I went off on my man , how can I regain his trust ?

Question

It was for something he could not help but I did not know about that at the time.

Answer 1

Well... generally, a man has this characteristic about them. When you plead to go back to them, they wl take you back. But after a while, he wl do the same thing as what you did and the reason he wl quote you is, he still cannot forget what you did to him. The point here is... be careful. It is always difficult to regain anyone's trust, whether it be your parents or your sisters or your friends. All you can do is, work endlessly at it. At one point of time you wl feel all the hardwork you do is useless 'cos he just does not acknowledge it. Just remind yourself, there is no fast and effective cure for an injured heart.

Answer 2

Do you mean you had an affair? why can't you say it. You cheated on him? period.
That's called being stupid, by the one and only "Ann Landers" Americas one and only former, Bless her soul, advice columinist.
There was a reason you did this, you know of course but, aren't saying for your own reasons. That's one reason it's hard to say what I think. We don't have an open and honest relationship here. Only a "he said, she said"

He will in time, bring it up. In an argument. it will come up, that's a guarentee. If you think he's going to take you back and everything going to be honkey dory again, your wrong and it's going to have a noticeable result in your relationship with him, whatever he says.

In time if this doesn't work out, you will do it again, or he will to get even. He will use it against you and tell you "you did it, so, why can't I" and that will be the begaining of the end of, your relationship.
It takes a strong person to got to bed, with a woman or man, knowing he/she made love, the same way they're now making love with you, this is since your a couple and your feelings were for each other. You shared yourself.

I can only add, good luck.

Answer 3

You won't! You need to put some distance between you two for awhile.

The same advice that is given to women who claim to be in this situation is the same advice that a man needs to receive. No double standard here.

Also, you need to visit an anger management class and get on a thorazine protocol for a few weeks.

After you calm down, and he can feel comfortable facing you, since he's probably a wimp, you both need to figure out what's in the future for your relationship.

Answer 4

Been there...done that. It feels somewhat embarrassing, doesn't it? I fixed it by letting him know that I was very emotional at the time and expressing that I felt really bad about my behavior...trust me...my behavior was close to MANIC...and I was wrong. Eventually, he got over it, but at least he knew what he was up against were I was concerned. If your love is strong you'll get past this one. Good luck!