Realistically, are looks more important then personality?

Answer 1

It depends on the situation, but generally - no. If you are rude/conceited/unintelligent, people won't really want to talk to you.
Everyone knows someone who's far from attractive, yet has lots of friends and is generally liked by many. At the same time, there are really attractive people that also have tons of friends, but they tend to be shallow and superficial.

There just needs to be a good balance and effort put into looking presentable as well as being friendly and courteous.

Answer 2

To any thinking male, the most important thing about a woman is how you get along together. How well similar your aims in life are. I think there would be a lot less divorce in this world if people sat down and carefully discussed what things are important to them. It is not the looks that you live with but the person. The same thing applies to making love. My motto has been - Learn to love the person first, then, when you are really in love deep in your heart and in your mind, then the physical love can follow and how beautiful it will be too.
I hope this helps,
Grandpa

Answer 3

The very first thing you see is what someone looks like, so that is your FIRST impression, however, I've noticed that if you start talking to someone, and you really get along, their looks can seem better and better. It's a strange thing. On the other hand, if someone has a bad personality, they seem not as attractive after awhile. Considering all this, personality is by far more important. Your personality shines through in your appearance.

Answer 4

At first, I think you are right, that most people make their first opinions on the basis of looks, however, that doesn't hold you for very long if there's no personality to go with the looks! Looks might get you in the door, but a great personality will keep you there!

Answer 5

For a man at first looks then personality

When I was a barman before I married I was advised to look at the girls mother.
if I fancied looking at that first thing in the morning in twenty years time marry the girl. If not flee

30 odd years later I can say it was sound advice. No i should not have fled i don't know what I'd do without her although sometimes ????

Answer 6

From the male point, to get a girl you have to look good. It's the female that does the selecting for relationships, if we don't look 'good' (good is an entirely subjective quantity) then we get nowhere. There's endless protestations by the fairer sex that it's peronailty that counts, but very little evidence to indicate that that is infact the case.

Answer 7

No way personality by far....looks can attract you first off...well this is in most cases but personally for me personality is the main attraction...I mean look at it this way you've met a gorgeous guy/girl but they're a complete w****r....u can't be with someone on the basis that they are good lookin...anyways back to the question PERSONALITY...don't be so shallow!!!!

Answer 8

Hi Rachal,

i think the two go hand in hand, you wouldn't be with someone that you were not attracted to, however you also wouldn't be with someone who's personality you didn't like.

if you are with someone you are attracted to their looks, however, if you get to know someone, and like their personality then this in turn can change the way that you look at the person. this is why long term friends can suddenly fall in love

Answer 9

looks are the things that attract me to strangers then i get to know the personality so i think there very important.... dont care if you think im shallow.... would you walk up to someone ugly just because they may possibly have a sense of humor and a great personality????? i wouldnt x x

Answer 10

looks do matter for attraction and for building relationships. since people has this tendency to look at the physical aspect of a person as basis for building friendship or relationships. but this is just fleeting since character or personality would matter in the long run and in dealing with relationships in long term.