Or do we keep the laws that give women all of the options and choices shielding them from responsibility and accountability and men no option to opt out of responsibility and accountability depending on the womans decision ?
2007-06-02 00:02:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I was talkin about reproductive choices here really.
WOmen can abort give birth and keep the baby cashing in child support give brith and give the baby away without beeing held responsibel in any way while men MUST pay or go to jail. Should we keep laws that allow women to do what they want or should we held them accountabel and responsibel for the consequences of their sex life ?
2007-06-02 00:17:56 · update #1
YES they should be, but as usual they are not.
The people here that say "everyone is responsible for their actions" have a severe case of cranial rectal impaction !
Women have choices to help them cope with the results of their previous choices, MEN DO NOT ! According to the cop with the gun in his face ! Which is how all laws are inevitably ENFORCED. And YES men have laws that MAKE them responsible for their choices, women have none regarding their "choice".
Men also have the DRAFT, no choice over their bodies, women once again have choice, how convenient !
2007-06-05 19:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by dean g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are held accountable, just not in the same way that men are. I agree that it is an unfair system, but i would suggest that instead of eliminating choices for women, why don't we give more choices to men? Give them a chance to opt out of child support, make sure they know they have that option. They should also be allowed to set up their own child support agreement without state intervention if that is what they want. If they are going to opt out then they should be given a window of time in which to do so. As far as if a woman is pregnant and doesn't want to keep it, but the man does, then it becomes a personal situation between the two of them. He should not have the legal right to prevent her from making a choice, but i do think she should tell him what she plans to do and take his opinion into account.
2007-06-02 00:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by bluestareyed 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Again, women, just as men, are accountable for their actions...that's why the laws are in place...to protect. Not saying that all laws are perfect, but there nonetheless.
It sounds to me like two people here made a decision one night that potentially will be affecting the rest of your lives. Well, yes, she should be held accountable, however, you were there too. Accidents happen, or do they? In this case, I think the laws are in place to keep the woman responsible, with options to help. She will, essentially, be making a decision that will force her into responsibility and accountability for the rest of her life, no matter which way the coin lands.
**ADDITION**
Yes, men must pay. You must be either very young, or very naive to think that Child Support is to be cashed in to go out partying with. Do you realize the actual cost of raising a child? Do you know the "hidden costs"? This is what the woman makes the choice to do:
1) Give up her personal freedom and the rest of her life ensure the life of the life she helped to create (with you, btw)
2) If she makes the choice to abort, she lives with the guilt of that decision every day of her life until the day she dies.
3) If she chooses to have the baby, she lives with the guilt of having the responsibility for this child and knowing that EVERY decision she makes from this day forward has a direct affect on the outcome of this childs life
4) If she chooses to keep the baby, she will be a very strong woman to have made this decision, because THIS IS the toughest job you'll ever love
5) She'll bear the responsibility to feed, clean, and teach this child...
Bottom line is, men have the ability to walk away. Period. You can "opt out", I suppose, but would you really want to? Can you? Why?
2007-06-02 00:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer p 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I believe Cassius is speaking about the woman's choice whether to have a baby or abort it. The father of the child is not given a choice about the matter and if the woman chooses to have the child, the man is forced to pay child support. Unfortunately, what he doesn't take in to consideration is the fact that he is equally responsible for the pregnancy in the first place since they do make male contraception. It may not be 100% effective, but if he had used it, I'm sure the pregnancy would not have happened. Consider your own responsibility as well Cassius.
2007-06-02 00:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by jingles 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ahhahahahahahah....
You are very confused. The woman IS the one responsible for her sexual life. You're only pissed that, due to the prevelance of premarital sex and jerky guys like you, someone had to legally force men to help support their children. They legally force women to care for their children once they are born, too. The woman has to do far, far more than send in a check if she doesn't want people to call DCFS. She has to DEVOTE HER LIFE to the child. You can still have your own life, but you still have to send a few bucks her way. Gosh, having children together when you're not married or living together is really hard, huh? Yeah, us ladies figured that out a LONG time ago.
I would just love to hear what sort of "law" you have in mind here. The forced abortion law? The love em' and leave em' law? Clarify that for me. :-)
2007-06-02 04:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by Junie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, are you through? Salary - Partner - Sexual Life... I was holding off until you ran out of breath.
Salary - I was going to say, ultimately the responsibility lays in the potential employee's hands (male or female) - if you don't like the offer and the employer won't go up - look elsewhere.
Partner - "the success of the marriage, or should we keep divorce laws, alimony laws, that shift accountability soely on the mans shoulders and domestic violence laws that rewards a womans poor pick by evicting the man out of his own house while allowing her to use the house although she does not own the house or is in any way related to the man ?"
This is the one that alerted me to your attitude...
If you have experienced a particularly nasty divorce, all I can say is, your wife must have had a good attorney... because in my divorce, everything was divided... by His attorney - I didn't have one. By everything, I mean property - bills - what have you... Everything. Even the debt he ran up on credit cards he obtained during the time he was having his affair. So... I'm a little bewildered as to what laws you deem as rewarding women for their 'poor pick'.
And now to this one - Sexual Life - what, exactly, are you referring to? The only thing I can think of here that you may be referring to is a woman's choice to have a baby or abort... but what I have to ask in response is, wasn't the man there the night the child was conceived? He made a choice that night, just as she did. So, I'm not clear as to what you are getting at.
You sound bitter, angry and like one who has been severely burned... and as one who has been severely burned - I feel for you... but being vicious towards all of the opposite gender like this isn't going to resolve anything for you - take anything away - or even make you feel any better.
And if you have not been severely burned - where is all of this coming from, then?
2007-06-02 00:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by jenneylou 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
i think women are responsible and accountable for their sexual lives...we are held by a standard in society and if having children too young or too many children...or having an abortion...all of those things are not only judging us for our sexual life but holding us accountable...i guess that is just my view on it...and being female i know i have made choices based on those standards and views...which i may choosen differently...
2007-06-02 00:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by Daisy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For her own sexual life, yes. Because it's a choice, and if a bad choice, she has to deal with the consequences.
2007-06-02 08:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're giving a woman all the power in the relationship, do not blame the woman. If you want a woman that will be responsible for her own choices, then find one....they do exist!
2007-06-02 00:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
well since you guys are always up for sex and we are not. since you think with your penis and want to get off while we have to care for the person or be in love. we are always on our guard, at partys when we have drinks, out dancing and having fun. you forget we have always been accountable for our sexual life, if someone says we're easy or a slut , we carry that load, our reputation is always there to be played, as for men , noone really cares about yours. we have to be on guard all the time. and when we are not, than we are fuked with and labeled.
please buy a blow up doll and worry about other things.
2007-06-02 00:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋