I am a people pleaser to the fullest. It's certainly a strength, but at the same time it's a weakness because I tend to compromise my own happiness to make sure those close to me are happy.
2007-06-02 03:04:42 · 17 answers · asked by ~*~Malarie~*~ 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
The strength/weakness you mentioned is one you share with a lot of good-hearted women. My wife has an elderly relative, a very nice woman who is now in her late seventies, who never married but spent her entire adult life taking care of less healthy relatives. She's still doing it! Maybe she's a saint, but good grief, everyone deserves to have a life of their own. Don't let this happen to you!
2007-06-02 06:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by Husker41 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are right on the same page. I love to help others, and rarely say no. It is nice to be able to do that, but people tend to take it all for granted.
One example for me is giving rides to people. Particularly to Church and other activities. Yes, I am going anyway, but usually it is a little detour to pick them up; then drop them off later (more time & gas). Then if an opportunity to do something after the event comes up during it (ie a friend that wants to go out and eat or invite me to thier home), I have to first drop off my passangers and go back, or loose out on going out all together.
All in all, it is not much of a problem. I look at it as a way to serve. But rarely does anyone offer help with gas.
Another for me is that I am a good listener. Several peole call me when thay are down, or just to get advise or chat. That is all great, but I find that I loose a lot of valuable time that I need to get my list of "to dos" done.
2007-06-02 10:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think my egotism is my most obvious trait, and it also goes both ways. I believe that earning respect is more worthy than demanding it, and not many people have earned mine. I have earned the respect of most of my friends, but a few may never have respect for me because they're, well, either lazy, conceited, mediocre, or just plain ignorant and don't like being outdone. I follow the same principle with relationships; if I don't have respect for someone, there's no way in hell that I could possibly love them... This probably explains why I'm 37 and not married, which can be depressing and amusing simultaneously, I suppose...
2007-06-02 10:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a people pleaser as well. Although the older I am getting the better I am at saying NO and also telling people what I really think - but in a nice way.
2007-06-02 10:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sensitivity. A strength because I can help people and sympathize or empathize with them. A weakness because I tend to try to see the good in people that can't be helped or don't want to be and I keep trying only to get hurt in the end.
2007-06-02 10:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by ♠Room for One♠ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably my sense of humor. Because sometimes it helps get me through some tough stuff, but sometimes, something will strike me funny in a place where you shouldn't be laughing. Things will strike me funny at the oddest times, like I laugh in the wrong places. But, on the whole, I'd rather have a good sense of humor than not. I bet you have a real good sense of homor ! I just bet you are a " spark-plug
, the life of the party. oxox
2007-06-03 08:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by The Count 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never try ot fullful someone else before yourself...then that is what people will always expect from you and that is "what you will become"...a doormat....I think because I work with people is that I try to be nice to them and do good things for them...not to try and please and get approval but just to be nice...and then some but not all will take advantage of that and want more or expect more.....so you need to be nice to people but don't be so accommodating...if it's something you truly don't want to do or say...then don't...and you can say that in a polite way with a smile...sometimes people just test ya to see how much they can get out of you...i figure if they are that ballsy then I can certainly be that assertive by saying "no thanks," I'll pass on that one"..or sorry not today "No can do"
2007-06-02 10:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by TWISTER 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a perfectionist---almost to to the point of OCD. I'm usually very good at whatever I set my mind to, but I obsess about where I could do better, sometimes to the point of scrapping projects midway through and starting them all over again!!
2007-06-02 10:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by jermaine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Positive thinking.
2007-06-02 10:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Leof 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think being happy-- ususally I make people cheer up when they are sad/depressed, but sometimes they hate me being happy when they are sad
2007-06-02 10:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋