Why all of the SUDDEN??

Question

...Some relationships are good when boyfriend and girlfriend, but as soon as they start living together, months after they end up hating each other.....even when they had an excellent relationship before

Answer 1

When you live with someone it does test how much you really love this person. All the little things that you never noticed or thought were cute (i.e. like socks on the floor and clipping your toe nails in the living room) will now become an annoyance. This also has to do with the fact that the longer you are with someone the more the love will grow into a more mature one. The novelty will wear off and this person will now seem like everyone else except you still love them. But now you can see all the little annoying things you use to accept. It isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes we just want to hold onto that new love feeling and when that changes we get grumpy and angry. Embrace it and try to laugh with each other. Also let them know when the little things bug you and compromise on it. WIth out yelling.

Cheers,

Answer 2

Dating each other (but living separate) is totally different than living together. Living together is the ultimate test for a relationship. When dating each other but living separately, you don't know the little things about your partner and vice versa. Here's an example, let's say the girl's biggest pet peeve is guys leaving the seat up. And she doesn't know that when the male is at his own home, he leaves the seat up. She doesn't know this. She thinks he's the perfect guy. And this isn't a question you talk about when you are dating.
Then, when they live together, the female now sees that her man leaves the seat up. This peeves her off, but she lets it go for the moment. Then, little things start to build up. Her patience is wearing thin. Next, things that didn't bother her in the past all of the sudden bother her now. It's because she can only take so much. Then, fights happen, then grudges, then breakups. It happens all the time. You really don't know your partner until you live together. Here's a suggestion. Always live with your boyfriend/girlfriend before getting married. Living together will give you a taste of what it's going to be like before you actually get married. If you can't live together, you can break it off with no attachments of marriage.

Answer 3

There could be an outside source causing the problem. Alot of relationships fall apart because of Financial stress. Usually it is some sort of stress that just builds up, and unfortunately we take it out on the one we love the most. There could be some other factors as well. A lot of times we don't "know" how the other half lives. When seeing someone 24/7 you see a lot more "flaws" and little things might bother ya. When it comes down to it though, usually there isn't just one reason.

Answer 4

That's why that's a good choice to go and live together instead of getting married. You get to know your limits, what would you give up and what you won't (the common problems on the first year of marriage)... it looks that nobody has a commitment with the relationship and without commitment relationships don't grow. Think about that as the best that could happened for both.

Answer 5

Before people get married they always have a way out and their partner knows this. Therefore they always "behave" themselves knowing that the other person can leave at any moment. However when a marriage comes into play, they both start to let "loose" so to speak and let their hair down. They both think nothing is going to change now that they are committed and well, yea they realize they are locked in.
Some people also think that if they get married it will fix whatever issue they may be going through at the time only to find out the problems remain only this time...ITS FOR LIFE!!!

Answer 6

Its not all of a sudden ...Sometimes people grow to love each other more than ever . Alot of times... to see this look back ...Did you go head over heals in the beginning???>>No then your relationship will grow ...If it starts out slow it can create a bond and connection that will grow stronger w/ time..... Why...b/c you see the person on the inside and not whats on the outside...... Some relationships last a lifetime when they r nurtured...

Answer 7

Because they thought they were living in a fairy tale. The reality of every day life....ups and downs, personal habits, etc. aren't what they were signing up for so it's no surprise those types wind up hating each other. This is the reason it's important to grow up and understand what real life is all about.

Answer 8

Living together takes work, emotional maturity, and the ability to compromise: qualities that are sorely lacking in most members of today's instant-gratification society. Learn to consider the other person's feelings once in a while, or doom yourself to a life of miserable loneliness.

Answer 9

People forget to be friends first, They have a vision how things should be and when that vision isn't met, they feel they made the wrong decison, instead of going with the flow and taking things as they come, No communication, and immaturity.

Answer 10

i think seeing the person you love so much is hard and starts to get annoying but it takes time to get used to waking up to the same face everyday. relationships are usually good when you haven't seen the person you love so much in a long time