Ive always consider myself to be straight but my friend seems confused about his sexuality, the other day when i was talking to him, he said that everyone is gay, but dont realise or never act on it, is this true?
2007-06-02 05:00:55 · 33 answers · asked by ♥ ♥ Sarah ♥ ♥ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
To be honest though i think he meant everyone has the potential to be bisexual, i would understand this more.
2007-06-02 08:46:02 · update #1
Freud believed that everyone was born with open sexuality, with the potential to be gay.
Would your question have been better put 'is everone bisexual', based on your friends experience? As that is all that you seem to be basing your question - someone with uncertainty about their sexuality.
It seems that sexuality is a more fluid concept than most of us would like to believe, with the reported number of people who are absolutely 100% straight or gay being limited, and the rest in a kind of limbo, where degrees of bisexuality are the norm. This is the case, even where people define their sexuality as 100% one or the other.
As this may be the case, and bisexuality being prevalent, it becomes clearer why many people could face uncertainty over their sexuality - as well as because modern society seems obsessed with labels. Where there is cultural pressure, it can result in some of us facing a dilemma, where heterosexuality is pressured as the 'right' thing to be, and others as morally 'wrong' etc.
Keep talking with your friend and letting him know that you accept him unconditionally - this is all we could want from others, isn't it?
Good luck! Rob
2007-06-02 22:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by Rob E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is Everyone Gay
2016-11-11 00:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by bautista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think everyone is gay no lol but what i think your friend was trying to say was everyones sexuallity is on a a spectrum theres 100 percent gay and a 100 percent straight and people are dotted around this spectrum with most people being at the extremes ie straight or gay.
2007-06-02 05:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by Deadman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course it isn't! He is confused by the famous continuum argument I think. Imagine a long line, at one end everyone is 100% straight, at the other end everyone is 100% queer. Most people are in the middle and evenly spead out. So some people will be mainly straight but have gay leanings or mainly queer but fancy the odd bit of straight sex (bi's I suppose). It all depends where they are on the line. I would say I am about 75% of the way into the gay end.
2007-06-02 06:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by Bunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Research has shown that there is not such a thing as 100% gay or 100% straight.
We are all attracted to people in one way or another. Straight men tend not to say if a guy is good looking in case they are thought to be gay because 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' and therefore to say someone is goodlooking they must have a certain attraction.
Another point to make is that even though you find someone attractive, you are not automatically wishing them into bed. Here is where the percentages come in. People who are comfortable with themselves can comment on others of the same sex without fear of being branded.
2007-06-02 05:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by andegar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to have caught on that sexuality is a spectrum with pure heteros on one end and a pure gay on the other end with all of us falling somewhere in between. The sex researcher John Money formed a 5 (or 6) point scale of this sort.
At some stage or another a person is attracted to some one of the same sex but not necessarily in a sexual way. Just an intensive liking for the person may be there. All such likes do not develop into a sexual thing........and so all of us are not gay.
2007-06-02 06:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by straightener 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I use to joke about that too a long with one of my straight friends. She use to say secretly everyones got a least a little fraction of attraction to the same sex. Which I kind of believe. Gay people are just way more attracted to the same sex than the opposite sex. Sometimes I'm attracted to certain girls but I dont think I'm bi. But if you believe me then the fraction most straight people have is so slim they don't even realize it. I dont really know lol, it sounded good.
2007-06-02 05:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
According to some studies everyone is born bisexual, but environmental factors effect future sexual preference - might be true, might not be true. Anyone can fall in love with the personality of a person, but, it still dosn't make everyone gay. I guess the option is there though ^^
2007-06-03 05:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all! But if he meant that everyone has the possibility to be bisexual, I'm sure he could be right.
You never know who you are going to meet or how you are going to feel. I actually only liked women until I was about 18, then I became bisexual and started liking men also.
My ex girlfriend considered herself straight until she turned 25 and met me. She still considers herself straight even though we dated for 2 years.
But yes, I'm sure everyone has the potential to feel attracted to the same sex - especially women, as we are naturally more close to each other than men!
xx Emmie
2007-06-02 22:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know if this statement would be true. i dont know much about how humans think and operate either. im going to study phsycology though.
i think this is just pretty much like a saying. i doubt that everyone would be gay really. i know most people are probley sexually curious and think something every now and then, about the other gender.
but i dont think everyone is gay
2007-06-02 05:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋