Do you think we should be allowed to go to the mall by ourselves?

Question

My friend and I want to go to the mall by ourselves but my mom says, "Well if you want to go to the mall then we are ALL going but we won't follow you around." My friend and I are both thirteen. My friend has a cell phone, and the mall is about five minutes away! I can't stand my mom! And it's not just because of this, IT IS ALL OF THE TIME! We don't live in a so-called bad area either, and the mall isn't that big. Don't say, "Just listen to your mother," or, "It depends on how responsible you are." Would YOU let your thirteen year old daughter and her friend go to the mall by themselves?

If you haven't noticed, that mall is a place to SHOP. NOT a place of business. Why do you think they have all of the TEEN stores in the malls? BECAUSE TEENS GO THERE. And no one under the age of eighteen is allowed at our mall without a parent after nine.

Answer 1

when my son was 13 i did not leave him to go alone to malls either. your mother loves you and knows what can happen to young girls and young men even when they are left unsupervised in areas like malls, even small town malls ,especially these days malls are notorious for places where perverts who look just like normal people by the way can prey upon underage kids and 13 is too young . my son did just like your mom wants you guys to do. we all went to the mall and split up and assigned meeting spots to check back to. he had his o0wn money and went to stores he wished to go into . we ate lunch later or supper together in the mall and had a great time as a family as well as each person getting to do something alone they really wanted to do. we often allowed him to go to a movie in the mall alone while we hung around and waited. he often took a friend too. i know you cannot stand your mom and i cannot change that attitude in you so i will not try . i can only say that 13 is very young to go alone and hang around where situations develop for which you may not as yet have developed the skills to cope and be safe my dear.


i think what your mother feels is a properly protective love for her young daughter and for me thats a rather sweet thing to see and its so rare these days. so many kids are wandering alone with no loving guidence or anyone to care if they get into troubles. as you get older i bet your mom lets go more and loosens the reins over you and by the time you are 16 or 17 and perhaps driving you will have more freedom . after grauation you will have even more and then a whole long life up ahead to go anywhere you please.


if you were ready to go to the mall alone you would not be feeling so hostile toward your mothers rule . your attitude of hostility toward her care of you shows me that you are still very immature and not willing to act as an adult and learn to care about other peoples feelings and reach compromises .

let me end with a question. would you want your mom to say to you that she does not care how and where you go and if you get into trouble, get abducted or harmed or disappear forever? think about that . policemen say that parents who dump kids off at the mall make their jobs harder . its a parents job to see to it their children are safe and not getting into trouble which could drastically wreck their lives forever. you do not want to hear this but it is the truth .

if i were you i would give my mother a hug and thank her for caring . its up to you. are you a big girl or still a baby? you decide.

Answer 2

im 15 now an di had this same problem when i was 13, my mom seems very similar in opinions as yours and it took me a long time to convince her. She always found it more comforting if i was with a rather large group of girls, not just me and one other friend. Also, the fact that your friend has a cell phone is very good. Tell you mom she will put her phone on high&Vibrate so she will alway answer and give your mom her cell phone number. I agree in the fact that the mall is NOT a place of buisness, its a place for one thing and that SHOPPINNNGGGGGGG :) and also, tell your mom you guys know what is right and wrong and that you will call her if there is any problems. Also, give her an *exact* time to pick you up and and *exact* place to meet you when she picks you up. best of luck! (o=
Kelly
ps. Have fun at the mall!

Answer 3

Well you may think your place is not that bad of a place to live, but you don't know who is going to be at the mall. What are you going to do if a man comes after you?? Our mall does not allow people under the age of 18 at ours. That is due to people causing trouble, including gangs. And guess what, I do not live in such a bad place either. Teenagers cause trouble at mall. Your mom is just doing what is best for you. I would not let my 13 yr. old go to the mall with her friend by themselves. I wasn't allowed to go by myself until I was 16, and guess what it's not so bad.

Answer 4

If no one under 18 is allowed to be alone in the mall after 9, that should say something to you. It isn't that your mom doesn't trust you, it's most likely that your mom doesn't trust the crazy people in this world. When my daughter turns 13, I honestly don't know how I will feel about her shopping in a big building without me near by.

Answer 5

dude, whoever's mall wont let peeps go in under 16 w/o parents, thats retarded... i go there to shop, and thats basically it...my parents have let me go to the mall with my friends since i was like 11... she doesn't care... she used to only let me go, if she could like, be next door, or grocery shopping or something, but now i have a cell phone, and i will just call her...plus, all of my friends parents know and they are really sweet...now my mom lets me even break curfew and everything ,not all the time, but i have proved that i am responsible, and she believes me... she should, because i am truthful...but yeah, u just need to ask your mom to give u a chance, because then u can prove to her how well it goes...and yeah, the mall is a freaking hang out place...there is nothing different with a few teens stopping at starbucks, then like 4 mid-20 ladies, talking really loudly in a freaking coffee house, u know, u cna hang out at the mall, its supposed to be fun u retards!

Answer 6

None of the persons I hang out fairly get dressed like that, however I'd be mendacity if I stated there were not women at my institution who come to institution dressed approach too inappropriately. I'm 18 and the one time I *ever* put on a thong is while I put on my leggings as pants with a flowy blouse. I recognise there is seamless lingerie however that may best move thus far while you are dressed in leggings. I do not believe that mom and dad could enable their youngsters to decorate like that, I believe it is extra of a factor wherein the children are looking to insurgent so they will do some thing they are able to to do this. Like the opposite commentor stated, women can put on revealing apparel and simply put on a jacket over it and take it off when they get to institution. People are going to do what they desire to do and there is not anything we will be able to fairly do approximately it. Usually women who act like that are not going to difference whenever quickly so the first-class you'll do just isn't slump to that degree and maintain being 'mature'..

Answer 7

How old are you and can you get away from a 300 lbs man that wants to harm you. Go with mom till you can drive. Other wise how can you get there. Ask to meet her in an hour at the fountin and start gaining her trust that way. Malls are big and I am sure that you can have enough good fun with mom in the mall. She loves you and wants you home safe. You may be mad but you are not dead

Answer 8

Honestly,(your not going to like this) I would NOT allow my 13 y/o daughter to go to the mall alone..Why do you need to? if shes not going to follow you around then its like your by yourself anyways...i know when i was younger and i wanted to go somewhere without my parents i was doing something they wouldn't approve of..just relax in a couple years your mom will allow you to do more..don't try and grow up to fast,its really not that fun

Answer 9

I think that you should be allowed to go! Tell your mom that your friend will have her cell on. Call your mom every hour just to check in with her. Tell her that you won't talk to random people, and that you know better then to do that.You should be allowed to go especially since its only a few minutes away.

Answer 10

nope,i used to take my daughter to the mall, and we would go our seperate ways.
Also when you have 13 yr old daughter you'll see things from another perspective. A stock broker once told me about teens "sell at 13 and buy at 21" so darn true lol