I can't focus, please some help?

Question

Ok, as you can find on my profile, I'm pregnant and I just started a new job. My boss is very demanding he has a million things for me to do before it's even 8:30 AM and after 8:00 PM, my lunch time went from two hours to 20 minutes. I haven't told him I'm pregnant because I found out 2 days after I started working with him and I’m about 6 weeks pregnant.

My problem is that I keep messing everything up, forgetting things (not important things but embarrassing ones, as inviting 10 people to have a meeting in a 5 people meeting room and then have everybody moving somewhere else…)

I can’t think, I’m tired, I’m embarrassed and I just keep forgetting things… and of course I’m weepy and with nausea and some other pregnancy symptoms.

I can’t focus!!!! I’m worried because I really can’t work 13 hours a day… What am I going to do when I have the baby?????

And I don’t want to quit this job because it’s the best paid I’ve had and expenses will come. My husband and I have well-paid jobs but loosing one would be harmful and besides, his benefits are not as good as mine.

So… I know this story went long but. The thing is that I working long hours, I’m tired and I’m doing this wrong, What can I do???

Answer 1

"Doing this wrong" - well, you're not doing it wrong. Don't stress about that.

Start making lists, writing things down. I've got mommy-brain half the time at work, and to combat it I start each day by making a list of everything I need to do. Group things by 'type', and leave space to add more. I put a great big checkmark beside each point when it's done. Even tell your boss, "Okay, give me ten minutes, I'm going to make a list so I don't miss anything." Keep those lists in a binder - so you and your boss can see that you're doing most things right, even if you do mess up on a few things.

Is there anything in your contract about working hours? You need a lunch. Explain to your boss that 20 minutes lunch in a 13 hour day is not enough, it will affect your productivity drastically and it's in his best interests to let you take lunch.

Approach it in a pro-active manner, and you'll gain his respect (hopefully).

Try sour stuff for nausea - I survived on sour skittles, key limes, water with lemon slices, green apples.

Do whatever you can to get a good night's sleep.

Many go-go-go type people don't stop to think that their employees need a lunch. Have you tried saying, "Okay, it's 3:00 and I've not yet eaten. I can do that at 3:45." Or, "I'll take care of that right away, but then I'm going to take a few minutes and eat some lunch before I fall down." Make light of it. It's a normal thing, and asking for lunch s houldn't be something you dread, or feel like he's giving you a favour by letting you eat.

Pack snack foods, things you can eat on the go. Always be munching ... drops in blood sugar promote nausea.

What are you going to do when you have the baby? I'm sorry to say, but you're going to have to insist on a normal work schedule probably. But by then you'll have been there a few months, might find things easier, and will be more established and 'safe' in your position.

Best of luck! Hang in t here!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Believe me, you CAN quit this job.

Having one income is not "harmful." You and your husband need to just adjust your lifestyle and live a more frugally so that you might be a stay-at-home mother and focus on giving this child (and yourself) all the care it needs.

My husband and I have 3 children and we've been living on 1 income ever since we were married. He makes about $40,000 a year right now and we are comfortable.

It sound to me from your question that you are at the breaking point, and believe me this job situation will not get better after the baby comes. Any job is going to have stress and deadlines and it's just not something you are willing or able to do.

Quit your job, find some peace and focus all your efforts on being a wife and mother. Your baby (and your husband) will thank you for your sacrifice!

Answer 4

here is my suggestion that was given to me:
1-slow down- take the time to do things correctly. i realize in a fast paced environment this seems hard, but honestly it helps because you take the time to do it corretly the first time, then you dont have to fix your mistakes.
2- make a TO DO list- even print one for things you have to do the following day- so when you come in you already a in mind what needs to be done- then everytime you have to do something, whether its sending an email or printing out documents, write it down! that way you wont forget anything no matter how small.
3- realize that people make mistakes. Accept it and move on! you are especially emotional right now but you need to grow your skin thick.
4- if there is something he asks for everyday, do it before he asks. be ready. bosses like to have other people think for them especially if its small.
5- make post it notes of how to do things. when i have to request an increase in credit for a client i have a post it on my desk that tells me the procedure- that way i dont have to think about it and i can just check things off as i go.
6- and this is important- BREATHE. thats the key to life, just breathe. when you feel stressed out, take a moment- take three deep breathes in through the nose out through the mouth. then refocus on the task at hand.

Good luck!!

Answer 5

I wish you luck in finding a solution (maybe talk to an HR person within the company about the issue and maybe that person can make suggestions), but I take exception to the posters declaring that you can live on one income when they don't know your circumstances. Trust me, there are parts of this country (I live in Connecticut) where two partners' salaries in excess of $100,000 barely allow you to pay the mortgage on a small house, buy groceries and pay insurance, taxes and utilities.

Answer 6

Ahh baby brain has set in. I had a serious case when I was prego.
Maybe you should tell your boss that you are pregnant. you don't have to tell him/her when you found out or anything.
Just try to write yourself notes to help you remember things.
Try not to work too hard.

Answer 7

Great advice here from Veritas which I would endorse whole-heartedly.