I have a lot of stuff going on in my life and its affecting my social life...?

Question

Ok, so in addtion to the fact that finals are coming up (which, in my school, is enough to make anyone crazy), I have a bunch of other stuff going on:
I'm leaving at the end of the month for a precollege program at Carngie Mellon, which means leaving my friends and my boyfriend for six weeks.
All the drama in my group of friends seems to be caused by me--that is to say, drama never erupts if I'm not around.
My boyfriend and I are having some minor issues.
I'm having problems with all my friends.
3 of my female relatives (mother, her sister, and my dad's sister) have been diagnosed w/ breast cancer in the past 5 years, and there's a possibility that my grandmother has it as well.
My grandfather just had a heart attack.

So I haven't really wanted to talk to or hang around my friends lately, but I do anyway. But they can tell something's wrong, and I can tell that by not telling them what's going on I'm making them worry about me, which isn't fair. But I don't even know what's wrong.

So what should I say to them?

I know I listed a bunch of stuff up there, but there's something more and I'm not sure what it is. I've just felt very depressed lately

Um, its EASIER to talk to complete strangers about this stuff.

Answer 1

So, you'll post it on the internet to a bunch of strangers, but will not tell your close friends what's going on in your life? What a bad friend you are!

Answer 2

Wow, you sure have a lot on your plate and there's no room
for any more. Thank God...
I understand about not telling your friends. I don't tell my friends everything either because some things are just left for me to deal with on my own, I think..
That is upsetting about the females in your family and breast cancer........Hopefully they have caught it early for all !
Now about your schooling...concentrate on doing one thing at a time....Concentrate on finals. Get enough sleep night b/4, like they say, and eat some breakfast so you can think clearly.

Good luck with the pre-college program. Now that you will be in college, some times just the thought is over whelming, because that means we have to really grow up and show how responsible we can be with everything in our lives from now on........No more goofing off and acting silly.....
But if you are serious about college, then you can be serious about everything. Soundl like you have a good head on your shoulders........Just do it !
When it comes to your friends, then just stop the drama ! If that was a problem, just stop creating it... Maybe that is why you think they don't like you. Time to grow up and stop .

When it comes to your boyfriend,, I can't help you there since you didn't specify what the problem actually was.
Sometimes a break from each other is called for....If it is meant to be, then you will know...
If I were you, I would sit down one night when I had nothing to do and take a look at my life and where I want to go from here......Take a piece of paper. Make 5 columns. or 6
You can name them like goals, real friends, boyfriend,
family, and school..........
You can come up with other things to write down.
Just think about things long and hard . Remember you have your best interest at heart......Think of you for a change.
Lastly, I would buy a funny humorous card for each friend, parents and boyfriend. B/4 you write in each card your feelings, write on paper first. Like, Kathy, I have always enjoyed our friendship. the good times and the bad we shared together. I still treasure those days and look forward to the years ahead. If I ever hurt your feeling in the past, it was because I was a teenager and meant no real harm. We all did or said stupid things we regretted, etc, etc.....But now that I will be leaving for college, I wanted to send this note with love, and tell you my thoughts....
Good luck to you hon. Hope this helps!