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why most older people say that, I mean when we are young we think we have lots of friends, but older people say "there are no friends in this world, the only people you can count on is your family" I wonder if thats because they Know since they already lived that stage..and i have notice most married and older people do not have many friends and they hang out more w/ family members,,,could that be true?

2007-06-01 16:38:42 · 6 answers · asked by c'mon 1 in Family & Relationships Friends

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Well, I believe that it is a matter of who you are. People make choices in their lives and people get busy. It is important to have friends. I work with the elderly a lot, and there are many who do have friends and who will come and see them in the hospital or nursing home where I work. Most of the family members are not alive anymore and they have several friends. One lady use to bowl and several of them come and see her.

I have also had patients who didn't have anyone, family or friends, which is sad.

My Dad really doesn't have friends, but he says that people try to take advantage of him. He use to work on cars and now that he is 65, he doesn't do it anymore. He said people only come around when they wanted him to fix their car. He complains that people do not come. My mother dies 7 years ago at the age of 55. Some of her siblings would always come for my Dad to fix their vehicle. They don't go to my Dad's anymore because he stopped working on their vehicles. He had one friend who worked with him back then, but he is only an acquaintance now.

People come and go in our lives and we have to make an effort not to let some of them disappear. Some are here only shortly to make an impact on us and then move on. I have friends that were in high school, but I don't correspond with them anymore. I have moved away. They got married and have their own family. When I was in the military, I had a best friend who I miss now. She got married and had a baby and I lost touch with her.

I have 3 best friends now and we all do things differently and have different attitudes about friendships. Circumstances can change our lives, but we can make an effort not to lose those people who are important to us. Family is family and will love us no matter what.

I have had friends that when they get a boyfriend or girlfriend, I never hear from them again. It was more imprtant to them for them to focus their energy on their significant other. It wasn't that they didn't like me anymore, they just had different priorities.

You must have met alot of people who lost the friends along the way. You don't have to be that way. I see all sorts of things in the medical field and you would be surprised of who befriends the elderly. Church members will come and visit them too. They really appreciate it.

It is not always true with what you hear. Best wishes to you and remember to stay in touch with your friends and never meet a stranger as they may one of your best friends in the future.

2007-06-01 16:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0 0

Hopefully people can find a balance. But what they mean is friends will come and go, but family has no choice but to stick with you. However in the times we are living with the definition of family is changing. I have been best friends with my best friend for 20 years through good and bad I am closer to her than I am any of my siblings, cousins or other family members. Also I live 700 miles away from all of my family so I tend to spend special occasions with close friends whom are like family.

2007-06-01 17:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by Hetti_B 2 · 0 0

People after getting married prefer to spend more time with their families because everybody else is doing the same thing.You can see your friends as your family but that will not do much good coz you cannot share everything with them.

2007-06-02 01:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by Gokcer 1 · 0 0

No. They made bad choices in friends. Also married people often isolate themselves and drift apart from their friends. They still see their family cuz well... it's family.

2007-06-01 16:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sadly, Yes it is!

We don't hang w/any friends much anymore.

2007-06-01 16:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

sometimes!

2007-06-01 16:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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