2007-06-02 04:40:31 · 9 answers · asked by missy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to just get away and do it fast, especially if there are kids involved. There are places you can go for abused and battered women. Find one and leave. you can't make him stop drinking, you can't make him stop being abusive, the only one who can is himself and God, and it won't be happenening while you're there. It will take a real big wake up call for him to change if he ever does..like you leaving him and never coming back.
2007-06-02 04:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by countrygrl278 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a husband who was the same way when he drank. He was the most wonderful man in the world when he didn't drink. I think he needs to go to alcoholic anonymous and get the help he needs. By doing this he will learn to control both the anger issues and drinking. If he does he will be a new person with a whole new outlook on life. By the way I never gave up on my husband of 40 years and things got better. Unfortunately he passed away 2 years ago and that leaves an empty hole in my heart. If you love your husband help him to see that he needs to take steps to resolve the issue. If he continues to be abusive please take my advice and leave before something serious could happen. I know.
2007-06-02 15:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Christine C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the problem occurs only when he drinks...see that he gets help for the drinking. If he seems to always be angry or has sudden mood changes and it is intensified by the drinking then he may have bipolar disorder. So along with a 12 step program have him see a doctor to be sure there are no other issues.
2007-06-02 11:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by pocahontas80_1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to stop drinking if he becomes a different person, as well. I would suggest a substance abuse program, where they will also address his anger/abuse.
I would demand he go, or leave (even a temporary seperation). This issue left unaddressed could lead to very serious injury/death and it won't get any better, it will just get worse.
Best wishes.
2007-06-02 11:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by ™Tootsie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is hope !! First need to have a talk with him , when he is not been drinking and let him know how much he is hurting you and the kids. And encourage him to get help. Don't be pushy he will have to decide to do it himself. If he don't listen leave, tell him why and see if he has the strength and desire to get help and be a better person. Don't nag - but be loving - remember its a disease and needs to be treated. good luck!
2007-06-02 12:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by dispatchokirt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the Alcohol that makes him angry
he has an Alcohol issue, NOT an anger management issue
he needs AA
you need Al-Anon
2007-06-02 11:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is unacceptable. Leave him. Maybe that will be the wake up call that he needs to get his act together and get help.
2007-06-02 11:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Kick his butt out and get a restraining order to be lifted only when he complies with counseling. You should attend also.
2007-06-02 11:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by Moondog 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
get rid of him
2007-06-02 12:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋