Sex is completely different than love! I could love my husband completely, but not want to have sex with him at all.
2007-06-02 02:13:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I think the soul, if there is a soul, isn't at all physical and bonding with your soul mate isn't about physical pleasure. It's deeper than that.
2007-06-02 02:17:26 · update #1
i know where your coming from. Occasionally it is hard to actually feel the feeling of "Love" when your having sex, simply because the pleasure is far more...pleasurable ;) but just the act of bonding with your mate shows that you love each other, unless of course you don't look at it that seriously :)
2007-06-02 02:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by kirsten a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think religion equates sex with love. This is religions way of protecting its followers. If you hold off on sex until you "love" someone chances are things will go better for the both of you. You will stay together longer. Because contraceptives didn't exist before the 1800s, if the couple loved each other, the child would have two parents instead of one.
Sex by it's self is motered by attraction (you might not be attracted to your 500 pound husband, but love him) and some level of comfort. Will you feel comfortable with this person with no clothes on?
After the fact (if you reached the big O) dopamine is released in the brain. This has a relaxing effect on the brain and the sensations are maximised (why some guys don't like being touched afterwards). This feeling caused by the chemical in the brain might be confused with love. (Why most guys might say "I love you" afterwards)
Sex can be a special experience. Trust is a very big factor. It also has a role in pleasure. Dolphanes are the only other species that have sex for non reproductive reasons.
People might relate sex with love to feel better about the situation, an excuse if you will.
2007-06-02 02:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by rthornton001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Question TASHA. And to answer it, I have to put on my lenses and I assure you that I am sure of what I am saying. The two are very much related but they are not exactly the same thing. The are related in the sense that you can make love and have sex at the same time. They are different because you can make love without having sex or you can have sex without making love. I will explain. It is clear what one means by having sex. It is the act of intercourse. One person gets into the other. As you know, It can between people of the same sex or people of opposite sex. Even animals have sex; that is how there propagate there own kind. Taken as simply as presented, having sex does not necessarily involve love. It is not necessarily making love. Animals can have sex but they can't make love. The cork that pursue the hen for sex is not wanting to make love.... and many of us have sex for fun and not as love-making. To make love is simply what it sounds like: to make or to create or to fabricate love. And ladies understand this more than we guys do. The lady that answered before me is right in suggesting that sex is sweet and cool when it involves love both the two persons involved. That is the point: when there is the element of love in having sex, it becomes love making; and this is a much sweeter experience than an ordinary sexual intercourse that is just for fun or for money. Why making love feels so good is because it invovles trust and a kind of self-giving. The other person feels wanted and loved. Now you may ask "What is the love made afterall?" You see, since the two partners love eachother when they make love, they add they individual love for eachother and the sum is a new love of bound. Thats the love that is made. Suppose I have a girl-friend, when I make love with her, I add MY LOVE for her to HER LOVE for me and we make a new love "OUR LOVE for each other" See how the two are somewaht different and related?
2016-05-19 02:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have completely different interests hun. Sex is a major part of a relationship. Its how the two of you can express your physical love and emotional love at the same time. If you don't wanna have sex with him, then you love the idea of him, not him. your looking for something completely different
2007-06-02 02:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't agree with you as the statement is too broad. True that sex does not always equate to love, (and unwanted sex can bring great hurt) and love can occur without sex ...
...but a really loving relationship can be deepened by sex and the two can intertwine to give a greater depth than would occur when one was there without the other.
2007-06-02 02:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by kenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand what you're talking about. My husband and I are sexually incompatible, but nevertheless we love each other 100%. It's like we are two parts of a whole, our worlds revolve around each other. It's very hard to put into words ... to me, sex is sex, and love is love, and they don't necessarily have anything to do with one another, although each can enhance the other. Love from the soul is sexless.
2007-06-02 04:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone thinks that way. Some people see sex as an expression of their love for someone. Besides if your husband wants sex and you don't let him have any with you for months, that is not being loving.
2007-06-02 02:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a combo. Sex. Love. Pain. These are all part of an relationship. Love and Sex are both equate, and relate. When you are in love, sex is yur why of expressing you love. Sex is also why to show you love.
2007-06-02 02:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most swingers clubs are built on this premise. Many open marriages work this way. The reason we equate them is that for most people; both are required for a healthy relationship. If both are not required for you, then you need to decide whether you respect your husband enough to fulfill his needs of fidelity. If the answer is no, get divorced and find someone who has similar needs as you.
2007-06-02 02:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by Ranger D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree...sex INVOLVES love, at least for me. I have never had sex with someone I didn't love. The connection is what is a turn on a sexy. Physical attraction can only go so far.
2007-06-02 02:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by mom of two 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋