of going to the woman he loved and fixing things... is that the kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with? Think about it and good luck!
2007-06-02 07:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tina W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, have you been to his house, met his wife and can confirn with 100% certainty that all he says is true? That he truly is miserable, that he truly doesn't sleep with her, that they don't talk...etc...
or did you just fall for the oldest lines in the book that all cheating married men use to keep a mistress on the line?
If he dispised her, he would have divorced her. If he loved you, he would have divorced her already...if there aren't kids, he has no reason to stay....
you are just a toy on the side. He is happily married, just wants sex because he can get it.
Don't you have more worth than that?
Tell him you will no longer have anything to do with him until he leaves his wife...the next excuse is going to be she is ill...and he can't leave her because it would devistate her...
yeah...right.
2007-06-02 07:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship! In the end, you'll only get hurt and he's never going to give you what you want, which is a committment to just you.
Besides, even if he did leave his wife, what guarantees do you have that he would be faithful to you? If he cheated once, he's more likely to do it again.
If he really cared about you, he would leave his wife and not make you run around behind her back. Use your head on this one, not your heart.
2007-06-02 07:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by crazz_32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually men dont leave their wife AND kids for their lover, but since he has no children with her, you may have a chance. But that is still rare. You really need to cut it off with him and force him to make a choice, tell him you will not be the other woman anymore and you do not want to be the reason his marriage failed. If he ends his marriage, he needs to do it because he is unhappy with his wife, NOT because he has a GF. Just do the right thing and back off. Oh, and think about this. If he does leave his wife for you and marries you, whose to say he wont get unhappy with you and cheat on you? God, are you women really that dumb. Open up your eyes and see him for the DOG he is.
2007-06-02 10:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember if he cheated on his wife, he most likely will end up cheating on you also in time. You state he wanted to end the marriage, but I take it he did not? Sounds like you are getting a line, and that line is he likes his sugar on the side. Simply put you are being used. I know that is not what you want to hear, but is most likely the scenario.
2007-06-02 07:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to run far far away. Think about it, if he's cheating on his wife with you, he'll cheat on you with someone else. You deserve better than that. And it doesn't really matter what his marriage is like, you could be to blame for it ending if it does go to that point. Just leave him alone until his divorce is done ... if it even goes that far. Respect yourself here and find someone who's actually available.
2007-06-02 07:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are known for saying what they need to say to get laid. You have no idea what actually goes on in his marriage because you aren't there. For all you know, he goes home every night to a blissful relationship and just keeps you on the side for fun.
They have no kids and yet he is still married to her. He offered to leave her for you, but didn't actually do it.
It is unfortunate that you are in this situation. Now, you need to take action. Break it off with him. Tell him that you are no longer willing to be involved with another woman's husband. If he decides to divorce her, then you are free to see each other again. If he does not divorce her, than you have your answer and need to move on.
2007-06-02 07:41:07 · answer #11 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋