How can someone with Bi-Polar ever get married?

Question

When I'm well (or on a high).. I'm fun, lively..interesting, well traveled, and a pretty cool person (well I think I am!)..

But when I'm in a bad period.. I can't even get out of bed, or get washed..


Is it possible ever to get married or have a lang term relationship.. when I depression?

Thankyou everybody for your answers. They have helped very much.
I will choose best in 2 days time

Answer 1

I have Bi-polar, and i am soon to be wed. But nbo doubt it is hard on a relationship. My Soon to be husband, is very patient, but wasn't always like that, It ook quite a while for him to fully understand the bi-polar .
The thing i learnt about maintaining a great relationship and Bi-polar is figure out how BOTH people can manage it. When i have my Lows, he understands, and by now he knows what i'm like in my lows, and can figure out whether it is an approachable low where i need comforting, or an Un approachable low when i need ot lock myself away, he knows how to keep me alittle bit more gorunded in my highs. All In all it takes patience and understand, It helps that along the journey the person will be able to support and know you.

Answer 2

It is possible. I was engaged to a Bi-Polar man but that did not work out and honestly it was the best decision in my life at that time to get out of that relationship. But not meaning to get you down, the relationship was horrible. I was verbally abused and put down. I never got the support when I needed it.

The person you will more than likely marry will be a person who is understanding and supportive. Just make sure that you take care of yourself and take the medication no matter how many times you may have to change it. Also make sure that you see some one who is a specialist. My ex saw a person who used me a second opinion because I went online and looked up the symptoms.

Answer 3

Oh, yes, you can find someone. I am a bipolar woman. I have been married for twelve years and have two children. My husband hates to be without me. He has been with me through some really terrible times, when I was still trying to find the right meds. I have been in the darkest depressions, wanted to die, threatening suicide, going to the hospital, all sorts of things. He still stays with me.

There was a time, I felt I should divorce him since I didn't think he should have to deal with this. He refused to talk about it.

We also have two sons, one is normal, the other, like me, has bipolar, among other things.

It's hard and not everyone is up to the task. But there are a lot of strong people out there. Just try not to end up with another bipolar, that might be a disaster.

Answer 4

my wife is bi-polar and last summer she had a bad period. I made her get out of bed and wash,but it was a struggle. she almost lost her job,and probably would have had I not pushed her to go see the doctor. I read that it takes most people with bi polar disorder at least 3 different medications before they can bring the disease under control. Just keep seeing your doctor (even if you don't feel like it, do it anyway). Ask about cymbalta it worked for my wife.

Answer 5

I'll probably rub some people the wrong way with this, but I think it depends on the person. Some people are bi-polar, and it's a struggle for them, but they do their utmost not to take it out on the people in the lives, and work hard to maintain the relationships in their lives. If that describes you, of course you can get married. But if you can't manage your behavior to a reasonable degree, I think you have to be very careful. Growing up, my best friend's mother was bi-polar, and she basically ruined his life. For her, being bi-polar wasn't a struggle, it was a rationale for bad behavior. Put simply, ask yourself if you can live up to the responsibilities of family life before you dive in.

Depression is a real struggle. I wish you the best. Good luck.

Answer 6

I'm bipolar &, even tho I didn't know it until I was in my late 40's, I decided not to marry until I 'got my act together.' Of course I never did.

I know a lot of ex-spouses who were married to bipolars. We're difficult to live with.

Of course you can get married. The question really is, should you? I wouldn't marry because I didn't think it would be fair to anyone. And I wouldn't have children since bipolar disorder is genetic. I am one of 4 children & 3 of us are bipolar.

I've had long term relationships which have worked because we never lived together. I would tell someone not to visit when I was in a 'down' period.

Answer 7

Yes its possible. I know so many people who are married to someone with depression or is bi polar. Of course its difficult to "deal" with that persons illness but they do it because they love them. Only one of those couple's marriage didn't last, but the one with bi polar ended it. So it is very possible, you just have to make sure that the one you marry is strong enough to handle it. Make sure you stay on your medication. It'll make life a little easier for the both of you (which I'm sure you already know) =)

Answer 8

I have a friend who is Bi-Polar and it can be a chore being her friend. I sometimes wonder if This particular mental disorder is hard to medicate or if she stops taking her med's. She swears she takes them but I would assume that if it is hard being her friend how much harder would it be to be married to a person with Bi-Polar. But if your Dr. can find the right Medication to control your mood swings I think you could get married.

Answer 9

It is possible to marry if you are bi-polar. Hopefully your significant other understands the mental disorder & is very loving & understanding & patient. I think the secret to this is to remain on your meds don't become non-compliant otherwise eventually the significant other may not have the patience to deal with the depression.

Answer 10

Yes its possible i see married bi polar people all the time. But i would caution you against having children because a child of a bi-polar is more likely to be bipolar himself or herself ( its genetic tends to run in families)