Does An Abortion Effect You In The future ? Does It Lower Your Chances Of Having Kids When Your Older ?

Question

Im Yet To Find Out If Im Pregnant Or Not But If I Am I Definitly wont Be Able To Keep It Let Alone Let My Parents Find Out. Im 16 And Am Far To Young To Be Raising A Child Of My Own. Plus My Boyfriend Says To Me 'Oh You Better Not Be Pregnant' 'Go To The Clinic' Like I Kinda Dont Think He'll Support Me And My Parents Definitly Wont! And My Boyfriend Refuses To Wear Condoms. Like im On The pill But Forget To Take It Occasionally I Try To Convince Him To Wear Condoms And He Has A Moan At Me Saying That I think Hes Got Germs Etc ?? My Period Is Late By 3 Weeks And Havnt HAd The Time To go Get A Test As My Mum Is Constantly With Me. We Work At The Same Job On The Same Shifts.

Any Advice ?

Answer 1

It could affect you if something goes wrong with the abortion. Many abortions are performed safely and effectively though. It's always hard to say. You need to stop having sex until you or your boyfriend become more responsible. Obviously you are smart and realize that there is no way that you could take care of a baby alone at 16 so be smart about the sex too. If he refuses to wear a condom, then there will be no sex. I'm sure he'd change his mind quick. You need to be proactive too and remember to take your pill. If you don't, this will keep happening and you can't keep using abortion as a form of birth control. It will damage you for sure, physically and emotionally.

Answer 2

I'm sorry honey, but, you are going to either tell your mom or go to the clinic or your doctor alone. And, you have to do it pronto. Don't wait. The longer you wait, the bigger the fetus gets and the more involved the abortion. Since your boyfriend is unsupportive, I'd hope you have learned a valuable life experience. A true relationship involves taking responsibility for your actions. He is immature and not worth being with him. In fact, get rid of him. You are going to have to grow up quickly and be an adult. Do the right thing. Get to the clinic or tell your mom.

Every invasive procedure done on one's body involves a measure of risk. While the odds of having permanent damage from an abortion is low, it's the mental damage that's going to make you pay the price for your carelessness. Never, ever, have sex with someone without taking preventative measures - go on the birth control, condoms and foam, or the pill and condoms. Do this with every man, until you are in a secure long term relationship - called marriage. A man who loves you will want to be with you during thick and thin. Please get rid of that *** for a boyfriend. He's bringing you down to his level.

When you get to the clinic they will give you counselling. Please listen and learn.

I'm sorry you may have to go through all this alone. Maybe you could go talk to your church pastor/priest, if you have one? Do you have a friend you can trust explicitly.

Answer 3

This site should help to answer some of the more difficult questions about abortion...

http://www.afterabortion.org/physica.html

Personally I am not a fan, I believe that there are too many deserving families who have found that they cannot conceive/have a child and would rather have someone else's than see them throw it away.

Obviously she isn't everywhere with you or she would have been there when you had sex. Take a test, and talk to a doctor. That is the best advice I can offer.

I personally don't understand fearing getting in trouble are more scary than terminating a life within me. Your parents and boyfriend will just have to get over it!!! If your pregnant your pregnant! If you want to keep it and can care for it, do so, if you decide you don't want it at least give it to someone who does!!!!

Answer 4

An abortion, if done correctly, will not have any lasting effects on having future children. It will, however, effect you mentally. You will always have that little bit of you that says "I wonder what if" If you can handle the thought of having an abortion, and are willing to have the "stigma" that is attached to a girl that has had an abortion, then I say do what you need to do.

Watch some videos on the procedure, so you know what you are about to undergo. Watch some videos on adoption. Talk to some people that have done both. Listen to some children that have kept their babies.

You will find that there is going to be people that think it was a good decision, and there are people that think it was a bad decision, no matter what they chose.

Answer 5

Please think this thru before you make a decision...there are many women out there who would love to raise your child because they are unable to have thier own. Your parents will be disapointed but they will get over it because they love you...they will respect you if you have a plan.

There are risks asociated with an abortion. They will do what is called a D&C where they dialate your cervix and evacuate the uterus. It is painfull, you will have crampy-ness afterwards...I know this because I had a miscarriage and had to have it done because my body did not do the job for me. The risk is you could be left with some scar tissue that later in life could prevent you from becoming pregnant. If you do not have a reputable and careful doctor your uterus could be punctured during the procedure.

I am not trying to scare you and your decision is your decision...I am just trying to give you the facts as I know them. I do know someone who had an abortion due to an abusive spouce and she has gone on to have 3 children.

Please consider your options...there is a great orginazation out there called Project Cuddle that could help you make your decision http://www.projectcuddle.org/default.asp

Answer 6

I think it's not so much about age, as people mature differently. More about the maturity of the person and also the maturity of the relationship. If teenagers do it for a trend then that's stupid but if they love one another and want to experience sex that's fine. I was 15 and my husband 18 when we began to have sex and it was wonderful. Itg's just a normal part of a relationship. But everyone is different and ever elationship is different.

Answer 7

Not usually, but some women come out of an abortion sterile, and at least several hundred women have died as a direct result of post-abortion hemorrhage and/or infection. Abortion has also been shown to significantly incease a woman's likelihood of developing breast cancer.

A huge number of women also develop mental/emotional problems from the guilt of knowing what they have done. Many have lost their jobs, and meaningful relationships have fallen apart. More than a few women have become suicidal. It's a tough decision now, but if you choose to go through with this and have your son or daughter killed, you will have to live with the effects of that decision, physical, emotional, and spiritual, for the rest of your life. Choose wisely.

Answer 8

If you are pregnant, you may be the answer to a loving couple's prayers!! A couple who happens to be childless.A couple who may be more than happy to pay your medical bills. From a medical standpoint, an abortion effects your body and your inner being. I just spoke to a beautiful 21 year old who tried to commit suicide on the due date of the baby she aborted a few years ago. Her decision was permanent-but one she now regrets. Another friend in her 50s just met the son she bravely gave up for adoption 30 years ago. They are buidling a wonderful relationship and both of them are absolutely thrilled. Your mother may or may not be supportive of your decision, but the decision is yours-and so is the consequence. Your boyfriend could choose to walk away if you are pregnant, but you cannot. It is an awesome feeling to hold the power of another's life in your hands, and it is a grave responsibility, one you may not be ready for. Adoption is a wise choice for many ladies in your situation. Worst abortion case scenario-you could die from the procedure. My friend had to have a hysterectomy after an abortion(means its now impossible for her to have children) and pelvic infections are common after abortions. These infections can usually be treated. But no doctor has come up with a pill to take away the regret, pain and guilt that many young women feel as a wound in their souls as their arms ache to hold the babies they aborted, as they wonder what the baby looked like. Please be careful, dear girl. And if you're not pregnant, know that 1 in 15 teens already carries an incurable sexually transmitted disease. If your guy can't deal with condoms to protect your life, maybe you need a guy who cares more for you than he does for a temporary thrill.(No matter what he says, nobody ever died from lack of sex.) I have a feeling there's more to you than just your body. Also, there is an injection you can get 4 times a year to keep you from getting pregnant, if you forget to take the pill. Treasure yourself and live wisely. You are a gift to this world.

Answer 9

DUH!!!.If you cant remember to take your pill, get on the nuvaring, or implanon or mirena, otherwise your going to be in this mess again. And I suggest not getting an abortion cuz thats really bad not to mention you'll have the wrath of God on you since you'll be a murderer. You need to just come out and tell your parents, it wont be as bad as you think.

Answer 10

you need to talk to your mum about this you should not go through it on your own
i have to say your boyfriend sounds like an idiot wont ware condoms well then you should say no sex hes not worth it if hes not prepared to stand by you it takes two
abortion wont affect your chances but make sure that's what you want don't feel like you don't have a choice because you do your parents might surprise you
the longer you leave it the worse it gets