My fiance paid off his debt(10k) with the bonus(13K) he got from work.Now this makes sence and leaves him with 3k.We have been engaged 2yrs waiting for his money situation to get better so we can get married.He talked about having a cheap wedding/honeymoon(like 5k total) and i told him i would pay for half of everything(which is only fair) so he would not get in debt again.Well instead of saving the 3k for the wedding/honeymoon he went out and spent 2k on a gun(he all rdy has 2) and i feel the other 1k will disapear too.How can he tell me he wants a cheap w/h then go out and spend that kind of money on gun?When we get married we want to get a house/new furniture too.now i have some money but i don't feel i should be the only one paying for everything(wedding/honeymoon/house)I have talked to him about putting money away together for these things but he does not want to.
2007-06-01 09:59:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
It sounds like your partner has the same problem a lot of us guys have. Some of us guys are afraid of marriage, the commitment that comes with marriage, and the various unsuccessful relationships that only go downhill after the marriage license is signed. I am not saying that your relationship will change or is not meant to be but the procrastination your partner is showing may be more insecurities about marriage and may have nothing to do with you or finances. We humans will act or do strange things in order to avoid certain subjects or activities so that we do not have to admit our insecurities.
Also, it might help to think about what you want versus what he wants. I have found in various relationships that when a person says, "we want", it really is "I want" or "he/she wants". Make sure you are both on the same page! I hope the best for you!
2007-06-01 10:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Caesar28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no person needs to consume $20 well worth of junk mutually as observing a action picture. end spending plenty money! you will experience extra proper and he won't experience like he has to furnish you a collection of money for stuff he does no longer have bought notwithstanding if he had the money for it. His Dad is giving him a automobile to force through fact he does not have the money to purchase his very own automobile.... the data stand for themselves. Your fiance` does not have any money. you're in love with a broke guy. Your determination. It expenses extra money according to individual to bypass to the force-in than the action picture tutor? No ask your self there are hardly ever any force-ins anymore! 50 greenbacks for 2 human beings to bypass to the force-in is insane. i'd bypass for confident. ok. So. Make an envelope for each kinfolk cost. the two one in each of you place an equivalent volume of money into the distinctive envelopes. while the gasoline money is long previous... not extra gasoline. while the grocery envelop is empty... not extra groceries. If the electrical powered energy or telephone bill is extra money than what's interior the envelope.. then you certainly 2 ought to regulate your use of those utilities. regardless of you cash smarts and ability to stretch a greenback... while the envelope is empty... it is done! next month you 2 can sit down and make up a real budget. yet neither of you ought to ought to proceed to shell out income the process the month which you do no longer desire to and is over the distributed volume budgeted for products. maximum couples have the cheap. and then they pool their money, divide what's mandatory, shop what's left over and make confident that the two persons have a month-to-month stipend of their very own to spend at will. a chosen volume that, like the envelopes, is empty while it is empty. it is problematical to stay such as you're married and nonetheless anticipate to be dealt with like a female chum he's dating and dating. it is complicated. He does not look to be attentive to it is predicted of him. good luck with it!
2016-11-03 08:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is selfish; he has his own priorities before your priority.. he thinks about 'me' before he thinks about 'us'; either that is his personality and that is the person you love and you will have to deal with it; OR, you find someone who will cherish you and work with you towards common goals... it also seems that the two of you are on separate pages; if he went out and dropped 2k on a gun and didn't discuss it with you then you can expect the same when he has more money etc... your life, your decisions.
2007-06-01 12:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by mrjoh2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a winner (scarasm intended). If it were me I would run far far away. It sounds like you will be paying for everything while he goes and spends his paychecks on whatever toy he feels he deserves.
Sorry!
2007-06-01 10:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now it will be another two years, and then another. Face it he does not want to get married. So your choice is live as his mistress, or move on
2007-06-01 10:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get pregnant!
2007-06-01 10:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋