I want to have a baby but I am 17 and I dont know how young is to young?

Question

I am currently about to graduat from high school
I want a baby and so does by fiance but am I to young????

Answer 1

Graduate from high school.

Then get married.

Then have a baby.

Congratulations on your engagement! (P.S. You do not have to go to college or get a fabulous job. Motherhood is a wonderful job!)

Answer 2

Ok, seventeen years old and you want a baby already? Wow, I guess you are rich enough to keep and raise the baby? You at least have a good paying, fulfilling career job? And, you have money to rent or own a decent home for your child? You are ready to give up all social life, time with your friends, the opportunity to get to know your fiancee much better? You are ready for the medical expense for having the baby, or worse yet, to pay for any care which may result in a long term problem for you or the baby, before or after the birth? Are you ready to have to raise a baby that may have a permanent birth defect like cerebral palsy or some other kind of brain damage? Which means looking after that baby who will one day turn into an adult and need permanent care from the birth defect? Do you think you will be one of the lucky ones to have a healthy baby? That it will never get sick? Causing you to have to stay home constantly, however the bills still need paying? Is your relationship so stable and your fiancee so willing to have a baby right away? Because if he isn't, you are already having your first crisis in your potential life. Are your prepared to even having to raise the baby alone if your fiancee decides to split?

Really honey, it's obvious you are too young. Don't you want to enjoy your youth a while? Get a good education so that you can buy what you want, meet new people, visit exciting places? Is your self-esteem so low that you think a baby will make your life better? Please go and get some counselling dear. I don't think you are thinking straight.

YES, 17 is too young.

Answer 3

Yes, even though you physically are mature enough, you are not stable enough in your place in life nor financially secure enough. TRUST ME_ I had a baby at 19, and while I don't regret it, my life would have been far easier had the 'surprise' happened even 5 years later. I did get a college degree, I am remarried, have another child and own my own home- but all would have been easier without a baby that young. It can be done- but you give up your young adulthood for it. DONT DO IT_ if you guys are meant to be together, waiting 5-10 years is no big deal and will be better for your family in the long run. At 17, you're not even legally an adult-

Answer 4

Your body is still developing at 17 so its better to wait until you're older from a physical standpoint. Babies thrive in a healthy home where mom and dad have "grown up" enough to put someone else's needs first. Healthy relationships grow best in a committed long term relationship-MARRIAGE-which it sounds like you are neither one ready for. My advice to you is borrow an infant or a two year old from a relative for the week and then see if you still want a baby. Babies aren't toys or "things" available for our gratification. Do you have a stable, healthy relationship with both parents? If not, you will pass that dysfunction on to your unlucky child. Last but not least, diapers, formula and children's medical care cost a small fortune. Wouldn't you rather by buying clothes or jewelry? Do you really want to stay up all night with a crying baby when all your friends are at the movies? Look within yourself and ask "Why do I feel I need to have a baby?" Deal with the issues that surface and wait. The right thing at the wrong time is actually the wrong thing.

Answer 5

Yes, I think it's too young. You should enjoy being 17 and looking forward to having fun for the next few years first. Get some experience in the world and make sure you have a good job. Save some money, enjoy having time with your fiance together. I'm 22 years old and I'm starting to prepare to try and have my own child, but I had so much fun being married the last year and a half with my husband! Don't rush into it, there's so much time! Get a job at a daycare or something so you can be around children.

Answer 6

Well, you have to take several things into consideration. Yes, people a couple hundred years ago married and had children at your age, so physically it can be done. But people today live much different lives, and have a lot of different pressures and problems. You might want to ask yourself:

1. Is my relationship with my fiance solid enough to bring a child into it and form a lasting family? Will we be married before the child is born? There are too many children suffering because of broken homes where they feel unwanted by one or more parents.

2. Are we financially secure enough to care for a child? Delivery alone costs thousands of dollars, and what if there are complications where your baby has to remain in the hospital for the first six months of its life?

3. Will I be able to give my baby the care it needs? If you plan to dump your child in a daycare so you can work a $6/hour job, forget it. If you want to hang out with your girlfriends at the mall or local pool, forget it. Your baby needs your attention 24 hours a day. Don't have one if you can't take care of it.

4. What are the reasons that motivate me to have a baby? You need to analyze your feelings. Yes, you may love children and like babysitting, and you may feel that your life is ready for your own baby. But raising a child happens fast, and you need to know what you will do in every situation before it happens.

My advice is to at least wait until you are married. You need to have the support of your fiance and be able to discuss and agree on everything with him. I'm not telling you to wait five years, but please use common sense about the baby. If you can't put off your own desires for the better health and life of your baby, then you are too selfish to be a mother. I would wait another year, get married, and if your husband can support you so you can stay home and care for it, then GREAT! If not, please don't have a baby.

Answer 7

What I am about to say is from personal experience...please don't take this the wrong way, but listen to me. Take your time with the marriage first! Make sure he is the one you can deal with for the rest of your life. Once you have made that decision and get married, enjoy your life for a year or two at least. I was engaged at 17-18 and that didn't work out for me....it was best! Once I did get married I wanted a baby. All my friends were having babies and I wanted one of my own. My husband made me get depo for the first 2 years we were together. We got pregnant in October and are due in about 6 weeks. Now, although I am happy I waited before I got pregnant, and I love my baby already, I kinda wish I had waited a little longer. Once you get over the initial excitement of being pregnant it scares the crap out of you! (Or at least it did me) I am still scarred to death....Will I be a good Mom? Did I wait long enough? Should I have waited longer?
The main decision is up to you, whether you and your man think you are both ready for a baby, but I would advise anyone my age (22) or younger to seriously take a few years to enjoy their lives and their freedom. There is always time to have a baby...enjoy life while you can! :)

Answer 8

Almost anybody would say 17 is way too young, but it really depends on maturity level. You may be ready to be a parent emotionally, but what about financially? What do you want for your family in the future? Do you want to be able to provide a leisurely lifestyle for you and your child? Or just manage to get by. It's always smart to get an education to be able to have a well paying job that you will love.

Have you considered what will happen to you and the baby if your relationship with your fiance isn't as stable as you thought? Make sure you and your fiance know this is what you want. Plan for the future. It's better to prepare a life for your child by having a stable household, stable job, and stable family.

Is 17 too young? Maybe. But think about it for your future child's best interests. Make sure he or she would have the best life possible.

Answer 9

Yes, you are much too young. If you love babies, get a job at a child care center in the baby room (you can take the necessary classes at your local community college) or watch a baby in your neighborhood. Having a baby at 17 will NOT give the baby, or yourself, a good life. Having a baby right now will not fill any void you may be feeling; having a baby at this age will actually make it harder for you to succeed in life. It will also be hard for your baby to have a successful life as well. Soon you will want to go out with your friends, or go to college, but you will be stuck at home with your child. Having a baby is stressful even in the most secure adult marriages; it will probably destroy your relationship with your fiance as well. I cannot urge you strongly enough to wait to have a baby. If you truly love for your future child, you will wait.

Answer 10

Yes you are too young. I am 31 and have 3 kids, pregnant with #4. I started at 25. I remember thinking that I wanted kids when I was your age. After actually having them I'm soooo glad that I didn't. It is life changing. In a good way, but it isn't all the fun stuff you see. There is more to it than dressing them up and smiles and games. There is crying, diapers, illness, endless amounts of time and energy, you need to devote your life to a child.2 of my children have been very ill and required hospital time and surgeries, since you can't choose what you're going to get I would wait until you were mature enough and certain you're ready to dedicate you're life to another person. When you are old enough however, it is very worth it.

Answer 11

Kinda yeah but if u feel ready then go 4 it! I got preg at 18 not feeling totally ready but once ur baby is born u grow up so much!! I now hav a 3 year old son, 17 month old daughter an im 8 weeks pregnant. I dont regret any of it!! Being a parent is actually one of the most rewardin things in the world!!! Gud luk an i hope u *** 2 the rite decision xx