When a woman finds a man extremely handsome and she is already spoken for what should she do if she begins ?

Question

To develop feelings for him, and he has shown he feels the same what should she do?

Answer 1

ALWAYS follow your heart.
If she is responding to another guy then her feelings for the first guy must not be enough to hold her, and maybe she needs to move on.

Answer 2

Finding someone handsome or your being subject to the flattery of returned feelings of attraction, is no reason to start a relationship, especially where this could jeopardise another established, committed relationship.
But what do you mean by "spoken for"? Married? Have children with? Living with? Dating?
Are you as committed as you should be? If you are and if you respect and value your current relationship and your current partner, then exercise some self control and nip the other distraction in the bud now before it becomes even more difficult. If you realise you do NOT wish to invest more in your current relationship, then at least be honest and communicative with your partner BEFORE taking a risk with Mr. Handsome. Also ask yourself, if you were to finish with Mr. Current how would you feel if someone else started with him? Would you regret the loss more than you would regret not having a 'fling'?
You need to think through very carefully to the possible consequences of any actions you might take.

Answer 3

Take a lot of cold showers, lol. Seriously, that's a tough one for some people, but in reality if your gonna cheat on your man then you weren't meant to be together in the first place. I think in situations like this its best to just keep it a fantasy and let it go at that. I've had a few of those over the years.

Answer 4

If you are actually married or in a committed living together relationship you do nothing. That is called having an affair, and it is cheating. It can get ugly especially if there are kids involved. If you are just going out with a guy, separate residences....break up with the boyfriend to explore the possiblities.

Answer 5

Well you answered the question yourself......she is already spoken for. He probably doesn't know that she is spoken for.....so she should behave in a proper manner and not encourage the man.

There's no harm in admireing and being admired, it would be a very dull world if that wasn't allowed, but that doesn't mean she should carry on as if she were single...It just isn't done.

Answer 6

How good a friend is the fella in your present relationship...how good a friend is the hamdsome man......To be honest, I noticed the first thing you said is extremely handsome man....Sounds like lust to me, not something to base a good relationship on...Love and friendship is the best thing to base it on, not if they are interested or handsome.
Funny thing is it can sometimes be the hardest thing in the world to say no.

Answer 7

It's your call and there is really no one right answer.
But if you want to know what I think - I think you really really want to get with this other guy. Otherwise you wouldn't be asking us.
In the end, people tend to regret the things they didn't do more than the things they did do.
You're young, now's the time to take risks.

Answer 8

She should be very careful if she is totally commited to the person she is spoken for to, things like this can turn out messy

Answer 9

forbidden fruit always has a draw but theres always drawbacks from not resisting temptation even if its your own guilt eating you up and rightly so,but isnt there someone else to consider first?do you love youre partner then dont do its the answer! if you dont love your parner, then do the correct thing and tell them before moving on to avoid a bitter and hurtful break up xx

Answer 10

Try putting the shoe on the other foot and think what you would want your partner to do if it were him looking at another woman who had feelings for him.