My fiance was severely abused as a child, he went on from relationship to another not caring who he hurt, can someone please help me so I can understand better if he dumps me too ?
2007-06-02 04:52:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
fyi it was abuse of every kind.
2007-06-02 04:57:03 · update #1
the number of women that he has hurt is in the hundreds
2007-06-02 04:57:37 · update #2
A sociopath is someone with an anti-social personality defect. Your fiance, who doesn't care about the feelings or rights of others, fits this description very well. You may love him very much for his other personality and character traits, but you are setting yourself up for everything from disappointment to emotional or physical injury if you continue the relationship, UNLESS he goes into a rehab program and completes it successfully.
With a record like his, you CAN'T simply accept his word that he will treat you with kindness, consideration, and respect, as long as he hasn't gotten professional treatment. If he REALLY cares about you - and that's debatable - he would be more than willing to undergo rehab.
2007-06-02 05:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by TitoBob 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sociopath is described under antisocial personality disorders. People like this have a total disregard for social rules and norms, indifference to the rights and feelings of others and they have impulsive behavior. They experience a limited range of human emotions. This can explain their lack of empathy for the suffering of others, since they cannot experience the emotion associated with either empathy or suffering. Risk-seeking behavior and substance abuse may be attempts to escape feeling empty or emotionally void. Next, they are very deceitful, such as repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure
impulsivity or failure to plan ahead. They are always irritable and aggressive; meaning they could get into a lot of physical fights. They are reckless, and disregard the safety of self or others. Consistent irresponsibility, repeated failure to sustain steady work or honor financial obligations (or relationships.)
Lastly, the lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt the people around them.
2007-06-02 12:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Andra Blitz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's called having an imbalance... it comes along with being abused... doctors don't know how to work with it... they use medication to mask the symptoms... there are ways to help but the person in question has to want to heal, it's a matter of choosing and working at your own healing.
I posted some information on my 360 blog of how to deal with some of the negativity that built up. But it's up to him to work at it... you can only introduce some possible solutions to help
Temper Tantrums April 08, 2007
Dealing with Negative emotion April 08, 2007
http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-vYykSFw2fqOksDXTUdx_bQ--?cq=1&list=1
good luck
2007-06-02 12:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will lie to you and blame you for all that goes wrong in his life. He has already proven to you what he does in relationships, so save yourself a lot of heartache and don't wait for him to dump you. They never change, if anything they only get worse with age.
2007-06-02 12:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋