Your method to restore communication.
2007-06-01 09:48:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
.....People argue because they have differing opinions, and instead of learning from each other, they try to prove they are right or persuade the other person to adopt their beliefs.
Since no one has all the answers, I recommend a different approach. Basically, it's about listening with an open mind to find out whether there is anything valuable in what the other person has to say.
And not just listening passively. Ask genuine probing questions to get a point clarified. Or ask why the person has this opinion...how did he come to have this opinion...what are the reasons for believing it is true? In other words, ask the other person for any supporting evidence they may have.
You do this not with the intend of disproving the other person or even of changing your mind. But just in the spirit of considering new information. In the end you can make your own call...accept their opinion as better than your own, or hold to your beliefs.
2007-06-01 09:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Arguments can be caused by a number of reasons, for example differences of opinion over a heated debate. The way to restore communication is to apologize if you think you were at fault. For example, you may say to the other person:
"well, i'm sorry, i knew i was carried out a little bit but let us reconcile since we have now cooled down", with a little smile on your little face.
If the other person just stopped communicating because you won the argument, you might invite them for some coffee, fings like zat.
2007-06-01 17:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arguments begin when people find they have different understandings and strong expectations from a situation. Once the quarrel has taken place, it is very hard to restore communication. One side must make a generous move. Actually, this can be quite disarming and charming for the other side, so it's a good strategy to try.
2007-06-01 16:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by lakelounger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is an activity that can be perceived from different angles. Not all of it is verbal stimulation. As you walk you communicate. You communicate with the earth each time you take a step. You have complementary interchanges with all aspects of material reality. Arguments are the natural response to problem solving individual brains who have encountered a contradiction and need to resolve it each for himself with help from others like him who have similar or totally different points of view. It doesn't even have to be an interchange with people we know. It could be strangers trying to understand some phenomenon that can be better objectified with another mind and in that arguments are understandable.
2007-06-01 17:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Argument can be caused by anything, but basically it's people clashing over one thing or another.
But if you want to begin communication, just avoid using "You did this" or "You said this", try to focus on how YOU felt. That makes it feel more like a discussion. Otherwise the person could feel like they are being blamed and become defensive.
Hope this helps!
2007-06-01 16:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by Russell L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's usually selfishness, hurt feelings or an inability to express what someone really wants.
making amends is a good starts as is, "we need to talk" and then being brave enough to get the words out.
2007-06-01 17:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by motorized vehicle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋