Its around the time of what would have been our anniversary....but instead the divorce is about to be finalized and Im feeling emotional. Is this normal? Will our anniversary date always make me feel this way?
2007-06-01 13:49:49 · 16 answers · asked by caramelqueen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's been ten years and I still feel it.
2007-06-01 13:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is healing that needs to take place. There is learning too. Otherwise you will take this baggage into the next relationship.
There are a couple of things that are very key:
During this time of pain you will be more open to get help from God and so he wants you to take advantage of that
A divorce care group that was biblically centered was a very soothing and a powerful learning experience for me. So of course, I highly recommend it.
Starting a new relationship is a mistake. During the time of great pain (1 year for every 5 years married is a proven guideline of when the pain is great) the new relationship will just make the pain subside without true healing.
Get around and get strength from others of the same sex is vital. But, getting around any interesting dating possibilities will delay healing. (except in the divorce group)
Lots of things will remind you and hurt you but this can be turned around in time and with healing.
2007-06-05 12:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ear GW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, yes that is likely to last for awhile (possibly years).That's the bad news. The good news is the pain goes away slowly but surely over time. There will likely be spikes of emotions that pop up around significant milestones such as holidays and anniversaries...but they too will lessen in severity over time. Go ahead and mourn because that's an important (albeit unpleasant) part of the healing process, then get busy being "busy"....develop new interests, new friends, and new ways to add meaning to the fabric of your life. It's an ugly journey at times but there is abundant life on the other side of divorce. I wish you good luck as you make this transition.
2007-06-01 14:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been divorced for almost 5 years and i think that wen you think about anniversaries, its hard because it is a time when you two were so happy and now it isnt , it does get easier as time goes on and it is so normal for you to feel the way you are feeling but as time goes on you will do better .
2007-06-01 19:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by dawn p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably always remember your anniversary date, but after a while, it won't hurt any more. You'll be like, oh, Jan 3, that was my anniversary. Hmph.
It will hurt less with time, and with new relationships and experiences to crowd out those bad feelings.
Feel better!!!
2007-06-01 14:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by pola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I'm not married or divorced. But I've had emotional pain, more than most. And I have a feeling what you are feeling. Yes it is normal. And not it won't go away. But as each year passes, your life will become more full with other things, and you won't feal that emptyness, or sadness as much.
2007-06-01 13:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by lassygenevra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is going to take it sluggish formerly the discomfort is going away fairly while the two one in each of you have young ones jointly, on a daily basis you're seeimg your ex spouse in the process the toddlers in specific circumstances it is best to attend some years formerly you dedicate your self to a diverse marriage regardless of the undeniable fact that that's no longer the case, they say a divorce is reminiscent of bereavements interior the kinfolk, as time previous issues will advance and your memory will fade offering you're happy with your 2nd spouse cases heals good luck
2016-11-03 08:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
differs for everyone. some overcome things like this quicker than others. divorce is such an emotional thing that yes, your anniversary may always make you feel sentimental, however, with each year that passes and as you move on w/ your life, it'll hurt less and less and less.. AND YES ITS NORMAL!
2007-06-01 13:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by 6468 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your feelings are perfectly normal.
Hang in there it gets easier with time
We have all been through it. in time it stops hurting etc.
To answer your question The emotional pain will last as long as you let it
2007-06-01 16:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this too shall pass....you are feeling normal, but that date is a part of who you are....I am happily married, but i have been married before. On the date of my previous marrige I always think about it.
2007-06-01 13:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by schmidtjal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with time the pain will ease up but in the mean time try to take ur mind off things...good luck
2007-06-01 13:53:24 · answer #11 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋