My husband wants to spice thing up in the bed room by having me have sex with another man. what would you do? He thinks because i was a virgin when we got married that he had two before me that i should go out and gain more expirence. What should I do? me go out with men and date them and have sex with them then come home and have sex with him.
2007-06-01 14:32:32 · 44 answers · asked by sassylassy2876 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he claims it doesn't feel the same now that i we,I had babies.
2007-06-07 01:09:57 · update #1
A marriage is a union between TWO people. If your husband wants you to have more experience then HE needs to teach you the things he wants you to do. I can't imagine any man feeling proud that some other man taught his wife to do things that pleases him! You'd think he'd be happy to say "Yeah, I taught ya how to do that! Your husband should not ask you to be with another man. That's selfish and it's immoral. Next he'll be asking can he be with another woman to make up for your lack of experience and if you get with another man, he'll try to say you owe him an affair since you've already had your own. Don't do it girl!
2007-06-08 05:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a blooming idiot.
what is he going to do if you meet someone who "gets the job done" better than him?
i say if you are not into this, THEN DO NOT AGREE.
just sounds like trouble all the way around if you do this.
Just think....he can, and probably will, accuse you of cheating. What happens if you end up with a disease or pregnant? What happens if this guy physically harms you?
Your hubby just needs to invest in some porn or something.
If you do this, it will end your marriage, along with your self esteem.
Don't let him tell you that you need experience...give me a break. Who ever said he was the best of the best anyway! Having slept with two girls before you does NOT make him a pro on the subject, believe me. I know many guys who have slept with many women, and still can't finish the job, if you know what I mean. Then there are guys who have only been with a few girls and are...well, you get the picture. These guys could give lessons!
Enough is enough. Tell hubby NO, and stick to your guns.
2007-06-01 15:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In cases like this I feel that it's up to the individual person. If you feel that it something you want to do, then do it, if not then don't. If he wants to bring someone into your love life with him and you that would make more sense. But if he's wanting you to just go out and have sex with someone while he stays at home, that just doesn't seem right. Alot of people want to experience multiple partner sex but it should be shared and done together. It would seem like he's trying to test you. If it were me I would ask him if there wasn't some other kind of sexual experience he would like to have together, like roll playing, dirty talk while sex or even try different positions or places. Tell him you might like to try that first. I hope this helps you some. Let me know if I can help you any more. Good Luck!!!
2007-06-01 15:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by laceys_mom96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he fells that way then why not experiement with him. Try different things no matter how strange they may sound. However stepping out is not healthy for a relationship. No matter how open people may be I have never found a couple that has survived that successfully. Maybe you are not doing it for him anymore, and he thinks that if you got more experience that you would be more freaky in bed.
Ask him what he wants you to do. There is no need for you to step out and feel badly in your own soul about your indescretion.
2007-06-01 14:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by norwooddrafting 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's right. he is asking you to degrade yourself for his benefit. Something wrong there.. you will also be putting yourself at risk for disease... Some guys have weird ideas about how to get their needs met. Deviant arousal patterns.with a sexual profile. .Some even get more aroused by the more upset they make you.This is not part of a loving unconditional partnership.. The spice up should be coming from the rest of your relationship and I would think it would be more exciting for him to give you the experience you lack and to try new things out together. You could even tell him that you only want him to show you new things..that will be more meaningful in the long run.
2007-06-01 14:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by jan d 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not do anything that you are uncomfortable with. Tell him that you do not need any other man...that he is enough. Tell him you only want to gain experience with him as the teacher if he thinks you need more experience. Try to be more seductive with him by dressing sexy, setting the mood with soft music and candlelight in the bedroom. Maybe you could buy little sexy outfits to wear. Example..you could put on a little maid's outfit and serve him a snack or beer while he is watching tv one evening.
2007-06-01 14:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband needs medical help!! he's a sick man.. i would suggest he undergo psychological treatment for his conditions. Anybody who treats their wife with that kind of disrespect doesn't deserve to have a wife in the first place. I feel sad for you, but not for you pig husband. Your husband should be overjoyed that he's actually marrying a virgin which is very rare this days. Why would he want to share his precious gifts with a bunch of dirt-bags. If I were you I would leave Him for even suggesting this garbage..
2007-06-01 16:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by sqzychks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, this is the guy you chose to have kids with and start a family? You actually have to ask someone if this is a good idea or not--you really don't know? Good grief. What kind of guy would want to turn his wife into a slut? Not the kind that is going to make a good parent! This guy is really screwed up.
Kent in SD
2007-06-01 14:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't turn into a ho just because he has some sex issues. And of course...he'll be bringing in women having sex with them wanting you to watch...or participate. One thing leads to another...
and what about STD's? Sleeping around is like russian roulette.
Personally I wouldn't do that, no way. I got married because I want to be with my husband, no one else, period. Having sex with other people breaks the marriage vows, and breaks the special bond between and husband and wife.
But everyone is different......
I believe that bringing other people into the marriage bed will only lead to bad things.
Follow your intuition....don't do anything to belittle yourself for his sexual fantasies....
but if you want to be with other men please protect yourself!
2007-06-01 14:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
um... no. that is absolutely ridiculous. I too was a virgin and have now been married 9 years. we have an awesome sex life and plenty of 'spice'. I do not see how htat would help your relationship or marriage in any way ~!!!
2007-06-07 16:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by Heather Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋