Help please it is every night he says he feels safer but we live in a very friendly safe suburb!!
2007-06-01 19:32:56 · 17 answers · asked by Amanda P 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He's Rambo.
2007-06-01 19:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Fraspas 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your Husband is a drug dealer!! Why else would someone keep a knife or gun beside them at night, other than to protect themselves if say he received an unwelcome visitor during the night, looking for drugs or tinnies. And if that's not the case, then he could have some gang affiliation & he's worried & concerned for his life. I wouldn't think it had anything to do with protecting you, he's scared **** less, some one is out to get him & he keeps a knife under his pillow for his protection! If he tells you to mind your own business, can only mean he's up to no good! If it concerns you too much then consult the Police if your so worried, just for them to know should anything happen to you later! For all you know the Police maybe watching him anyway & you may as well become an accessory, so to keep yourself in the clear, then it wouldn't help them to know how concerned you are! Cheers!!
2016-04-01 10:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His fear may be a bit (or a lot) irrational - but people do have different levels of anxiety from each other whether or not something in their life has increased their feelings of anxiety. Some people are just more cautious and anxious than other people. I don't think its a big deal. If it makes him feel safer, then that's better than him feeling scared. If you're going to sleep you need to be able to be totally relaxed and not anxious - so if he didn't sleep with his knife - and he felt a little anxious about it - he would have trouble sleeping. It is definitely something that gives him security, means that he can 'forget' to worry, means that he can get too sleep, and relax. I'd suggest talking with him about it as much as he is willing to do so. What specifically is he afraid of? Does he know why? Has he always slept with a knife under his pillow? Or did something in his life happen, that meant he became more anxious afterwards?
Your husband is not crazy to be afraid of home-intruders, or whatever. He is just more anxious than other people. If his anxiety is affecting other areas of his life, it may be something more important that needs to be addressed by him, and maybe by seeing a counsellor or psychologist
2007-06-01 21:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is paranoid delusional but that doesn't mean he's crazy. It only means that he is abnormally (normal is overrated) concerned about circumstances that are extremely unlikely to happen. He also holds the irrational belief that, with his knife,he will be capable of solving whatever problems he may be presented with during the night. A good approach to a resolution is to let him know that the knife bothers you and to let him know that you would feel better if he put it nearby but not under his pillow. He believes the knife provides safety so make sure you let him understand that the knife makes you feel unsafe, thereby negating the effect.
2007-06-01 20:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by texaspicker0 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something traumatic has happened somewhere along the way. Did he serve in Iraq? Did he have a bad childhood? You need to ask him. If that is the case, then some counseling would probably be a good idea and a security system. You also need to consider your safety with him doing that. Do you have children? Are they safe? Talking too him is where it needs to start, then some really serious counseling.
2007-06-01 20:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess would be he was caught under an unsafe environment in the past. I was never a fan of guns, but one time I got mugged at gunpoint. For a few months after that, I started seriously thinking that I should get a gun too. Thank God I never did.
2007-06-01 19:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by jhiieri 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It looks a mild case of paranoid schizophrenia, maybe it is, maybe it's not, but i strongly suggest both of you go see a therapist, most people do not go see the therapist, because they are either scared of being revealed or feel like nothing is wrong with themselves, and the sad thing is, most never do
2007-06-01 20:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by mx6david 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has seen the movie Fatal Attraction way too many times
2007-06-01 19:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by fermin s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much life insurance do you have? He's probably thinking of slitting your throat one of these days, but is either waiting for the right time or gaining the courage to do it.
2007-06-01 19:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by June 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him. Ask him what he feels unsafe about. Things like this are personal and you can't expect someone else to know the answer.
2007-06-01 19:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by goddess588 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must have a genuine fear of something. Get him some counseling and he may be able to figure it out and resolve it.
2007-06-01 19:46:43 · answer #11 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋