Senario - A woman who is interest in you tells you point blank how she feels, well more like shows you (kisses you) you kiss back. However, due to her being married, you advise her that this might not be the best situation to get started. Things continue on picking up pace as time goes on. You admit to her daughter that you care about her and would treat her better than she was being treated by her husband. You bring her and her daughter presents, look out for both of them. You tell her things like there is nothing you wouldn't do for her. Things progress until finally the both of you can't control things anymore. One thing leads to another, and you end up with eachother one night, even though you know that there is a good chance of getting caught. & do. Now, she is being kept from having any contact with you, but she tries. You have backed off, but still smile and light up when you see her. Have you given up or are you just being respectful waiting for the right time?
2007-06-01 10:08:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Addition - the marraige is a bad one, there is no love anymore, only fights. Husband is controlling and manipulative. I am in the process of trying to divorce my husband, but he is extremely violent, and have to worry what he will do when he gets the papers. He has already threatened to kill both of us.
2007-06-01 10:19:59 · update #1
I'd wonder where babies come from.
2007-06-05 08:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want a guys answer and if I were I would say the same thing.
I think you are being respectful by waiting for the right time. You need to back off while she has choosen to remain with her husband. You have made her aware of how you feel and were you stand with her. Now it is up to her to make a decision. Divorce is never easy and it may take some time for her to do or consider this. She also has alot of time, love, money and family invested in her relationship with her husband. However, if this is not the right person for her she will relize this on her own, no one can make that decision for her.
Just don't waste your entire life waiting for her. Even if it breaks your heart to moveon.
2007-06-01 17:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasn't left her husband by now guess what you're being a schmuck and to her are no more than "Pablo the pool boy" with emotional support.
She is MARRIED. Until that status changes to SINGLE she is a taken person. Tell her that and back off which means ZERO contact. If she contacts you, re-iterate that until she is single she is off limits to you.
This is the 21st century where divorces are so easy they can almost be dispensed from a vending machine so she has zero excuse for still being married if she truely didn't want to be and anything else you do just makes YOU the bad guy/homewrecker.
2007-06-01 17:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got the kid involved in this mess!!!
Adults can play with fire as much as they like, but the relationship a child has with their parent being father or mother is special that is something I think you haven't shown enough respect to.
If you really care you need to tell this women to decide if she wants you or not and to do what is right. If that mean divorce fine or if that means ending it with you that is okay too.
2007-06-01 17:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move out. Get a restraining order against your ex. That way if he violates it you can have him arrested. Flie for divorce. Even if he refuses to sign you can still get one it just takes longer. Tell the guy you like to only come around when your daughter is not with you.
2007-06-01 17:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by G Money 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, it probably wasn't a good idea to get into a relationship with a married woman even if she's into you. Second of all, I think that unless she doesn't still love her husband at all, you should give up.
2007-06-01 17:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how appealing it may seem... a married woman is not available for a relationship. Let her go until she makes the adult decision to leave her current marriage. Until she does that she is only really playing with you. Sorry, friend, but I think you deserve better.
2007-06-01 17:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's smart he has given up, I for one would never want some jealous pissed off husband coming after me. Do him a favor and leave him alone and get your own house in order.
2007-06-01 17:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to get the kids involved in the affair.
I dated my hubby before he was divorced, but at least kept the kids out of it. Not right.
2007-06-01 17:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by Luvitall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's so in love with you, why hasn't she left the husband already?
You're a boy toy.
2007-06-01 17:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are definitely being respectful and waiting for the right time.. what if she realized it was a big mistake... the guy should wait and see
2007-06-01 17:12:22 · answer #11 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋