What do you do when you just feel like giving up?

Question

I somtimes just feel like giving up. Nothing has worked for me and I have failed miserably in life.

I got married and my marriage did not work out. I have a 15 year old daughter and I gave custody to her father. Now, she is not doing well. She is currently living with her grandmother in another state. My ex-husband moved due to job reasons.

I went to stay with her and left and now she does not want to talk to me much. She does talk to my mother and sometimes my brother. I live in another state.

My job situation is so funny. I am working at a contract job and looking for a permanent job. I have gone on 4 interviews and none have worked out. I am tired of applying for positions. I am educated and have experience but?

I feel left out at work because everyone talks about their familes (husbands and kids) and I can't join in even though I have a daughter.

I just feel like putting my head down and just saying "I can't take it anymore."

Answer 1

Been there and often go there. Just remember, when all else fails, you pray. God can breathe life into a dead situation. When it gets too much, hand it over to him. You said you failed miserably in life, remember we all fail in life for one reason or another - you are educated with a healthy child, a job, and a mom and brother that love you. Does not sound like a failure to me. Don't feel left out when they discuss their families, you too have a daughter and you have been married, Rememebr that 60% of marriages fail, you are not alone. Alot of time when you feel left out, I want you to remember that that is a spirit of isolation that is descending on you to break you down and make you feel alone and desperate. He will come in. You will know, because after he makes you feel left out and isolated, then the next thing you will feel is a feeling of suicide - to end it all. That is when you must pray and call God in to protect and uplift your spirit. o not give up.

Your daughter needs you. She is at a difficult age, but she is angry. She feels thatyou have abandoned her. You have to bring her back into your life. Allow her to be mad, it will past. But pick up that phone today - go see her. Things will be bad between you, but it will get better. It will get worse, then it will get better and both of you will draw energy fro each other. But she needs you in her life on a perm basis.

I am praying for you, do not abandon your baby. If for no other reason, yo can not end it all becasue she needs you.

Answer 2

Life's far from over, it just gets better from here. You have to start giving yourself breaks once in a while, you've been through some crap. It ain't your fault entirely so cut yourself some slack. The interviews may not be going so well because you may not be putting out that winning personality. You have to get back in the race if you want to get ahead. This is a chance for a do over, so plan this time. Think about what you want and go get it, don't just sit back and let it happen, that doesn't work. You like things, what are they? If you find something you really like to do then you never work a day. As for your daughter and family, they'll come around, but take care of yourself first, you can't help them until you get back on track. Your not a failure, your a winner and I'm pulling for you, so get out there and make me proud. God bless you, and may all you life be happier than the day before.

Answer 3

That's something that's very hard to get through. I've been trying to conceive for over two years now, and every month it is just another disappointment. My friends and family members are getting pregnant without any effort. So I know how it feels to just want to give up. I think the thing that helps me get through most is my religion. I just immerse myself in whatever. But I know that it will be ok. How do I know? Because it has always worked out before and you will keep on living. How happy and how successful you are is up to you. It is not easy and I still have a thing or two to learn. But life is forever about learning to be a better person. I also read a lot and that seems to help. Keep your chin up and times will get better. Good luck!

Answer 4

I think that you are maybe regretting some things that may have happened. The first thing to do is stop feel like there is no hope. Second is probably grab a hold of a higher being (GOD). Third become friends with your daughter. The world is changing and it's hard, just make an attempt. Things get better only after you stop looking down on yourself.

Answer 5

I went back and read several pages of your questions. Good God girl you have made a mess of things haven't you ?
The first thing you must do is quit thinking about yesterday. All the fretting and worry in the world will not change one second of the past. The only thing that will happen is to make your life a current living hell.Of which you seem well aware of.
Now what do we do to help the future
Write a very long letter of apology to all whom you have harmed or who are bitter.
After you have done so accept the answers good or bad and move on.
For reaching out to mend broken lives is all that you can do.It is like the old saying you can lead a horse to water but you can not make him drink.
That said it then puts the burden on their shoulders to reconcile or to remain in what ever mental state they are in.
It also frees you to move on with your life for it is no longer your problem for you have done all that is humanly possible to make things right.

Answer 6

Here is where you pick yourself up off the floor, stop feeling sorry for yourself and keep going. Harsh, maybe, but true. Go ahead and give up. You have the only broken marriage in the world with children involved. Giving up would be one more way to distance you and your daughter. She may take your lead and just give up on things in her life when they become difficult.
Do your best to manage the situation, continue the relationship as best you can. there's not much else you can do. Would you rather grow old someday and wonder what would have been different had you tried harder or did not give up (if you do/did)?

Been there, done that. You can do it too.

Answer 7

K I"m putting up my hand to answer this one.....listen baby I KNOW how you feel...I'm kinda feeling the same way too....and this is a little bit of my story....not to try to overtake yours , but to let you know you are NOT alone.....I was cruising along....having a great job, after leaving some shitty ones (don't know if that word will be censored, but oh well)...then suddenly lost the job after 5 years through a labour dispute, not fault of my own, just got laid off....I thought oh well, i still have my boyfriend and his child, who I had raised since he was a month old (since I cannot have children of my own).
Well he got abusive, but I put up with it for the sake of his child, because his mom was really messed up....tried to make a run of owning my own business, but the economy took a dive, so I took on 3 part time jobs...he didn't work of course.....after 6 years of that, he cheated on me...I found out, and he left with his kid...no goodbyes...nothing....they still lived in the same town, but the mother finally got custody of her son again. She asked me to go to court against the father...I said I would, but I wouldn't lie on the stand, which would increminate her as well....so access to him has been denied to me :( ....I have finally found a full time job...in sales, which is what I did before (I have a big mouth)...lol....the job was going great, but now things seem to be going wrong there too....the boss has too many things extracurricular going, and gets stressed out and takes it out on me...I am not in with the 'regs' of the workforce.....too new I guess...and it's hard...and just recently I lost my best friend...she was murdered.....sooooooooooo.....how do you not give up you ask?.....keep your sense of humour...I have a great one...very sarcastic.....and it rears its head through my customers....I hang on to it like glue, cuz when I laugh...things hurt just a little less. I meet new people, who tell me how much they enjoy dealing with me, and I talk to myself alot...making myself laugh with my jokes.....you are your best friend....remember how special and different you are. Get a pet, if you don't already have one, that unconditional love can be the saving grace you need after a bad day.....and for heavens sakes...get ahold of me if nothing else...so you can ***** about your day, and we can make fun of the idiots that don't appreciate you......YOU ARE WONDERFUL AND UNIQUE!!!
Rememeber that!!!!
Hope this helps....I will look for your answer, and if you want, we can exchange email addresses.....I MEAN that!!!

Answer 8

i might as well take the apathetic approach towards this problem since everyone else would probably empathize with you. you're pathetic. since you have such pessimistic attitudes about your life, just quit. work out something with a psychologist, who would sit down and listen to you, or the cheaper method would be to realize how lucky you have it. just go someplace where you know someone less fortunate than you will be. like a homeless shelter. talk to one. then you'll know what giving up is.

Answer 9

i believe that in life we make our own luck i know that sounds like I'm saying you've made alot of bad dissions but we all do the smart people in life learn from them i've had a rough life to so i feel for you just find something you injoy and rember that there are no big problems just problems you make big and trust me life will get better if you let it

Answer 10

it s hard i know but when we get down we know there is nowhere else to go but up.. right? maybe pamper yourself a little this weekend, a bubble bath, a special meal, take in a movie, do something just for yourself. you have been trying very hard and you need to acknowledge that. its not easy, but its all we got is to keep on going. good luck