I feel so stupid even adressing this, but I find myself in a state of confusion. I have a professor who basically seems to praise me a lot, likes to strike up conversation as much as possible, even seems to look at me frequently and tries to catch my glance and hold it very often, and there is some friendly touching (pat on the back, hand on the shoulder etc.).
Now here comes the question:
Does he just see me as an individual rather than a student, and quite possibly is interested in me as a person... Or is he coming on to me...?
The only reason why I can't tell is simply because all of the things he does is in a very... how do I put this... non-sleezy manner.
2007-06-01 20:22:36 · 12 answers · asked by Piscesgial 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Some people are just extremely friendly. But in case he is a sleeze and wants you, just be nice, don't stare at him, and don't go to office hours (unless it's EXTREMELY necessary), the year is almost over so be friendly enough that he won't try to change your grade.
2007-06-01 20:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Calista 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of those things can be tied up with each other. I would guess "all of the above." He's leaving a door ajar and waiting to see whether you want to open it. If you enter of your own choice and he has not pressured or manipulated you, great for him. If you ignore it, no trouble for him--he wins either way. But his interest probably does spring from your intelligence and academic enthusiasm.
So the question is what do YOU want? Is he married or otherwise committed? How great is the age difference? At any rate, if you want to pursue this, you must wait until doing so will not create a conflict of interest for him, i.e., you are out of his academic shadow.
2007-06-09 23:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by nightserf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Investigate. Does he treat any other student in your class similarly?
Ask around and see if anyone else notices it, or if anyone has this professor for other classes and has seen the same thing.
Once I had a teacher actually hit on me, and I couldn't believe that that was what it was. I found out later that a friend had taken her class a few years before, and she had tried to set up 'special' study sessions with him.
Be discreet, though. If he's just a nice guy who thinks you're a good student, you could hurt his feelings.
2007-06-02 04:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Doc Occam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always be a professional. Instructors many times are kind and caring to their students and then again in college there may be some with ulterior motives. Just focus on yourself, study hard and enjoy your schooling. Do your best not to get to close to this person. Honestly, you will be happier in the long run.
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2007-06-09 23:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by starrdust2infinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has cross the line and you are not stupid. He should not touch, period. A professional cannot show anything but a professional interest in all students. That line is thin and you need to make sure neither of you crosses it.
2007-06-10 02:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these situations are always really tricky. it sounds like you really respect and like this person, so it's understandable that you are afraid of jumping to conclusions.
you should trust your gut. if you feel even a twinge of attraction, it may be real. but how you act on it (or allow that person to act on it) will be the deal breaker.
maybe keep the conversations short and stay further than his reach.
2007-06-10 01:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by tw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be worried about student professor relationship or he might be shy or worried how you would react, ask him out to coffee off campus and see how he reacts
2007-06-09 10:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by shadowalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants you to let him know you like him as well.
He is not a sleeze, he's probably looking for a girlfriend.
Now the $50,000 question, is he married?
2007-06-08 07:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl be careful. If it's like that now it can get worse. Let him know you are bit uncomfortable and explain to him how you feel.
2007-06-09 09:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by sharon b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably has decided to take you under his wing and help you but not sure. these days there are so many things out there its not easy to tell if its honest or stupid.
2007-06-09 21:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋