Do you think some gay men are gay because they want to associate themselves with the image of the strong man?

Question

I mean some gay men, not all, lack the masculine features and typical manly behavior. Do you think, that's what turns them to become gay? So they can associate themselves with another man and hence feel comfortable and "complete"?

obviously, you know nothing about homosexuality, nor about psychology. And it's arrogant and disrespectful to call people AMATEURS. There are 3 gay personalities as you know. I am talking about the Feminine senstitive personality.

Answer 1

nah...they r actually more in touch with their feminine side n thus r lean n sophisticated...n have those girlish looks or dress up like them...

Answer 2

Amateur psychology is a dangerous hobby.

Are gay men gay because they want to replace a missing masculine force in their lives, OR

Do they seek a missing masculine force in their lives Because they are gay?

And what about their partners? Some gay men play more of a "man" role while others play a "woman" role... If the same theory held true, then the more masculine partner must be seeking a missing "feminine" element.

Which doesn't ake any sense--Seeking the feminine leads most men to "women"

Answer 3

no i think all gays r born with differant genes

had friend with 2 chilrdren girl and boy saw them from babies they had mother an father u could see from young age the boy was going to be gay

Answer 4

You question I believe was a good one. Below is basically how I view the masc/fem issue.
The masculinity obsession

I’m probably a bit late in addressing an issue that some members had about my comment concerning “high school girlish behaviors. I perhaps could have worded it differently since there was obviously a misunderstanding of how I feel about the masculine/feminine issue. To me they are neutral issues and should be considered as such. Please read my posting below that I have sent out and has been very well received by many newspapers around the world. I think it makes my point clearer in regards to this issue.
I believe that many of the issues about the struggle for gay rights runs deeper than just people’s religious values.
Growing up as a gay man in American society, a male child learns early on the obvious superior position the more masculine the male the higher social standing he will likely attain by it’s sheer virtue. It is very clear that the masculine male athlete is considered of the highest social standing. How Americans worship their male athletes is the prime example of this hyper-masculine obsession within American culture. I believe this obsession with masculinity is one of the major issues behind homophobia. People need to understand that there is a wide range of behaviors ranging from very masculine to very effeminate. This range is not only found in homosexuals, but heterosexuals as well.
Having spent much of my life traveling all over the world because of my interest in cultures, I have however particularly noticed that in most of the European countries there isn’t quite the masculine obsession we Americans have. Being a gay man, we all know what gaydar means. Some heterosexual people may even have heard this term but don’t understand quite what it means. It means having almost a sixth sense about which men are gay and which aren’t. It’s an interesting phenomenon that needs greater study in its own right. Gay men tend to have pretty good gaydar which is clearly a learned behavior that can be quite accurate. This learned trait I believe is based on the phenomenon of the American masculine obsession and how gay men unconsciously during their lives observe what it is to be masculine in America. This obsession actually causes men that are not stereotypically masculine by nature to try and become masculine acting by practice. You see it in our own president who has obviously bought into this belief and is clearly acting out a hyper masculine image. He has adapted to walking and taking like an American cowboy hero that just got off from his horse which is clearly evident in his stance and gate. He even feels the need to hold is arms further away from his body than need be to give the impression of his arms being to muscular to be able to hold them closer. This learned behavior stems I believe from hyper insecurity which encourages men to try and become what they consider to be what is most admired. However, conversely one does not often see this behavior within most European cultures because they don’t seem to have the hyper-masculine worship that we Americans have. Perhaps we have it because of the history of how our country was founded. The reason why I mentioned gaydar is because in Europe my gaydar does not work well because many of the European men by American standards act effeminate. It is not that they are effeminate, that is once again only relative to American cultural standards by how we were taught to measure masculinity. European men just walk, talk and act much more naturally and without giving thought to whether they are perceived as being masculine or feminine. This then translates into the fear of being considered gay.
The issue of masculine/feminine ought to be considered a neutral issue within a healthy culture that is not fraught with fear about being considered gay or straight.
Gay men I have observed over my many years of being an out gay man have even bought into this American hyper-masculine worship. They will often try and act masculine, and will on chat lines make certain that the gay man they are talking to knows that they are the masculine type. Most of us, whether gay or straight are somewhere in the middle. However, many men will practice trying to be, on the masculine scale from 1 to 10, will try to act and be perceived closer to a 10. It is truly an interesting phenomenon. This is likely partly the reason why athletes have trouble coming out of the closet because they will lose much of their social standing and adoration. We as Americans need to be more concerned about our ethics, morals and social decay rather than being so concerned about the way we were born to behave and what actually comes naturally to us. This obsession I believe is behind much of the emotional damage done to gay men in particular which manifests in a variety of ways even in adulthood. The emotional damage is done early on in a gay child’s development. This belief is what inspired me to author the book;” why gay men do what they do, inside look at gay culture. In this book I explain in detail what this obsession has done to the gay psyche. Thank you, Aaron Jason Silver www.aaronjasonsilver.com

Answer 5

An excellent theory and insightful question........Psychology is fascinating but i dont know enough to say your correct or not.........its interesting though........Im Bi and do find myself attracted to "strong" men........very interesting.........

Answer 6

they are born gay, with more y chromosomes than they should have.