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My husband looks at porn on the internet. I don't mind. But my coworkers talk about how disgusting porn is and how disgusting men are that look at it. I get uncomfortable because I don't know what to think when so many influential people are saying all the time how disgusting they feel it is. Am I right to feel like my husband can look?

2007-06-01 16:00:33 · 21 answers · asked by dewingedfairy 2 in Social Science Psychology

21 answers

This is an interesting question. Kudos to you for being open-minded. He's checking out porn, not cheating! Every man is entitled to look at porn if he wants to. Society is too uptight about that, especially American society. Europe doesn't care. Most art has nude people, like David, for example. I absolutely agree with you, though I am sure people will disagree and call us both disgusting because porn makes us women look bad. It's really up to you, and you seem to not care, so just go with that. Don't be a conformist, and go with society! Go with what YOU believe, and do not let anyone else sway your opinion!

2007-06-01 16:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by BonnieBlue85 2 · 0 0

I think it's healthy for you to let your husband do that. You're human beings and are capable of being attracted to different people of the opposite sex. The key is control.

I read an article in the latest Maxim mag where some dude addicted to porn like a gambling or alcohol problem. He spent well over $10 Gs on porn because he couldn't "stay with the same girl" and would watch it than going out and having a social life.

2007-06-01 16:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Don't worry about what they say. You should feel sorry for people with closed minds. There is plenty of disgusting porn, but there is a lot of really great porn. It can help your relationship, bring you close, help you get past your inhibitions... at the same time, nobody needs to know what your husband watches at home...

Hugs

2007-06-01 16:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Videobabe 1 · 0 0

There are many different levels of what is considered "pornography". To some, its showing a woman in a bikini. To others, its a little more extreme than that. The most pornographic thing that I ever saw was broadcast live on TV on the morning of September 11th, 2001. After that, seeing people "making love" was tame.

As long as your husband makes love with you and not his computer monitor, I wouldn't worry too much.

2007-06-01 16:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 1 0

I don't think there is anything wrong with an adult looking at porn now and then, but it's a problem if it becomes an obsession for him. I've never heard of a wife who was fine with his husband looking at porn.

Do what you think it right.

2007-06-01 16:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jason 3 · 0 0

Its normal. Men like looking at women (We are wired to do it), and unless it becomes an obsession there is nothing wrong with it or him. As for your coworkers, well they try to suppress such activity, because they are insecure and figure if a man looks it means he is cheating on them (or will shortly).

If men went around and said the it was discussing that women have these long conversations and talk about everything, women would tell us that they are "wired" to communicate and there is nothing wrong with it. After all you won't find men going around discussing such personal things with coworkers or friends for the most part.

These women want their men to be women. You can't tell them that you believe they are wrong or you will be thrown out of the "woman's club", but they really have no clue at what the real score is.

2007-06-01 17:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Bulk O 5 · 0 0

I think that people who are comfortable are ok with things like porn. Many people-women especially-are ashamed of their bodies and their imperfections. If they were just to accept that sex is a natural part of being a human-alone and with a partner-then they wouldn't be uncomfortable with porn. I personally have no issues with my man looking at porn-I even watch movies with him but if it takes my place in the bedroom then we have a huge problem on our hands. They just are sexual repressed and have no understanding on how to be comfortable as a sexual woman.

2007-06-01 16:11:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Viewing pornography is normal for both men and women.
What, we should think of sex only for the purpose of making babies and any arousing thoughts are a sin if not focused only on the aspect of propagation of the species?
Is it normal for adults to have different sexual interests?
Either the people you work with have a terrible sex life or they are trying to draw the attention away from themselves and if you were to look in their closets you would find an arsenal of leather lingerie and a nice collection of whips.

2007-06-01 17:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by frozenbrew 4 · 0 0

its wrong but right a the same time. i watch porn and the internet is like a porn smorgesbored. theres nothing wrong with your hubby checkin out porn as long as he still makes time for you in those departments. when women say men are pigs theyre right men are horn dogs its just our nature. dont let your snooty hypocrate co-workers make you feel bad. as longs as things are in the good with you and your husband everything is fine. dont worry too much about it no more.
csg

2007-06-01 16:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by crazyskiguy 2 · 0 0

i do no longer think of intercourse must be hidden faraway from infants, no longer that we ought to constantly prepare them porn yet that we ought to constantly enable them to locate approximately it certainly. intercourse training ought to start at known college. heavily. all of us is established with vaguely what is going the place via age 9/10 and it could be a lot in good shape in the event that they have been only heavily instructed the organic and organic info as quickly as accessible, quite than permitting them to clutter on at a loss for words and stupid. via the time they gave us intercourse training (at fourteen) there have been human beings interior the class already having hideously fumbling intercourse. So it became into pointless. If porn have been extra like actual intercourse, possibly it must be utilized in an training context. fantasy fake intercourse is by no ability a healthful foundation for training. Pseudo-lesbians with undesirable wax jobs straddling adult males with unfeasibly great genitalia isn't academic because of the fact it relatively is not lifelike.

2016-11-24 23:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

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