Im 21 years old and I have been friends with a guy that is 26 for a while. He has been through a great deal of things in his life, which has caused him to suffer from a broken heart. We talk on the phone quite often, He calls and talks to be about his problems, and has even told me deep feelings and cried because of being so hurt. He has told me that he loves me many times more than a friend, but I thought maybe it was due to the fact that he was just vunerable. Last night when I answered the phone He said " How is my future girl? What have you done to me, and what are u doing to me, I think about you so much, your such a good woman, I work in a club and im around women all the time and i could take any of them home, but I dont want to, all i can think of is you, because your real." then I asked so what are you trying to say? and he replied "I don't know, you just make me so happy"...right now im a bit confused, is he saying that he wants to be with me... I hope so because I love him
2007-06-01 16:31:08 · 14 answers · asked by kidd_nolia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell him, he's afraid to take the step. Trust me men are much more likely to want to take the friend to lover jump than women are, so if you're all about it, he probably has been for a while.
2007-06-01 16:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by Rhyno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A red flag should go off when he says he isn't sure what he wants (because he really does). It means he doesn't want you, just the things you provide. In your case it’s a sympathetic ear, emotional support, attention, etc.
If you love this guy and you STILL want to take the chance, then be his Friend BUT his Friend ONLY till he sorts it out. A healthy relationship can't be built on a foundation of his insecurities.
You need and deserve a complete man. If you move this into the physical now, you run the risk always being in a dependent, one-sided relationship with you on the loosing end. You are very young and one of your great attributes is the kind of unconditional love you are showing. Dangerous however. You are likely to get your heart broken as you put this guy back together.
Besides, men may ask for an opinion or perspective or even temporary emotional support but we are programmed to make decisions ourselves. We repair ourselves and can come to resent the woman who "puts us together" after an emotional crash. He has to heal himself. Let him. And if, over time, he is in the same state, dump him as a romantic prospect and find a stable man who will love you for the nurturing and gentle woman you are.
2007-06-01 17:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by Dave W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is.
I hope he is not playing you.
He sounds adept in the ways of getting into your pants.
I could be wrong though. People thought such things about me too. But I am a romantic at heart and was always just looking for the right one.
Just be honest with yourself. Don't let yourself be fooled. But dont expect to be fooled... I hope im not confusing you.
In other words, when your instincts tell you something, investigate the possibility. You will find out either good or bad, but at least you will find out and not be caught by suprise which would be your broken heart.
2007-06-01 16:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you would be confused he sounds like he's a bit confused too. Remain his friend you sound like a good one, but you got to let him get all of his own feelings in check first. Don't allow him to ruin your friendship with him because you dive in to a relationship. He is definitely not ready for one and you might be the one to get hurt in the end wait for reality to hit you both.
2007-06-01 16:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by dizzymom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is. So make the 1st move. Nows the right time. Don't wait coz from experience I waited and the boy didnt like me. Confusing I know!
2007-06-01 16:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes go for it if a boy really loves you should start dating him.You guys do what couples do.You talk to him on the about your problems and he says that he loves you.If he was your friend for along time you should go for it. YOU MAKE HIM PROUD
2007-06-01 16:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he wants u. why not u ask him..is he love u and want u to become his girlfren..dont be shy. just ask..gud luck! emm...i also have experience like this,and i ask that guy.and now he become my boyfren.=) send me email when both of u become a couple
2007-06-01 16:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by dania14_sh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giiirrrrrrrrrl... he be trippin' over you. Talk 2 him about it. He is freakin' begging you. Can't you see that?
2007-06-01 16:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should go for hiim and show hiim that your better than all the other giirls hes dated that made hiim depressed
2007-06-01 16:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES HE IS!!!! So many clues and I love you's!!! Go for it! This is your chance!
Gaby =D
2007-06-01 16:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋