Ok, I'm currently dating a very handsome and wonderful guy. He's Black and Arab abd my family keeps in aksing if hes a muslim or does speak arabic. Sometimes their questions are annoying. My grandma said that Arab men are controlling and that if he is muslim he might beat me. And they keep telling me that if I marry him our kids will be confused. I;m not listening to their comments. They haven't even meet him, why are they making ignorant judgements about him?
2007-06-01 18:54:47 · 6 answers · asked by Ayita 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
You're family is probably just worried about you. People tend to generalise different religions/cultures etc so this belief that if he is a muslim he will beat you is just a stereotype. As is he will be forceful because he is arab. I think most arab men were like this & still are in some arab countries, but we're in the 21st century and even the arab men are getting with the times. Ultimately it's only what you think that should matter, after all you're dating him, not your family.
Goodluck.
2007-06-01 19:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where you are from and how you and he were raised. Where is he from? Many Arabic men were raised to see women as objects and property. Watch the movie "Not without my Daughter" and you will see the perfect example of why they are afraid for you. A woman married a Muslim and when they left America to visit his family, he turned into a completely different person. His wife and daughter were stuck in another country and it took her a long time escape! It's based on a true story. I had a friend who married someone like that and he didn't change until after they got married. She became his "property" and gave all her possessions to his family! He then insisted his son would not speak english. I know this isn't true for all Arabic men but I understand the concern.
2007-06-01 19:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by amyaz_98 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would personally laugh at whats going on, cause it seems like you guys.............. are not confuse BUT don't know how "accept" the fact that he is a mix blood & he is MUSLIM(arabic) + BLACK. Everytime his around your family & friends, ALL of you think + COMMONSENSE, that he is arab 'n' black, he won't fulfill his role as MAN etc = LOOKS TO ME that you are not READY to have a serious relationship, soooooooooooooooo educate your family first if you truely love him.
2007-06-01 19:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are all wrong stereotypes..Arab men nowadays are very faithful loving and not violent ..but you probably know that :) the thing is that you need to convince your family that they are mistaken...you should give them examples of good muslim or arabic men...and start by your boyfriend who is surely very loving and thoughtful
2007-06-01 23:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by whatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not true, my friend is engaged to an Arab who is totally devoted to her, so thoughtful and kind! Hopefully once they meet him they will change their mind.
2007-06-01 19:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by Angelacia baybeeeeee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are trying to protect you. Think about your parents experiences and the experience you've had, and you and your children will have with prejudice/racism.
2007-06-01 19:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by Leesra aka college girl 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋