when you have done something to become distrusted, what does it take to overcome that reputation and become trusted again????
How long does it take to earn a person's trust? why?
2007-06-01 11:12:23 · 15 answers · asked by sandy 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It takes proving to the person that no longer trusts you that whatever you did to lose their trust in the first place won't happen again. It really depends on whose trust you are trying to gain though because certain people are more willing to trust. I do not think that there is any real one method to gain back trust, some people will give you a second chance if you just tell them why you did whatever it was you did to lose their trust others may need more convincing. Again the time it takes to gain back trust depends on the person what their experiences in life with trust have been. If this person feels like they have been betrayed by others in the past over trust issues they may be less likely to trust than someone who hasn't
2007-06-01 11:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by Gabriella4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something you should never, ever take for granted. It's something that someone has the ability to confide in someone without any doubt.
It depends on the person who's been betrayed. If they're a sensitive person whose feelings get hurt quite easily, then it might take a while before you can reheal the feelings and make sure the trust can be built again. And maybe, just maybe, I suppose that a person who can forgive easily wouldn't take too long to have trust in you again, but it's always important to say how sorry you are. Apologies show that you realize that you can't change the past for what you've done, but you're ready to change for the future for the better.
2007-06-01 18:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a complicated question and i don't know if there is just one right answer. if you have broken someone's trust, over time and with a lot of effort you may be able to get that trust back, but with some people they will never trust you again. it really depends on the severity of what you did to make that person distrust you in the first place. the best thing to do is if you have messed up and broken someone's trust, give it time and then talk to them about regaining their trust. unfortunatly, there is nothing you can do if they decided never to trust you again. i hope this has helped.
2007-06-01 18:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is different for everyone. Its an opening of oneself to let others or specific others in when you feel comfortable with that person enough for you to feel like they wont betray you or hurt you. You cant say that it will take 2 weeks and all will be forgotten. It depends on what you did and if the other person is willing to tolerate that behavior at all or not. You may have done something that the other person will absolutely never look at you the same for doing and they may never trust you again or even want to associate with you for it. Or they may say to themselves I've done that in the past or I understand and can forgive and trust again. You will never know how long it is going to take to earn someones trust back or if you even can and we are like that to protect ourselves from physical or emotional harm. Good luck.
2007-06-01 18:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by paradiseintn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss these issues with the person that does not trust you. It would take a different amount of time for each type of relationship. It would probably take more time with a close relationship.
Apologize and try to really be "there" for the person. Do big favors for them if you can. Don't stress over it. The relationship will heal in time.
2007-06-01 18:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To overcome destroyed trust, you have to start all over again. Trust is a slow growing plant, and must be nurtured.
How long it takes depends on the person you are trying to regain, and how patient you are. If someone lies to me, or lets me down, it makes me feel stupid that I ever thought they had my good in mind in the first place. So if I am going to trust them again, they had better prove it to me that they aren't going to let me down again!
2007-06-01 18:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by Phantom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is a hard thing to regain, making amends if the first part.... if you are trusted again depends on the person you hurt.... sometimes forgiveness requires understanding of why you did it? talking about it might help,, but talking requires 2 people each taking turns speaking and listening with the intention of resolving the issue....
2007-06-01 18:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation...the person must want the trust back, then they'll be watched carefully by the one they hurt until the hurt person thinks that the trust is back...you just have to keep on keeping on..you know? It does have to do with personal preference though...for me it only took maybe a month....
2007-06-01 18:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by OperaDiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person is different, so there is no correct answer here. You have to get on a pattern of being trustworthy again. Eventually maybe the trust will be be earned again.
2007-06-01 18:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lost Poet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you and whom you hurt. Some people forgive more easily than others. Many figure that if you hurt them once, you'll hurt them twice and they may never trust you again.
Why? Put yourself in the betrayed person's place. Would you trust someone who had proven himself untrustworthy? How long would it take you to get over it and trust him again?
2007-06-01 18:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋