There is an older man at work (about 40 and Im 27) who always stares at me. I know he likes me, but why doesnt he approach me?
Would he like it if I came onto him?
2007-06-01 11:55:59 · 32 answers · asked by Ian C 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
sorry to rant - Im just confused thats all.
2007-06-01 12:01:18 · update #1
MAybe because the rules..a dn his reputation
2007-06-01 11:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by That girl... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be afraid of the deadly, "Sexual Harrasment Issue", especially if your place of employment upholds the rule. I guy can get into major trouble anymore, by just saying the wrong thing to a young lady. However, if your job allows fraternization among it's employees, then he may just be scared to make the first move. The age difference may have something to do with it. If you are positive, he stares at you because he may be interested, then there is nothing wrong with making the first move, on your part. I am 50 and if a 27 year old attractive lady came on to me, it would rock my world. I grew up sexually in the 70's, and the term "free love" was a great description of our way of life. If I was you, I'd go for it. Making the first move, may just bring him around. Good luck and I hope you both can get crazy. Peace!!
The Ryder
2007-06-01 12:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by lytnyngryder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because 1. he's afraid of rejection. 2.he's afraid of rejection. 3. he's afraid of losing his job and looking like an a s s h o l e and getting a sexual harrasment suit on his back. think about it. maybe you should tell him u want to have lunch and go somewhere other than the workplace. If it was that easy nowdays to approach those at work u were attracted to w/out getting sued and terminated, this world would be full of co-worker relationships. u can thank all your women organazations and harassment laws for that. PEACE!!!
2007-06-01 12:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesnt approach you because dating co-workers is just about the worst idea possible. If it works out, you're together 24/7 and everyone at work will know your business...and if it doesnt, well then one of you has to get another job because seeing each other everyday will kill you. Esp when you or he finds a new "friend".
2007-06-01 11:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by kcleighb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if he knows you're 27, he may be considering the 13 year age difference......it could just be awkward. Also, perhaps he's married and worried about how his wife would react. Perhaps he has kids (not necessarily a wife too) and he's concerned about what they would think.
The you coming onto him would probably surprise him a little, but at the same time he'd probably be pleased.
2007-06-01 12:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Shelby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not approach you because of all the sexual harassment claims that keep popping up.
or
He might be too shy. Suss out the situation before you come onto him, make sure he does like you (light flirting should do the trick).
Good luck
2007-06-01 12:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by babycakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing he would almost certainly like it, but yes, due to sexual harassment laws (which are ridiculously strict and incredibly biased against males), he's probably afraid of the reprocutions if you say no.
On the other hand, maybe he just doesn't date people from work, due to the awkward situation it might create.
Third, he might just be a pervet who's creepy and putting your face in the "spank bank".
2007-06-01 12:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by nex_nox_noctus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The workplace seems like an akward place to approach someone about social life outside of work. He probably thinks he's too old for you so it would pay off to approach him.
2007-06-01 12:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. New Material 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going with the sexual harassment risk thing and if the relationship did not workout you would still have too work together making things a little awkward don't you think
2007-06-01 12:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by northcarrlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
workplace romance is always tricky because if it doesn't work out you still have to see that person all the time unless on of you gets another job, my advice to you is approach him, but let your intentions be known up front if you just want to have sex or if you just want a friend let him know so there is no miscommunication but i would not advise workplace romance
2007-06-01 12:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by BP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's shy. Or cos of the age gap he might think you'll knock him back. Make sure you've got the right end of the stick before you approach him, maybe some suttle flirting first incase you make a fool of yourself.
2007-06-01 12:00:40 · answer #11 · answered by Lisa T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋