has anyone ever been a 'victim' in their life through whatever circumstances and hates the fact they were the

Question

victim, and hates the fact they were percieved that way to?
how did you cope and deal with this?

Answer 1

I was the victim of a few bad acts by others, and then I was the victim of my own way of coping with those things. I guess I don't like feeling victimized, I believe any one can take back the power. Being a woman, using my body is the ultimate form of rebellion. I feel stronger physically, it helps mentally.


Victimization is a way of relating the past to yourself. If you chose to view it another way, you can learn from those things and stop being a victim. Victims are victims twice--once by the act, and then by themselves. You need to change your self talk and see you were not a victim, that some people are jacka*ses. Most of the things people do that are harmful are all about their own selfish feelings, and you were an available target. Now, you don't have to be. So don't be. Get those weeds out of your garden, talk to people you trust, and step by step take back the power.

Or you will victimize your loved ones with constant complaints and the tragedy that is your life.

Answer 2

I "was" a victim of a horrible crime. But i no longer dwell on it. I no longer see myself as a victim, but someone who has overcome the odds to make myself a better person and learn from it.

I do hate the fact that this happened - but....for me it made me more aware of things around me. Also I dont care how other people perceive me or what happened in the past...the past is gone. I still have a future to look forward to and its now that counts the most.

Answer 3

I was a victim as a child. A was a victim in highschool. I was a victim in the military, and I'm a victim now. This country was only made for certain types of people.

Answer 4

i hate being the victim for anything. i see victims being people who are weak. but when i became one my veiws did change but i dont want to let me stay as the victim forever. so i stood up to my fears, i learned as much as i could in life, and i didnt let anything hold me back after that. so yea people who are victims are weak but getting though it makes that victim stronger.

Answer 5

I was a victim of a cheating boyfriend, and then his new girlfriend's car was the victim of my revenge.

Answer 6

hi,victim of violent crime,me and my youngest son,3, to someone i trusted....i did'nt even know him,.....so sad 4 us....no one knows him....but after what he did to me,....my childrens mother..... all of us are victims of him.... i was his 4th , in a 4 year period,that he severily attacked out of the clear blue , without any warning,and out of that ,planted a fear in me that i have never known,he attacked me from behind,and never seeing him coming is what saved my life......than he took my baby and hide 4 2 days.....i will have the rest of my life to try to be "normal" with very little trust in any, and/or all....it sucks!out of a 1 to 4,he got 5 years,.....i got life....i hope no one will ever experence the lawlessness of this one persons discussting acts of violence.......i need Dr. Phil....does anyone know him ? i hope you find your peace,2 date ,i have not......i'll pray 4 u.........

Answer 7

If you dont' tell anyone, then how would they know?...sometimes, in our quest for help, we bear our souls...but then, as you said, it can get used against us...the Bible tells us, never let the right hand know what the left hand is doing, so therefore, tell no one, and no one will have anything on you..God Bless

Answer 8

Try and put it behind me. Forget about it and make memories to forget it..