And look younger than her age, and have many men in a tow, and had several STDs and is still a "poor, wronged woman", and managed to get several men at once to pay for her treatments and persuaded them that they were to "blame". And if you say something against her, you are "mad and jealous of her", and she was a "victim"? And she wiggles and giggles, and make all men pay: asked at least five of them to give her money to buy a "computer", and collected about 8 thousands US already this way.
2007-06-02 06:09:21 · 46 answers · asked by e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First - get yourself tested for STDs. Do not have sex with your husband unless you want to become infected.
Second- open your own bank account and start squirreling away money. Get a PO box for the statement.
Third - take any evidence you have of the affair and lock it up tight in a safety deposit box that he cannot access. Make copies of everything and give them to a friend. Evidence is phone records, copies of emails, anything that you can use against him.
NOW - go see a lawyer. He will advise you of your rights, be able to file any necessary restraining orders, divorce papers, claims to property, etc.
Don't think emotionally here. You need to disconnect from the bitterness and hurt. You need to think on autopilot now if you want to do this and come out a winner. Plan Plan Plan. Protect yourself or else you will be living out of your car with an STD and no money.
Good luck and god bless.
2007-06-02 06:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by Army family. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd never, ever put up with a husband who would cheat on me. Get some evidence of his cheating together than use it to divorce the bastard and get as much alimony and/or child support as possible.
There is absolutely no reason to stay with someone who has broken your heart, trust and vows. Get out now! Don't waste more of your life on such a jerk!
Women tend to give absolutely too much of themselves in a marriage to keep doing it once they have been cheated on. Don't be pathetic, be strong and get out now.
Also, who cares what this woman looks like? So she's pretty, so what, she's also obviously a whore. Plus, the fact that your husband cheated has nothing to do with how attractive you are or how attractive others are. Some men can stay faithful no matter how many beauties are around and some are just dirty cheaters no matter what. Look at Halle Barry, she is gorgeous, and her idiot husband cheated on her and ruined their marriage.
Divorce is hard but it's worth it to get out of a bad or abusive situation, and someone who is unfaithful is emotionally abusive and will tear up your self-esteem. I divorced my first husband after only three years because I realized that I didn't want to throw any more of my life away. He wasn't a cheater but it was a bad situation. Now I am remarried and very happy.
Only you can change your life for the better.
2007-06-02 06:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by fitdramamom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is being unfaithful to you, regardless of how pretty she is, you need to confront him about it after you have secured a firm plan to leave his sorry ***. Let him learn that marriage and cheating do not mix and cannot be practiced without consequences for cheaters. You will be better off in the long run because adultery is grounds for divorce all over the world. You no longer trust him and with good reason. So what is the point of agonizing about who or why?
2007-06-02 06:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO, this is a no brainer, divorce him but not because you're jealous of this whore but because you're better than the both of them and HE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR. If he's interested in trash that other men has had, then why be with a man like that. Why would you want to. There's many pretty women that are not sluts so what does her looks have to do with it. It seems to me that he only attracts pretty slutty girls because the pretty classy women would not give him the time of day. Sluts have no standards.
2007-06-02 06:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by SexxyDiva w/class 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing I would do is go to a doctor and get TESTED for an STD.... if you HAVE one---you can bet it came from her TO your husband and the to YOU.... The guy you have is a TOTAL loser---whether or NOT you have an STD, I would leave him Immediately and see a lawyer to start divorce proceedings...the guy is a cheat AND a liar and screwed in the head if he thinks it's OK to mess around with what is OBVIOUSLY a WHORE.. (paid or not).....he is committing ADULTRY and that is grounds for an INSTANT DIVORCE...especially if he gave you an STD....if you have CHILDREN, you owe it to THEM to get them away from this jerk as fast as you can before he teaches THEM how to act like a complete JERK...
2007-06-02 06:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kick his rear to the curb. He is playing you like a song. I think I see so many questions like this one here because the askers are young, inexperienced, vulnerable, or worse. It,ll get worse. Don,t let him play you.You only go around once. And if I may, cheating on him will probably only make YOU feel cheap. Don,t do that to yourself. For your own sake move on. I,ve been married to the same girl for 17 years. Yep 17 years. Find your soul mate. Take this for waht you feel it,s worth.
2007-06-02 06:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by c99challenger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't see what is going on is wrong then you must pick yourself up and move on. If he follows then give it some time and see what he does. If he doesn't straighten up then you will already be out of the house and just get a divorce. Good luck.
2007-06-02 06:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that YOU are his wife and YOU have a right to be jealous. You need to divorce him and take him for everything you can and send him on to his wiggly lover. She will get tired of him and then he'll regret leaving someone who loved him. Find someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved ~ someone who will take vows and keep them.
Men are so gullible ~ a woman bats her eyes and they drool and run to them like mad dogs and can't see what they really are. Sad, isn't it?
2007-06-02 06:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even want to continue the relationship? If your husband is that gullable to this woman than let him have her. Divorce him, he isn't faithful to you so why are you still hanging around? And he is defending her? Sounds like it's time to hang on to what little self respect you seem to have left and leave. You deserve better, by hanging around you are putting yourself up for more emotional abuse. Please leave him and put yourself back together, no one needs to put up with this kind of abuse!
2007-06-03 08:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you rent the movie "First Wives Club" That will give you some ideas!! Hire an lawyer and take him to the cleaners!!
Get tested immediately!! If you have something, use it as ammo in court.
2007-06-02 10:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Aesea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋