and then he got her pregnant, but he doesn't want the child, he only wants 'passion'...whats she to do?
2007-06-01 12:14:17 · 21 answers · asked by Danu 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't know. accidents happen , and as long as you learn from them.i would say to have the baby and take care of the baby.maybe as time goes on the dad will want to take part in the babies life.
2007-06-01 12:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by pitbullmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you concern yourself with other peoples business? Unless you're really asking for yourself....
Hard to comment on that situation except she's stupidly got involved with a married man and now pregnant with his child...she can have an abortion and live a life of guilt or leave the company and raise this child and start afresh, otherwise it's the same old grind of fighting for child support, proving his the father and a lifetime of stress and agony over an stupid affair.
2007-06-01 19:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be totally up to her about the baby,but if she keeps the child he will be responsible for child support. He is half responsible for what happened and he needs to own up to it. If he is having an affair on his wife he is not happy or in love with her. A man does not act so carelessly if he does. He helped to create this problem and he should not turn his back on this woman and their child. Tell her that whatever she decides to do he should stand behind her and not talk her into something she is against to protect him from anybody. ....because in the end she will be the only one emotionally hurting and have to live with her decision. Good luck sweetie.
2007-06-01 19:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF she decides to keep the child, then she waits until it's birth and has a court ordered DNA test to sue the "Father" for the child support that the CHILD deserves and will need.
IF she decides to get an abortion.. then she's to move on with her life, minus the "male sperm donor" and consider what she was a part of a bad choice and a mistake that she learned from.
2007-06-01 19:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want involvement with the kid, he shouldn't be forced into anything, including child support. Let's face it, women are all about being PRO-CHOICE. That means that SHE has the right to CHOOSE to have a baby, get an abortion, put the kid up for adoption, to use protection, or quite frankly to keep her legs closed and the panties on.
Too many women out there try to extort money or relationships out of men by getting pregnant. She CHOSE to get herself into this situation, she should CHOOSE to find a way out or deal with it by raising the kid- without ruining a family man's life.
2007-06-02 08:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing - thats what that ladey gets for fiddeling around with a married man. I know people make mistakes, but thats sick. "oh no
! i just had an affair with a married man - who will take care of the baby"- isnt their biggest concern asking god for forgivness - she should get a life she got what she deserved now his wife has to suffer - and the baby what the hell did the baby do to deserve this. Sick!
2007-06-01 19:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she needs to suck it up. She is an adult who knowingly had an affair with a married man, most likely without protection, since she is now pregnant. She needs to grow up, act like an adult and deal with the consequences of the actions that she has made.
2007-06-01 19:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by lmphslaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is you or the guy who got her pregnant, I advise that the girl make the decision about what she wants to do with the child, and the guy stay out of it even if he only wants 'passion'. Sex is sex and can lead to pregnancy, and if both were not careful, they have to pay the consequences.
2007-06-01 19:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by hushprelude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should continue on with the pregnancy and request child support from him.
And she should never again have an affair with a married man; that was wrong of her to do. And it was wrong of him, as well.
2007-06-01 19:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice of having the child is strictly hers. If she decides to keep it, she has decisions to make.
1. Does she support the child herself or ask him for help.
2. Does she tell his wife or not.
3. Does she tell him to get lost or does she continue to be the other woman.
These are things she and only she can answer.
If she were my daughter, I'd tell her to burn the guy financially by proving paternity. and then don't have anything to do with him unless it pertains to the child. But it doesn't sound like he wants to be an active dad anyway.
2007-06-01 21:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
does she really want a man like that in her life and the life of her child? if so, then she fights for child support and ruins not only his life but that of his innocent wife and children. or she has it on her own and realizes that married men are off limits. she should have known better.
2007-06-01 19:24:04 · answer #11 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋