Is it normal for me to want to avoid talking to people...?

Question

like at school when i have free time i put on my i-pod and i ignore the people around me. at home i go straight to my room. I don't tell anybody about how i feel.

Answer 1

It could be normal, or it could be something serious like depression or anxiety related. But, it really depends on your reasoning behind secluding yourself from the world. It seems like you are conscious of the choices you are making so there must be some reasoning deep down why you are acting this way. You should explore that, and if the answer makes no sense to you or if you have no real answer then maybe you should seek some type of help- at the very least find someone you can talk to about it.

Answer 2

Could be anxiety and yes it will most likely lead to depression, is the feeling normal? Yes. Is it a good thing? Not at all. This could have been caused by a rejection you've had in the past or a superiority complex you have towards others (these two are the most common reasons). Some rejections are hard to take, and certain people hard to like, but at the end you need to get over it. Start talking to your family and classmates. It doesn't have to be an elaborated conversation, just comments and greetings. Talk to different people too, socially and economically different to you.

Separating yourself from people and avoiding them all the time doesn't really hurt them, it hurts you.

At the end you will find your niche.

And that i found out the hard way.
Almost too late to even have friends in school.

I hope you tell us later if anything changed : )

Answer 3

Normal? I guess technically no because most people feel the need to have their everyone thought and feeling witnessed by others (which is not necessarily healthy). However not engaging others socially is perfectly healthy as long it does not interfere with your life. The question you may want to ask yourself is if your desire to not socially engage others come from insecurity, low-self-esteem or a general disinterest in what the average person has to offer? If this avoiding behavior is based on insecurities or low self-esteem then the behavior could be unhealthy and may want to look to correct it.

If it is based in the idea that the average person just does not interest you then I would not call you anti-social but more socially indifferent. This is how I am most of the time at school but I have made it a point to make sure I can engage people socially when I am engaged or I need to interact to achieve a goal which I cannot achieve on my own. If I was unable to interact with others when it is necessary then I would seek help with social interaction.

In college you can get such help free. Your advisor can help you find such help if it is needed.

Answer 4

I think this is a stage that most people go through. I know in school I was an extremely shy person and most of the time I would avoid talking to people. As time went by, I started to come out of my shell more and more. It wasn't until I got a job at 18 that required me to have so much contact with the public that I finally felt like I was past whatever it was that I was going though that made me want to avoid talking to people. My only advice is that if you feel like you are alone all the time and WANT to talk to someone and there is no one there....only then is it something that I would be concerned about. Best of luck to you....

Answer 5

There are times when we want to be alone because we are concentrating in something that requires all our attention and we dont want to be distracted. There are times, that depending upon the circumstances the appropreate thing to do is to interact -because it is the social norm to do so-not doing it means your not considerate.

Now avoiding people that you are not confortable shearing your feeling is natural, but, we all need someone-a friend, a significant other, a counselor, a priest -someone that we can trust and unloaed whatever is that you are feeling.

Let's say you are sad, angry, disapointed, scare, insecure, happy, undicided, or what ever the feeling is that you cannot
handle yourself, then it is better to talk it out with somebody
who is sensitive, mature and capable, specialy of confidence.

I have a B.A. in social science with a major in psychology and a Master in Counseling, so I know that at certain age we
are unsure about how to deal with certain aspects of life and
it is better to seek someone who is older and mature and that
person must have integrity and must respect you and your feeling and honesty.

I hope I answered your question, but if you have something to
ask further feel free to contact me at [e-mail]
and I will be glad answer your question, be asure that I am old enough and has lived long enough -I am 62 years old-
to be able to have a perspective of your current emotional situation. By and God Bless you

Answer 6

Alone time is good and everyone definetly has their alone time moments but anti-social people don't know what they are missing. Countless memories of fun can be recalled from social events I've had, how many countless fun times can you recall being alone by yourself ? Find people who have similar interests, join clubs/groups, go out and do new things. It seems as if you are just sheltering yourself from the world or don't feel comfortable with yourself being around other people. Leave your ipod at home, give people a chance, and you'll see how easy it can be to fit in if you just interact with people.

Answer 7

NO, Its wrong. You are going through some psycological problem.I did same as you done in many of my years and suffered a lot. In Those time feel nervous anxiety while talking people.Later I over come the habit of less talking and start talking with people.which turn out to benificial for me. I gain a lot of things, I understood world better and I an\m not along suffering but many of people suffering more than me that moral of the story I conclued

Answer 8

You're just antisocial. This is common in America, especially among teenagers. It is a result of the individualization that society imposes on us - people are encouraged to do things themselves, talk on cell phones instead of to people around them, listen to headphones instead of singing in groups. If you go elsewhere in the world, especially to indigenous societies, you will find that this does not happen.

Human beings are social creatures and the antisocial feelings we have here in America are unnatural. Over time they can make us depressed - this is one reason why there is so much mental illness in America.

I would encourage you to try to find ways to interact with other people. It doesn't have to be people your own age or in your school - look around, join a sports team or club, make friends with your teachers, see a therapist. All social stimulation will help. I made the mistake of allowing myself to stay antisocial during high school and it led to years of depression and difficulty in forming relationships with other people.

Many antisocial people end up depressed at some point in their lives. This can also lead to anxiety and fear of being around humans (this is a real disorder). If you try to work through it now, it will be easier than if you wait until later. So yes, it is fairly normal, but that doesn't necessarily make it a good thing. For your mental health, it's best to try to make a friend or two so that you don't feel alone forever.

Good luck! :)

Answer 9

Alone time definitely helps you develop as a person. You are able to reflect on your life and think things without upsetting your friends for not talking. However, too much is a bad thing and can lead you to anxiety and depression. Don't worry though, just have your alone time and social time balanced in some sort of equilibrium that works for you.

Answer 10

Yes, It's completely normal. In most cases, it has nothing to do with Anxiety or physiological issues. I'm a very bubbly individual, and Ironically enough I'm quite the derelict. Some people also prefer keeping to themselves, like you're saying. Though I would suggest talking to others when you're upset or need to get something off your chest. ~_^