i had a abortion done 3 weeks ago and my husband made me pregnant again.it came in the follow up checkup.he wants me to get another abortion,but i wanna keep my baby.he loves kids but doesnt want his own for next 2 years.i will have this baby.but do u think if i leave my husband and have this baby,he will eventually come back to me and his kidsince he loves me so much.should i have this baby????????????????
2007-06-01 14:28:01 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm not so sure he does love you. When a man loves a woman he doesn't impregnant her and then tell her to kill the baby.
In my humble opinion, I think you should give this baby up for adoption and then not be intimate with your husband ANYMORE until he works out his problems, because if you should get pregnant again he will pressure you for abortion again.
And getting on birth control will not solve this problem. It will just mask it. But you can ignore it only for so long, and you can't keep killing your children to satisfy a sicko.
2007-06-01 14:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
YES! Have the baby! You want to have it and no one should tell you otherwise. ABORTION IS MURDER. No matter if the child is inside the womb or born abortion would kill it. That baby deserves to have a life. If your husband truly loved you he would not want to leave you. He got you pregnant and if he thinks that having a baby would not be the best thing to do, then he should have used a condom. If you want to have the baby but do not want to keep it, then put it up for adoption so that it can have a life. You would not be living the life you are right now if your mother had aborted you. You would not have met your husband that you love so much. Think about what you would be taking away from your child. Your own flesh and blood. Think about that.
2007-06-01 14:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story is very disturbing.. If your man got you pregnant and you had an abortion and had unprotected sex before you even went back for your checkup, well.... there is really nothing that me or anyone else can say about that.. He didn't MAKE you pregnant, unless he raped you unwillingly. Abortion is murder, any way you look at it.
If you do not already regret it you will in later life, and if you haven't mourned the loss of your first baby, someday you will. When I was in college, for a paper, I talked to twelve different women that had abortions and EVERY single one said that they have never gotten over the loss of their unborn baby. If you have a heart, which obviously you do because you want to keep this baby, then you will mourn the aborted baby sooner or later. I advise that you get some counseling SOON for what you have done.
As far as your marriage, well that is something that I think you should consider counseling for. You obviously BLAME him for this pregnancy and you are upset at him that he wants you to get another abortion. Your marriage sounds like it needs some help.
Please do NOT abort this baby. You care about this child and you love it already... please please please - give it up for adoption if you decide you do not want to keep it. There are SOOOO many people out there that ARENT able to have a baby that would LOVE to have the little gift from God you have in your tummy!
Good luck to you.. and God bless. R
2007-06-01 14:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by ronnad1975 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay lets keep personal feelings about abortion out of it for a minute. In reality, if you DO want babies one day be very careful of having another abortion. Each time it reduces your chance of being able to carry a baby full term. How would it feel to be desperate for a child one day and not be able to conceive. It happens and it is terrible.
So should you keep it? In my opinion, yes. But should you KEEP it (ie raise the child) and I am not so sure. Bringing a child into a home where it will not be loved totally by BOTH parents is a danger and you have to put the needs of the child first. Consider adoption. Many loving couples could care for this child and BOTH parents would want to do this.
Quite frankly you are in a catch-22 situation and I think no matter what decision you make, your marriage is in trouble. Get counselling. Now. This is not an issue for an online answering group. You need professional help.
And for heaven's sake, use contraceptives until you get your **** together.
2007-06-01 14:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by renae 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You had an abortion 3 weeks ago and now you're pregnant again. Has anything changed in 3 weeks? Did you feel regret about it?
Your husband is 49% of the equation here and you 51%. I say this because you are the one carrying the child and have the ultimate say in what goes on in your body. If you leave your husband I don't see any good in it. You can choose the baby but leaving your husband is going to cause a lot of trouble.
Talk it over with him. Tell him you want this child and he can choose to stay or leave but you are having this baby. (it sounds like you already made up your mind)
It may not be the right time, but honestly - when is it the right time? Its never the right time. God gave you a baby now, TWICE. Apparently its meant to be. :)
Good Luck, but don't leave your husband. Make your choice and let him make his.
2007-06-01 14:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by JaneDo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest you guys should have been using some sort of method of birth control if you still hadn't made a decision about having kids. But it's too late for that now so if I were you I'd definitely keep the baby and your husband will have to pay child support anyway if he doesn't want it. A lot of women think having a baby will keep the man around but it usually doesn't work that way. That child growing inside you is more important than your husband. If you want the baby keep it! If your husband won't support your decision to keep the baby then maybe he's not the man you thought he was.
2007-06-01 14:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Z. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay let me get this straight. You had an abortion 3 weeks ago...And you obviously didn't follow your doctor's orders about no sex for at least 4 weeks, IF you were pregnant at the follow up. I've had a live birth and I've had an abortion so I'm not buying this story...
2007-06-01 22:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you he wouldn't have asked you to do that! He's just being selfish and only thinking of himself and not what this is doing to you. Physically and emotionally! Leave him. If you want kids and he doesn't thats a deal breaker right there for me. Thats pretty gutsy of him to ask you for a second abortion! If you don't want the baby give it to me I'd be MORE than happy to take care of a baby and raise the baby with the right morals YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND obviously don't have!
2007-06-01 14:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by CS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is going on here???? Do you hear yourself??? I really am trying to be sympathetic here but you make it kind of hard. You just got an abortion and you get pregnant again and you wonder if your husband will stay with you if you keep this one??? I say keep your baby and ditch your husband!!!! Please these are human lives!!!! Either have the baby or give it to someone who will love it. Please use protection if you don't want to be faced with these decisions. I pray things go well for you!! Good Luck!!
2007-06-01 15:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by spunkygirl77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you want this baby you should keep it. Why did he make you pregnant again if he didn't want another baby?
My cousin got pregnant my accident and her husband wanted her to have an abortion, and she left him and moved in with her parents, when the baby was about 10 weeks old they moved back intogether and things are alright right now. Maybe this story will help you to decied.
2007-06-01 14:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lovemykids 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋